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@MaryM: I would take as prescribed. You can also use jasmine I have heard. Cold compresses are good (avoid hot showers on your chest) and hand express for comfort of you need to.
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Update in case this is searched for in the future...
I ended up having retained tissue so had a D&C this past week. That solidified taking off at least 2.5 weeks. My doctor suggested I take at least a week off following that, so I won't be going back before next Thursday.
My boobs at least are better (thank god), but I'm getting sick of wearing a bra 24/7. I'm still leaking just a tiny bit, but at least there's no more horrid pain.
I did email my boss today to ask that if anyone in my office has questions, that they email them to me before I return so I can address them before I return to work so that I'm able to JUST focus on work when I get back. I planted the seed that I'm hoping to work somewhat independently and sort of be left alone. She should know by now (we've worked together for 9 years) that I tend to leave personal stuff at home and want to be all about work at work...but my boss lacks empathy so I figured I should put it out there. I'm just hoping to avoid totally inappropriate comments and questions from coworkers that I'm not really even that close to (I don't mind if work friends ask whatever...but I have some really inappropriate people in my office).
And of course my office door stopped locking right before I left work so I'm worried about them also just barging into my office and planting themselves there (yes, it happens)
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@MaryM: I'm so sorry you had to have a D&C on top of it all. When my son was stillborn, I had to have a D&C immediately after birth as my placenta wouldn't come out. Just makes recovery that much harder.
In my experience, a lot of people avoided me at work... some stopped by and said how sorry they were, some cried. People are going to say what they want- almost like it makes them feel better or something. But I think it's totally appropriate to say you don't feel like talking if you don't and someone pushes you or asks questions. Otherwise it's easiest to just say thank you. Can you put a sign on your door? At my office, a closed door meant do not disturb.
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@LulaBee: My doctor thought the placenta came out intact, but I ended up in horrid pain Tuesday and thought an ovarian cyst was torsing. It ended up being stuff left behind and I had to decide on the spot if I wanted to try medicine to get it out, or do the D&C then and there.
I HATE making in the moment decisions. But I wanted it to all be over with already...
In most places, I think a closed door is appreciated by most people to mean "I'm really busy" or "Leave me alone"...but I have a few coworkers with NO social skills whatsoever who don't think closed doors apply to them. I may contact facilities today to see if they can fix it before I get back so I can lock the door.
I agree that I think most people say or do whatever makes them feel better. I have social anxiety to begin with, so I think that's part of what makes the idea of dealing with people so uncomfortable to me.
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@MaryM: A firm "I don't want to talk about it right now" always does the trick. I have people at my work with no social skills, and found myself avoiding them.
Hugs to you, hang in there, take as much time as you need, and be kind to yourself.
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Unfortunately, the person I need to avoid the most works in the office right next to me. And I'm not sure if saying I don't want to talk will keep her away...
who knows. Maybe I'll get a miracle...
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I'm so sorry for your loss
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