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  1. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    We've had 2 pees in the potty!!! And 1 more accident. But now DS just wants to sit on the potty the whole day, which seems to defeat the purpose. He's down for nap now so we'll see what happens when he's up.

  2. lilyann

    nectarine / 2878 posts

    DS2 (2.5) has been in underwear most of the day but had 2 pee accidents while we were out and about. He's taking a nap in a diaper right now.

  3. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    @lilyann: how far into it are you?

    I'm going to call Day 1 a success. We ended with more pees in the potty than not and even got a poop in the potty! Most importantly DS is so proud of himself and excited to do it again tomorrow

  4. lilyann

    nectarine / 2878 posts

    @JennyPenny: It was officially day 1. We've tried underwear before but we haven't been diligent.

  5. ScarletBegonia

    persimmon / 1339 posts

    Pretty sure we're giving up. I'm only just joining the thread but basically it has been a disaster for us. Just want to lend support to those continuing and possibly commiserate with any other quitters!

  6. Banana330

    nectarine / 2317 posts

    @ScarletBegonia: oh no, why was it so bad? Day one was super terrible but it got better... still not where we hoped to be though.

  7. ScarletBegonia

    persimmon / 1339 posts

    @Banana330: Thanks, we've just been a bit all over the place, kind of 1 step forward 2 steps back, for the last 6 days or so. My son will be 3 in March. Day 1 was all accidents all the time, day 2 was better with at least catching the ends of some pees in the toilet, Day 3 (Christmas) we were in and out of diapers all day with travel and family with nice carpets they didn't want soiled (fair enough!). Yesterday was kind of barely okay and today, Day 5 (I guess?) he has done 2 gigantic pees all over the floor. It just doesn't seem to be clicking and everyone that has been through it already (family and friends) keep saying to wait until he shows interest. Whenever I ask him he is adamant he wants diapers.
    He's being moved up to the preschool room at daycare on Jan 23rd and is there 5 days a week, so I am thinking we'll put him back in diapers for now and go hard the weekend before that, and then let daycare use all the peer pressure they can inflict on him when he moves up with the big kids.
    Why is potty training so hard ??

  8. Banana330

    nectarine / 2317 posts

    @ScarletBegonia: we're kinda in the same boat pee isn't clicking but poop seems to. But she's 20 months and says no to diapers but seems ok with pull ups. I have heard it can be harder as they get older. It's so tough. Can he be bribed?

  9. gilmoregirl

    persimmon / 1273 posts

    @ScarletBegonia: It's really hard to change the routine. My son is a similar age (3 in April) and we tried once before and I gave up after a day. It was nothing but accidents and he was getting increasingly upset with each one. I just couldn't do it. We backed off but kept having him sit on the potty every night and a few extra times on weekends and he's gotten more and more familiar and successful. We are having a lot more luck this time. I'm convinced that backing off before trying again was the right thing for us. Does his daycare work on potty training him?

    How's everyone else holding up? We only had two accidents today, and one of those was more of a leak than anything else. Only one pee on the floor. It seems like it's going pretty well but I have a hard time with changes to routine especially since things were so easy with diapers. I have to bring him with me to a dr appointment tomorrow and I have no idea how to go about it! I'm looking forward to being a little further in.

  10. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    @gilmoregirl: Wow, going out in public. That's bold. Good luck!!

    We had a really good Day 2. Only 1 accident, and I think it counts more as "half" and accident. DS said he needed to pee, we went and sat on the potty, and he farted. He said "I did it!" but I was talking about how that was good, but it wasn't a pee and then he started peeing in his pants that I had just pulled up. womp

  11. gilmoregirl

    persimmon / 1273 posts

    @JennyPenny: omg, I reallllly don't want to. But I have no choice! Glad your day 2 went so well!

  12. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    We're on day 1 and we've had more successes than failures but it's pretty close. I don't think it's clicked yet though. I'm exhausted. Haha. I'm hoping day 2 is better!!

  13. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    Days 3 and 4 have been less good. DS is starting to resist and get angry when we ask if he wants to sit on the potty. He's holding it for a long time and then has an accident. No successful pees in 24 hrs

  14. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    @JennyPenny: oh no! Do u think it's a power struggle thing? I think I ask M too much so he started ignoring me when I ask. we started taking him every 1-2 hours to try. I also try to word it "tell me if you have to go potty" vs "do you have to go potty?" That way he thinks he's in control. Haha I dunno if that works but I read that in the 3 day potty training book.

  15. Mrs. Pajamas

    kiwi / 702 posts

    Glad there are others out there. Just had a very successful day 1 with DD (26 months). I was so bored staying home all day though especially since she didn't nap. I usually work full time so I'm not used to this and was dying for some alone time! I'm looking forward to trying a few small outings tomorrow like walking 2 blocks to the store for one or two items. Nervous about poop since we had one accident on the floor then lots of mentions of poo but none in the potty. I'm sure she'll poop in her diaper tonight. The oh crap book has been super helpful and I'm sticking to that method pretty strictly. Nervous for tomorrow though...and toying with the idea of an overnight trip to friends for new years. They also have a 2 year old familiar with the potty but is that ambitious for day 3? We'd have to do diaper for the 2+ hr car ride which is a bummer. Also super nervous for daycare on Tuesday...none of the other kids are potty trained.

  16. Peasinapod

    clementine / 770 posts

    Day 1 for us was yesterday. No pee accidents she seems to know when she needs to pee. She's 27 months. 2 poops in underwear, she's dissappointed when it happens but doesn't really try for the toilet. I think partially it's that she's used to pooping standing. What worked to get your los on the potty for poop?

  17. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    @kodybear: it is most certainly because we were asking too much. We backed off and tried "tell me if you need to go" like you suggested and had a very good afternoon.

    @Peasinapod: we caught one poop just because we were watching DS like a hawk and saw a funny face...

    We had a poop in the potty on day 1 but have had no poops at all since. I didn't read the poop chapter in Oh Crap but think I might need to soon.

  18. gilmoregirl

    persimmon / 1273 posts

    @JennyPenny: oh bummer. My son is resisting when asked but he has also started to tell us he has to pee. It's been going pretty well but I definitely do not want to get into a power struggle. The accidents are really hard to deal with -- just feels discouraging.

    We started Tuesday afternoon but had to go out Wednesday morning and had company Wednesday afternoon. I caved and put him in a pull up. So this is day 2 or 3 depending how you look at it. He's doing pretty well! But I'm going stir crazy after just two days at home. He WILL NOT sit on a big potty so I am nervous about leaving the house. Might try a quick errand following a good pee this morning?

  19. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    @JennyPenny: yay!! i'm glad the afternoon was better!! i stress out way too much and i notice that if i back up a little and try not to show my stress, M does better.

    we're on day 4. day 2 he had 1 accident with no underwear on, day 3 he had 2 accidents with underwear. today no accidents so far but hes only gone twice. it seems like poop isn't an issue so far... hes gone 3 times in the potty in the last couple days. i'm trying to transition him to the big potty in time for presschool on monday since they only have the big little potties there. hoepfully he does okay at school. we ventured out to costco and target and he stayed dry! so i think we're getting there... hopefully. my daughter had trouble potty training at school, but seemed to do fine at school. so i'm hoping M doesn't have the same issue.

  20. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    @Peasinapod: for poops for my daughter, i kept reiterating how we need to poop and pee in the potty. and try to catch her in the act and run her over. she got it after about a week or two. my son seems to be okay with pooping so far... we'll see though.

  21. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    @gilmoregirl: the last two days we went out after a good pee and he did well! i brought the potty insert just in case but we haven't had to use it. it was his first time with pants too so im proud of him! we'll keep practicing this weekend before he goes back to preschool on monday.

  22. gilmoregirl

    persimmon / 1273 posts

    @kodybear: I'm glad your son is doing so well! I need to just rip the bandaid off and leave the house. He's really good at telling me he needs to go and can go awhile between pees...longer than me haha especially at 34 weeks pregnant. I'm the one who's chicken!

  23. twodoghouse

    honeydew / 7230 posts

    Since we're finally done with holiday travels, we've been working on potty "training." We're not really using any established system, just making the potty available all the time, coupled with good old fashioned bribery (marshmallow or M&M for pee; chocolate kiss for poop). Man, will they work for a chocolate kiss! We let them have juice with lunch, which they never get, and they both (I have twins) pooped on the potty immediately after. They also both peed and pooped after naptime. Alice still insists on either a diaper or being totally naked. I'm not sure her aversion to undies, but we are rolling with it. She can take her own diaper off, so she just takes it off when she's ready to sit on the potty. Blake has been wearing underwear, but we are on pair #3 so far today. I'm feeling pretty good about their progress, though!

  24. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    We are starting this weekend! LO won't even be 2 until mid Feb, but shes been sitting on the potty regularly at daycare and has been super into it...we figured since we had 3 days with no plans and no school/work we would see how it goes!

    So far no pee on the potty though. Anybody have a trick to get them to actually pee? She will sit there, but nada.

  25. Mrs. Pajamas

    kiwi / 702 posts

    Ugh day 2 has been frustrating. Only accidents in pants but she's great with no pants. I'll keep pressing get on. Does it get better?

  26. gotkimchi

    nectarine / 2400 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: put her on first thing when she wakes up and turn on the sink water

  27. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    @Mrs. Pajamas: we had an increase in accidents when we added pants. I'm not sure how much of that is us being more lax too though, but it subsided shortly.

    We had our first adventure out tonight. Went to a restaurant for dinner. DS had is go to the bathroom at least 10 times, only one of which resulted in pee. But there were no accidents so I call it a win. We've now gone 4 days without a poop though... Not sure when to worry, but DSs regular doctor isn't open till Monday anyway...

  28. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    @Mrs. Pajamas: i had to do bare butt for both my kids the first 1-2 days then start to add more clothing. I think bc if They feel the clothing it reminds them of diapers/pull-ups.

    @Mrs. Lion: for ds I found that he really has to go before he'll actually pee. So he'll go 2-3 hours between pees. He just gets too distracted if he doesn't really have to go. So I did bare bum and have them try every 30 min-1 hr.

    @JennyPenny: yay! That's def a win! We went out too and M went pee once! I was bracing myself for an accident but I'm proud of him! Dd took awhile to poop too. Maybe try some raisins or prunes to get it going? Or fiber gummys? We did that to help her go

    We're on day 4 and no accidents today altho there was a bit of leakage but no full on accidents. So things are going well I think!

  29. Mrs. Pajamas

    kiwi / 702 posts

    @kodybear @Jennypenny thanks for the encouragement. So glad it's not just me. The rest of the day had some really big successes including a huge poo in the potty totally unprompted and waking up from nap dry. I was shocked! So just as I was beginning to get discouraged things turned around, just like the book said. We head to a friend's overnight tomorrow for nye so wish us luck!

  30. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    DS pooped in his diaper overnight. Not a potty training win, but I'm glad its all out

    @Mrs. Pajamas: We're dropping DS off at my parents overnight for NYE. Fingers crossed our LOs do well...

  31. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @kodybear: yeah, the going every 15 minutes is annoying her to death. im going to back off a bit. we just tried though and she didnt go and 5 minutes later peed everywhere.

    is this normal? or should we just give her a few more months?

  32. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: DS did this when he seemed to be frustrated with us asking too often and making him sit on the potty. I think he was sitting but not actually trying because he was impatient. We haven't had that problem since we backed off, so it could be worth trying.

  33. Mrs. Pajamas

    kiwi / 702 posts

    @Mrs. Lion I waited until my my DD started peeing, then put her on the potty so she connected the dots on day 1. Have you tried that? Otherwise I think it's too much to expect they'll just go if you sit them there. Good luck!
    @Jenny penny I'm kind of relieved there was a poop even if it was in the diaper. The poop chapter is helpful and totally reassuring that it will take a lot longer than pee.

  34. kodybear

    pear / 1616 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: I did the same as mrs. pajamas. The first day I had to catch him in the act of going, run him to the potty, remind him to pee in the potty, and also constantly remind him to stay dry, before he understood what to do. It took him about 2 days to fully get it. It's a lot of mess but I think that's how they learn the feeling of needing to go

  35. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @kodybear: @Mrs. Pajamas: oh good, so this is normal then. thats what we are doing! my son was older when we did this and already had practice so we didnt really have to do this part haha

  36. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @JennyPenny: yeah, definitely impatient. shes just lkke, how long to i have to sit here to get my animal cracker?? haha

  37. gilmoregirl

    persimmon / 1273 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: lol normal or not, I don't know but that's what it was like with my son when I gave up (back in August when he was 2y4m). I just didn't have the patience.

    Successful dry outing to a museum this morning! And no accidents yesterday including two poops. Feeling optimistic today.

  38. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: lol! I know the book says no bribes, but I think the most success we have is when we say "remember, if there's pee in the potty you get a treat!" Always gets us a better try and often a productive one

  39. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @JennyPenny: There is literally zero chance of this girl sitting on the potry without the promise of treats 😂

  40. JennyPenny

    nectarine / 2460 posts

    The past 2 days have been accident-free! We start back at daycare tomorrow and I am quite pleased with the progress he made over the holiday break. I'm going to call this endeavor a success!!

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