Maybe I'm being over-sensitive or over-protective or something, but do any of you get those people who just CANNOT get over how (insert compliment here) your LO is and goes on and on and on about it?!? I mean, yeah, my kid is amazing ( ), but we have a few different family friends who do this (both grandmother aged) & it's really ALL they can talk about around us. It's just so annoying. Or there's the "I'm taking you home with me!" line that one of them used no fewer than 6 times just tonight. Ffs, lady, back the f off! I know you want to take my kid, but I will take you out if I have to.
I think I just needed to vent here because at the event we went to, I had to just grin & bear it & be polite to keep the festive feel of the event we attended.
Share your annoyances, please! I can't be the only one this stuff bothers, am I?
nectarine / 2180 posts
My biggest source of annoyance is when someone is holding my daughter and she is getting visibly upset, particularly after a round of pass the baby, and the person holding her says awww you must want your mommy but still hangs on to her. Like you just figured out the problem and the solution, give me my kid.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
MIL is like this. She thinks LO is oh so handsome, oh so smart, and oh so sweet. It’s annoying and even LO agrees. He now cries when we FaceTime with her and quickly tells her “bye.”
pomelo / 5563 posts
My mom does this, and it makes me nuts. "Wow, you're the smartest kid I've ever met!" Lady, he's four. He's a good kid, but let's not teach him he's a genius before he learns how to try at things.
pear / 1521 posts
My FIL is like this too, I can commiserate! It's like this is literally my own child and I can fully admit that they are not truly the best ever at everything, why not you?? I will say, as my LO has gotten older it has gotten better I think because they have more of a real relationship and can actually talk to each other.
nectarine / 2461 posts
We don't field this a lot, but I know several kids who have something distinctive about their physicality and that is all anyone will talk about. I have two nephews with bright red hair on my husbands side of the family. My mother met one of them at thanksgiving and went on and on about how he was "a true red"--maybe 15 or 20 times over the course of two days, eve after I told her to lay off she seriously couldn't stop herself from informing the parents how incredibly special the baby was because of this hair. His mom, my SIL, says she gets it many, many times a day from strangers and people he knows alike. Ditto with kids I know who are really big or small. I think people don't realize how annoying they are and think it's cute and affectionate to be like "oooooooh she's sooooo tiiiiny!"
honeydew / 7463 posts
My MIL will not shut up about my son. Repeats over and over and over. In the same conversation, and over the course of 3 years. My husband is already annoyed that she’s a repeater in general so he usually tells her enough and then she cries.
The other thing she does that’s highly annoying and repetitive is when she doesn’t see him for her weekly visit. Like if she goes TWO WHOLE WEEKS without seeing him she will go on and on about how it’s been “soooooo long” since she saw him and she wants me to report everything New he is doing and saying. I just reply in monotone “it’s only been two weeks, not too months, nothing has changed”. And she just keeps pressing and pressing. And is disappointed when I say nothing has changed repeatedly.
She also says her 2nd grandson (only 1yo) has “big shoes to fill” and if I was his mom (my SIL) that would fill me with rage. I don’t think she’s stupid enough to say it in front of them though.
honeydew / 7622 posts
Extreme praise for DDs looks/clothing makes me uncomfortable. She very social and not shy so she sometimes attracts more attention that I expected pre kids.
I have two gorgeous nephews with red hair and green eyes and fair skin. They get stopped everywhere- they love in a big city without a ton of kids. My mom has made weird comments when they misbehave that no one cares because they are redheads and everyone loves redheads 🙄
pomelo / 5084 posts
@GoGoSnoGirl: Firstworldproblems, right? But my mom does this - she is constantly saying that DS is the CUTEST, the SMARTEST, the BEST BEHAVED, the FUNNIEST of all kids on the planet and I'm like ... why the constant comparison? First of all, you dont know any other kids ...
persimmon / 1093 posts
When my daughter was born my MIL was OBSESSED with talking about each feature and who each feature looked like. Eyes, chin, forehead, wrists, etc. It drove me batty. She was less than one month old and was still all newborn squishy, you can't tell what features a kid has from who at that age!
cantaloupe / 6171 posts
Mil always asks me “do you know how cute she is?” Or “can you believe how adorable she is?” Like YES I do I’m with her all the time, of course I obviously love her and feel so appreciative. If mil was a millenial she’d prob be writing #blessed on everything
pear / 1558 posts
@wrkbrk: oh, totally! I'm thankful she's showered with love, but I guess in all honesty my problem with it is, in our case, they are mostly comments on her looks and I agree she's so stinking adorable, but she's SOOO much more than that. She's smart, funny, kind, athletic, empathetic, and curious. I know they don't necessarily get all that with their short interactions with her, but they COULD in the time they spend gushing about her "angelic features", for example. Just ask her what she likes or did yesterday, she'd be happy to tell you all about it!
pear / 1558 posts
I'm so glad I'm not the only one annoyed by this stuff, you guys! Thanks for sharing.
pomelo / 5084 posts
@GoGoSnoGirl: Oh dear - yes a focus on looks is not good! Sometimes you have to shake your head at people.
pomegranate / 3230 posts
My dad is convinced my son is a "very advanced" Harvard-bound genius.
We are fortunate that he was a very verbal kid and started talking early, but I don't necessarily think that means anything in the long run. And anyway, I don't want my kid to rest on his "smart" laurels. I want him to apply himself, and his emotional development is just as if not more important to me than his intellectual development.
I am pregnant with identical twin girls and can only imagine the comments that is going to attract!
persimmon / 1079 posts
@GoGoSnoGirl: Family members in general. It’s annoying but I understand they are just so excited to have a nephew. I just tell them to calm down... it’s not that serious ha!
pomegranate / 3595 posts
@alphagam84: omg my family did that too! They had all these conversations about “well in this picture she looks like so and so but in this one more like such and such”. And always within their side of the family, not DH’s! which was especially ridiculous because she definitely favors his side.
I couldn’t handle it so when they would ask me I would just say “I think she looks like [her name]”. Ugh!!