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It worked out and she's very, very healthy now, but between 2 and 8 weeks LO barely gained any weight. She had plenty of dirty diapers so I thought she was fine, but looking back at pics she was so skinny

@littleblessings: Ugh so hard! We were able to keep up nursing with supplementing and pumping to boost my supply, but I was lucky with a supportive pediatrician and an LC (though she was super mean...)

@littleblessings: I'm sorry about the circumcision, that's so tough. You were doing what you wanted for him at the time, that is so a parent's call on getting or not getting a c, it's no one else's job to decide that one. Can they fix it or do you want to get it fixed?

I feel like I starved my kids for months. We were supplementing, but I don't think it was enough. I also regret not keeping track of their milestones or doing their baby books as we go along. I don't think I'll ever be able to catch up!

@littleblessings: I regret circumcising my son too, as it wasn't done well and he has a lot of redundant tissue. He basically has the appearance of an uncirced boy and we do just fine cleaning it and everything so now I don't know why we put him through it to begin with!

@hilsy85: Hugs. I'm thinking big baby thoughts for you. We waited longer than I initially waited. At times right now, I'm not sure I'm ready for the guy currently kicking me to eat something. I'm hoping that our age gap works for them. With our toddler have a bit of tough transition from one daycare to a center (daycare/preschool), I keep thinking we're nuts to be pregnant right now.

My only regret is the fact breastfeeding didn't work, however my child is healthy and happy and super smart, so it wasn't meant to be. I plan on trying harder with this one, but will not allow my child to lose weight/get skinny (we dealt with that for DD1 for other issues later on) just to "make it work." So I guess it's a 1/2 regret.

@hilsy85: Hugs. Let me know if you ever want to talk. We are about to start TTC for #2, and given my history it won't be easy.

I regret not feeding him formula in the hospital while my milk came in--he was slightly growth restricted and jaundiced. I then overcompensated until about 8 weeks by supplementing with pumped breastmilk. He looks unnaturally large in those days. I also regret not co-sleeping. I was always too nervous to do it, but it seems like such a sweet way to bond.

@littleblessings: Absolutely no bashing about your circumcision regret - but I wonder, do you share your story? I'd love to know that people with regret are sharing their stories to counteract the notion of 'it's always fine and great!'

I don't do parental regret too much, but I do feel bad sometimes that I don't have the energy to interact with my daughter as much as she wants. I'm an introvert, and she's an inquisitive, chatty person, who literally always wants to be questioning me about the whys of the world. I love that about her, but it exhausts me, especially now that I'm pregnant.

I have some big feeding regrets, but a lot of it is just misinformation and needing to learn my own body, not something I would have been able to really change.

My biggest regret is not getting the baby cuddles I wanted from L. I was SO worried about *ruining* her that I rarely let her sleep on me and made sure she was good at sleeping in her crib. The result was an extremely uncuddly baby who refused to ever lay or cuddle with me
I planned on not making that mistake with K, but being my second child I just didn't have time to lay around the house cuddling with her (since I had a very active toddler), so I missed out on baby cuddles again.

I regret our 2nd daycare choice. Had we thought properly about it, we wouldn't have moved her there. It was stupid of us and it's making the transition to her current daycare really, really difficult.

I thought of a couple more:

1. Not watching enough tv on maternity leave. For real, lol. I was afraid to expose him to the screen. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't have affected him, and now I never have time to watch tv. I guess I just wish I relaxed more on leave!

2. Worrying about his short naps from 3-5 months old. I know now that this is just a developmental thing and nothing can change it. I used to cry over it!

@raintreebee: @cascademom: thanks ladies. hoping it happens before the age gaps gets really big!

I regret not reaching out and getting to know other moms sooner! I love being around people, but at the same time new people really intimidate me. The loneliness of being a SAHM has been really hard on me, and once I was pregnant it got even harder because there was so little I could go do without feeling sick.

Caring too much about stupid stuff the first year of being a mom!

@autumnlove: Yes, this!

I regret being so obsessed over her schedule and trying to do everything by the book, like worrying about "creating bad habits" and using sleep props. I wish I cuddled and rocked her as much as my heart desired.

I really regret our breastfeeding journey, although I'm not entirely sure what I could have done different because I know I tried hard. I constantly wonder if I should have fought harder to not be induced. Maybe if I'd not been my milk would have come in sooner. I wonder if I should have pushed harder to find out about LO's tongue tie earlier, if that would have made a difference. I feel like most of our problems stemmed from low supply and I don't really know what I could have done to fix that but I hate hate hate that I had to give up breastfeeding her.

@Mrs. High Heels: @autumnlove: same here. I knew nothing about babies and listened to everyone else in the world, except my own intuition. I wish I wouldn't have cared so much about creating bad habits or doing everything "correctly".

I regret sleep training so much. Everyone told me I should, so I did, even though I didn't want to. I wish I hadn't done that. She slept well alone, but around age 2, she started to protest bedtime so much. I finally listened my gut, brought her into bed with me, and feel so much happier now.

I wish I would have done this 2 years ago.