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I'm closing in on 30 and still walk into my mom's bathroom for something if she is going to the bathroom, in the shower, or in the tub. Myself, she has come and got my son out of the shower when I'm at their house to dry him off and get him dressed so I can shave my legs or finish washing my hair or whatever.

Now my dad on the other hand I have no memory of ever seeing him in anything less than shorts and no shirt. I would say the last time my dad saw any of us girls naked was when we didn't need him to wash our hair anymore. Honestly I think I remember telling my dad he couldn't wash my hair anymore and only mom could. I would say I was 6 or 7, not sure.

My son is just over 2 and still showers with me or my husband, and sees us get dressed and undressed. I don't know how long this will go on, but I don't forsee it stopping anytime soon. I'm thinking there won't be any reasons for me to see my son naked once he showers and dresses on his own... But who knows.

I'm not comfortable with anyone but DH and nursing babies seeing me naked. I don't think it's inappropriate for really young kids, it's just... not my thing. Plus, not being dressed (or being dragged out of bed in just my undies) makes me feel kind of messy and unkempt. I feel too messy as it is

As for the kids, I think when they're old enough to bathe alone they can ask for more privacy. Right now running around naked doesn't seem to bother the five year old, or the two year old... they actually have a running joke where they'll troop into the kitchen naked at bath time and do a little dance, while we're going crazy trying to herd them back into the bathroom.

I wonder about this too. I figure when it gets uncomfortable for one of us it's time for privacy. I dont have a specific age in mind.

My kids are 6 and 3 and are definitely not bothered by their own nudity. They shower together a lot. When older asks for privacy she can have it. We just talk about dressing appropriately away from home for now and private areas and such.

I’m pretty self conscious and just don’t want to be naked around them, but as a SAHM I often take us all to the bathroom together, so they see some of it. And I’ll soon be nursing a baby so they’re going to see that. My only real concern is that my 3yo (who weaned himself at 13m) still really loves my chest and might be too interested

DH is way way less body conscious than me so he’s frequently around in just his boxer briefs but I think we’re at the point where my 6yo girl doesn’t need to see him totally naked even though she sees her brother’s penis regularly. The boy is interested in daddy’s equipment for sure! We have a big shower so lately dh helps them shower wearing shorts.

I don’t see it as a certain age but just a judgment call when/if you feel like changing it. Every family is different!

@Ajsmommy: Same about my expectations before having kids. I think the whole pregnancy/ childbirth / nursing thing made me less uptight about modesty.

My parents never walked around naked. I think I accidentally saw my dad naked once when I was maybe 5, and everyone freaked out.

In our family, we don’t cover up or hide nakedness. I mean, we also don’t lounge around on the couch naked, but the kids see us naked when showering/getting dressed all the time. And my kids basically just run around in undies at home since it’s so hot where we live. My kids are now 7 (boy) and 4 (girl), and I currently don’t feel like my husband or I need to change anything. Being naked is just normal. I will, of course, absolutely respect my LOs’ privacy when and if they want it, but for now, I’m glad we are all comfortable. Also, my kids shower together almost every day, and it’s just normal. My son has gotten a little more interested in privacy when changing in public (like at the pool), and he’ll go in the bathroom, but he decided on that on his own (we lived in Europe until recently and it was NBD for kids to just change outside).

@Littlebit7: I think this is really cultural/regional, and I follow local cues. Where we live now, the locals are much more modest (many kids and women wear long sleeves and swimming leggings here, and I actually do too sometimes for sun protection, whereas before in Europe, it was a lot of scanty bikinis, top optional). But with topless beaches in some places in Europe, I wouldn't bat an eyelash at a tween going topless, and I imagine the parents would also not allow their child to walk around like that if it weren't ok. The city beach we used to go to had a whole nudist section, and it was actually very family-oriented, so my view is, when in Rome.

DD is 3.5. We don't hang out naked or spend a lot of time naked but she sees us both when we get out of the shower or are changing. We never intentionally hide. No immediate plans to stop for either of us. If/when anyone is uncomfortable (me, DH, or DD) we will stop. Sometimes she wants me in the bathroom with her when she goes and other times she asks for privacy. We try to respect her requests.

When I visit my mom I'll hang out the bathroom with her while she showers or she'll change in front of me. Doesn't bother me at all.

@Littlebit7: my LO is two and he’s never been semi or completely naked in public. If we are gathered at someone’s home we have always gone to a private area to change him, if changing in our car is an alternative to using a public restroom we will do that. Even when he plays with his water table in our backyard he had a shirt on.

@Ajsmommy: I follow my kids lead - I could care less if I am changing and my kids see me but DS started to prefer privacy (me seeing him and vice versa) around age 8.5. DD who is 7 likes to change in private but will let me see her naked when helping with bath/shower.

DD will walk in on me when I am peeing but DS will not.

DS will NOT let his little sister see him naked - he locks the door!

My DH has never been comfortable with DD seeing him naked.

@Mama Bird: +1, feel the exact same! I always feel like kind of a weirdo because I LIKE being dressed!! Haha.