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@MrsChampagne that second FRER line is pitch black!

@tiramisu yeah, I read in TCOYF that many women just don't meet the hormone threshold to make them read positive even though they are in fact ovulating--maybe you're one of them, too? Did you get any lines at all on the wondfos this past month, or were they just blank? Mine were totally blank, then last Saturday, suddenly all day they showed color (this is also what happened to @Dr. Pepper), but only probably about 80% of what I'd call a true positive. Then I ovulated Sunday, and by Sunday morning they'd gone back to very light (I suppose because the LH surge to incite the O was over by then). On Monday my temp jumped up, so I knew I'd already ovulated. Anyway, I wonder if temping won't affect your husband feeling pressured that much, because all it really does is confirm to you what *already* happened. Unless he's a super light sleeper, you could temp before he even wakes up? the one I use is the $7.50 MABIS one from Amazon, the beep is pretty quiet. I give it a B+.

@tiramisu @nutella @LovelyPlum mostly all I hear about breastfeeding is that it's painful, difficult, and time-consuming, but this sounds really great. well, minus the starvation-negating-everything part. @nutella thanks for the translation that's a LOT of weight. I know, I know, if I eat cookies (my version of chocolate) then the gym is pointless that day--it's really an either/or, isn't it? Fingers crossed we all get knocked up and the weight issue starts all over again

@mrschickpea: I'm sorry - no real advice as haven't used the strips but I'm sure someone here can weigh in.

@Applesandbananas:
@MrsChickpea: oy, that's so disappointing, I'm sorry. I wonder if the infection just screwed things up this one time... I've heard that if your cycle goes too long, the lining just kind of gets too heavy and can't sustain itself, so maybe that's why your LP was short this time? Your typical 13-day LP is really great--hope it's back to normal after this. xx

@LCTBQE: thanks for the response! weird, i haven't been getting my email reply notifications from HB. I think maybe you have to put the colon after the persons user name? Not sure...i don't really know too much about the tech stuff on HB.
That's interesting that your wondfo went from blank to almost positive and then less color after O. Good thing you were temping so you could confirm. When I started using my wondfos this month, they had some color for a couple days and then way lighter the next day. So maybe I just don't have enough hormone to register a true positive like you mentioned. The some color days on the wondfo did match up with my "peak" days on my cbefm. I hadn't really been trusting my cbefm, but maybe it is working after all hehe. Thanks for the tip on the thermometer. I ordered it and hopefully I can discreetly temp. DH and I wake up around the same time but maybe I can get up a little earlier and take it. It's a little hard cause he thinks if we get pregnant it should just happen naturally without keeping track, etc. That would be easier if there was a lot of BDing going on, but with life and a toddler that just isn't happening (sorry for the tmi). Phew sorry for the novel.

@mrschickpea: oh no, sorry you're having cycle confusion too. maybe the LP was just short because of the antibiotics? Mine was really short too this month...i started spotting at I think 6dpo. I was meaning to try B6 after O but I was so confused whether I Oed or not that I totally forgot to take it. If you normally have a 13 day LP, I'd say it's probably just thrown off this month due to the UTI. Hugs, hang in there. I know it gets so discouraging as the months past. Fingers crossed next month is our lucky month!

@marley: I'd trust the CB Advanced and symptoms on CD 16. Maybe FF puts too much emphasis on temps for figuring out O? It is confusing and frustrating when everything doesnt match up to show a clear O date. My wondfos and Cbefm not matching up was making me crazy haha.

@tiramisu: just wanted to add that yep, you have to have the colon after the user name to get a notification. Or, you can just use the reply button. But if people aren't getting notifications, check your settings!

@WinterBee: I'm so sorry for your loss.

@tiramisu: is it working now? Sorry, I'm new to HB and am a bit of a luddite when it comes to these things I paid XL attention to my thermometer after I told you about mine, and it is quiet as a mouse. So many people have the "it should just happen naturally" philosophy! I wish there was a pamphlet to give them explaining that it's not that simple. Like the Handbook for the Recently Deceased from Beetlejuice, but for fertility. I don't know how anybody who works and has a toddler has time to shower, let alone procreate.

@marley: sounds like FF is wack. But you're almost ready to POAS anyway at this point? The cramping sounds a little nerve-wracking. That combined with the temp drop happened to me the month I got my BFP and the other months I was keeping track in almost identical measure

@WinterBee: so sorry to hear that

@marley: good luck for when you do test!

@LCTBQE: I might be reading too much into the "dip." It's probably just normal fluctuations? Is .2 even a dip? Anyway to you too! When are you testing? I thought you were just one day behind me.

@WinterBee: I'm so sorry for your loss.

@LovelyPlum: thanks! I wasn't real sure how it worked.

@LCTBQE: yup, I think it's working now. I got the email notification. No worries, I'm fairly new to HB too so don't really know what I'm doing either. Good to hear the thermometer is quiet. I'm excited to try it. Good luck later this week!

@marley: Fingers crossed for you! Hope its implantation cramping. Sorry to hear your DD is sick. Taking care of a sick toddler and going to work is rough!

Just thought I'd cross post here and see what you guys thought of these squinters!

@Applesandbananas: I can't see anything but I never do see squinters!!

@WinterBee: hang in there. I don't have much to say other than that this is super stressful and "outsiders" have no idea what we're going through! and we can't talk about it! not even with friends. I think that's what makes it harder too.

@Applesandbananas: I'm no good at reading wondfos but I think I see a shadow of something in the FRER! Post a pic again tomorrow!

@Ajsmommy: good luck next week! I decided to wait until tomorrow to test. I got my peak on the Clearblue late in the evening so I'm thinking I'm in between 9dpo and 10dpo right now. I did stock up on FRERs though. I have like 9 of them waiting for me!

@LCTBQE: looking forward to good news from you tomorrow!

@marley: don't worry, early days yet! @Applesandbananas: I actually think I can see a super squinty line on the frer where the second line should be! It wouldn't pass my DH's eye test, but i think def re-test and show us!

@LCTBQE: aww man! Negative test suck b@lls!!! Seriously, I never realised how crap they were until I started getting them

What dpo are you? I don't want to be the heralder of false hope, especially if you can feel AF coming on. I also get teary and emotional, even more so than the rest of the month (poor DH!) so I empathise.

I know what you mean. Pre-ttc I think I felt like it just happens. And I finally understood why ppl said they are 'trying for a baby' - not that any of my actual real life friends would ever say that! We live in a super modern closed off culture where no one talks about that stuff! Like literally, will see friends & they will not mention anything about vague plans but then next time I see them they'll totally be pregnant and in the second trimester. So weird! Probably not that close friends now that I think about it? I'm totally rambling but just wanted to shout out to say o feel ya girl!