I just need to vent about potty training. I’m more of a lurker than a regular poster, but I’m hoping for some commiseration/advice/virtual wine 🤪

My LO just turned two, like a couple weeks ago. He moved into the small twos classroom at daycare. Life was good and potty training was nowhere near the forefront of my mind. I felt like I was in potty training hell with my first for nearly a year and I wasn’t looking to go back for awhile.

I started around 2.5 with my older son, using OCPT. It worked like a charm after a very loooooong Labor Day weekend of potty training. He went to a different daycare and they were fairly supportive. He was mostly potty trained until he transitioned to the three year old room. He had a lot of transitions around that time and it was just a mess. Also about the time, we had LO2. I’d say around 3.5, he was finally to a point we considered him potty trained (self-initiating, very rarely having accidents, etc.).

Sooooo I was in no hurry to potty train my second because ugh. I pick him up on Friday and daycare is like “he’s been doing great here, going on the potty, his diapers are staying dry, etc.” so I felt like hmmm maybe I should use this Labor Day weekend to do OCPT and roll with this, since the author is all about 2-2.5 being the best window and he’s showing so much interest.

Well, I tried. OCPT with another kiddo underfoot is kind of hard and DH wasn’t really on board. We also had events this weekend (I know, I know, I read the book but there’s never going to be a time when I don’t have events given that I have more than one kid).

So, LO ran around naked and went from clueless to I peed to I have to go pee. Nowhere near fully potty trained of course, but a lot of progress (also a lot of cleaning up pee but such is parenthood).

I bring him to school in underwear and shorts (loose boxers because my experience with daycare has been that they get really squiggly about commando, so it’s a nice compromise). They freak out and say they’re not sure about taking him to the potty every 30min to an hour.

Ugh. Just ugh.

I feel like maybe this isn’t how most people potty train? They seemed surprised he wasn’t in pull-ups. How did you potty train? What was your daycare’s reaction? When did you potty train? How long did it take?