Anyone have one? I don't really, but tonight I did one of those things that I've wanted to try but wouldn't do once I was pregnant/when I have kids - I smoked a cigar (fortunately, I'll be able to tell my kids that I tried it.... and trying it was more than enough. Bleargh. Hookah is OK, though, as a social event.)
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I didn't have a list. I figured I'd rather have a baby then travel the world... and I can always travel later in life with my kids. I'm pretty sure that's the only thing I'd really want to do!
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Mine was travel ... got a lot of good trips under my belt. But I still want more
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Travel was on my list as well, along with a spending a couple years with my husband, and paying off our debt.
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One of my friends who now has three kids told me that she wished she learned to cook better and had traveled more before having kids. I've already traveled a decent amount, so I focused my efforts on cooking. It has been a great hobby for me.
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i would really love to go white water rafting! the dude isn't too fond of that idea though. he doesn't like water much.. ha.
i figure anything we can do now, we can do once we have kids. if they can't come, our parents will take them no problem... in fact, they'll probably fight over who gets them.
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I didn’t have a set out list, but definitely had sort of “places” in my life I wanted to reach before marriage and before children. I feel like I make a better partner and will make a better parent the more secure and personally fulfilled I am, and the more interesting I am. So, that meant waiting until I was educationally stable (long finished with college and beyond), financially stable in a career with savings, owning a home, and just personally stable with a strong relationship and having accomplished personal goals.
I have too many acquaintances and friends that said “I’ll travel after kids!” or “I’ll go back to school after kids!” and none of them really have. Those things take time and money, which aren’t something you usually gain after kids – so I want to make sure I enjoy them before when its easier.
So…college, career, home ownership, travel, spend a lot of time with my husband without children, do all sorts of non-kid-friendly activities.
That’s my bucket list I guess…just making sure I put myself first when I could so I can put my kids first when I have them.
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@yoursilverlining: maybe it was the way i was raised, but i believe it's possible to travel and have those fun, unique experiences on a tight budget! it just requires more planning and creative thinking. we're poor now, and we still make those things happen, so i don't think that's going to change
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I think my list would have included travel (overseas), too, but at this stage of TTC (6 cycles in) I'm hoping I won't have too much time to work on the list :)! And, just remember, life doesn't have to end once you have kids. You just might have to work a little harder to bring 'em along!
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I had a few things...I wanted to get my license in my field, which I did; I wanted to visit California/Napa Valley, which we did; and I wanted to get in shape, which I did (although that's slowly fading away since I started a new job)...I didn't really have anything else. So now we're really focused on TTC--I figure most other things I would want to do can be done with baby in tow.
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We just wanted to be back in the US (were living abroad) and own a home. So we did both and then started a family. While living abroad, we traveled a ton so we conveniently got that out of our systems as well.
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I think I did most of the things I wanted to do before kids. Dh and I would have liked a few years togther as a married couple but we had,to get our skates on if we were to have kids at all.
Can I just say on the travel thing -do it now! I love travel and have spent the last 15 years seeing the world. We did an OS trip to the US with LO late last year. It was wonderful, exciting, exhausting, logistically challenging! You can do it but it is a compromise and you won't get to see as much as you would without kids. And that's ok. So see the world and then take the kids back to your favourite places.
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