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@bubblegum: I would say try it and see how it goes, but don't push. We tried to train LO1 over the summer before LO2 was born, and it did not go well. He was a little over 2.5. We stopped, had LO2 and tried again when LO2 was about 3 months old (LO1 was 3 years, 3 months then). It worked great then...so he just wasn't ready. Follow his cues. If it becomes stressful for you or him, stop and follow his lead.

@bubblegum: Well, at that time, he was more verbal, so we explained to him that we would be going on the potty. We went out and let him pick out character underwear, and we talked it up for weeks before we did it. He had a lot of accidents the first day and got upset with himself when he did. We explained that it was ok and we just change our pants. We didn't go anywhere that whole weekend (and it was a long weekend). So when he had an accident, it was totally fine. He started to get the hang of it after day 2 and by day 3, he only had 1 accident.

Poop was a different story. It took a lot longer and a full on standoff with him on the potty for 45 minutes. Not recommended haha...

Honestly, I'd wait.
2.5 is very early for a boy and you are dealing with a few other hurdles. I think you'd be setting yourselves and him up for failure.
If you really want to start, I'd go really slowly and not expect success for a while.

DD has very delayed speech and is behind in motor skills as well. In the end We waited until she could tell us she had gone or had to go. We tried around 2.5 because a lot of kids start then- but not all. and it was just bad. Her crying, me mad. So we waited. We got a couple books about going potty and left the little potty in the bathroom. But we waiting until she had a verbal word for potty (and a sign) and until she could physically realize she didn't like a dirty pull up. She wasn't potty trained until after 3.

Our first, now 6, was completely day/night potty trained by 2.5. Our second is ASD and it took him a year of preschool/ABA and our morning/nightly potty routine to get him completely potty trained one week before he turned 4. My goal was to get him diaper free by 4 and we got it! We got him pooped trained by offering an incentive (thomas mini) for every time he pooped on the potty. Now, whenever anyone poops, he tells them "you get a thomas mini!". My third is 2.5 and I'm not pushing it. He'll get there when he gets there but my goal is at 3 years so that's another 6 months away.

What really helped is the routine we set at home, pee when you wake up, pee when you go to sleep. School helped by taking him often and ensuring that he followed all the steps to the visual support. When he came home from school, ABA was onboard and had him go at least once during session. We have a kids potty seat in our bathroom because he wouldn't sit on the toilet for the longest time (probably because his feet didn't touch the floor) but over time, he's able to use the toilet anywhere else but at home. He still chooses to use the kid potty at home. Eventually, we will remove it once number 3 is potty trained.

But my son has a class mate who was completely potty trained at 3 and has very little verbal speech. So potty training can be done and it seems like your son is getting ready if hes taking off his diaper. Good luck!