A coworker just announced he and his wife are expecting baby #2... just lost my LO #2 (and had a D&C) a couple of weeks ago. I was really doing okay emotionally this week, but this feels like a punch in the gut.
Also, someone I know posted on FB an April Fool's pregnancy announcement. Just not cool, people.
Sorry for the vent!
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
nectarine / 2834 posts
I hear ya. I've had 2 pregnancy announcements due right at the same time as I would have been. It really does feel like ripping the wound open all over again.
GOLD / squash / 13576 posts
@Tidybee: @LulaBee: hugs to both of you
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
The April Fool's thing is really just not cool. I'm sorry you had to see that
pomegranate / 3917 posts
I deleted a friend off fb after an April Fool's announcement she did. No patience for that crap and clearly had never experienced a loss.
I messaged her saying congrats and blah blah, poured my heart out on our previous loss and how we were preggo again but keeping secret because of the previous loss, but omg we're due two weeks apart, la la la. She felt awful, I probably over reacted, but I was hurt.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
april fools announcements are tacky. talk about putting bad karma out into the world
pomegranate / 3921 posts
I feel you! This was WAY harder for me than I expected after I miscarried--I've been really surprised by how much announcements affect me. I was really worried about seeing an April Fool's announcement yesterday--this month is when we would have been due--but luckily, this year, nobody on my feed did one. (At least not that I saw.)
Hang in there, lady. Thinking of you!
pomelo / 5129 posts
I thought I was at a point where I was dealing ok with my MC...until a coworker came in with his newborn about a month later. I ended up locking myself in my office and sobbing. It can really be so hard!
I hope things look up for you soon!
pear / 1974 posts
Ahhh I've been there. I endured my ex boyfriend's pregnancy announcement and a very close friend's announcement on facebook the weekend i had my D&C - it was tough. Hang in there!
eggplant / 11408 posts
@Tidybee: @LulaBee: hugs, Mamas
bananas / 9229 posts
((hugs)) A coworker (been here 6 months) is pregnant but hasn't told us yet. She's definitely far enough along to be showing though. That was my final straw after 16 months and one chemical pregnancy... Thinking of you
nectarine / 2079 posts
So sorry for your loss.
pomelo / 5524 posts
I'm so sorry for your loss. I couldn't handle pregnancy announcements after my first miscarriage. It took us so long to get pregnant and then once I was pregnant, I miscarried. I was just so sad. The two months we took "off" in between TTC after that, I had 10 women on my floor in various stages of pregnancy. It was killing me. So I made my DH take me on vacation to a beautiful Caribbean Island.
The April Fools announcements make my blood boil.
pear / 1837 posts
Thanks, everyone. It's always so surprising to me how many women have gone through it before me... so now I'm thinking of all of you and sending you hugs.
@2PeasinaPod: I know a Caribbean Island isn't the same as a beautiful baby.... but it does sound like a good (and much needed) distraction! There are a lot of pregnant women at my work right now... I wish I could wear blinders!
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
@LulaBee: Big hugs!
A few weeks after I miscarried I found out that one of my neighbors was due on the same day I would have been, with a fourth child that she outright said she hadn't wanted. When my SIL told me I sat on the kitchen floor and burst into tears.
cantaloupe / 6791 posts
Big hugs!! Seeing that stuff after a loss is soooo hard. DH's cousin had a baby 2 days after my D&C and I pretty much had a breakdown. I ended up taking a FB break around the time I would have been due because all the baby announcements were too hard.
Oh, and the April Fools stuff pisses me off so bad.
apricot / 287 posts
I'm so sorry for your loss, I feel the same way, I have my d&c last week, things still feel kinda surreal, but the littlest things will set me off. Hugs, hang in there!
papaya / 10570 posts
Oh its awful isn't it. One of my FB friends had a surprise pregnancy just after my mc - it was really hard to deal with. Sending you lots of hugs.
watermelon / 14467 posts
I'm so sorry.
grapefruit / 4903 posts
pomelo / 5524 posts
@LulaBee: Blinders would have been ideal. It's just hard to face day after day. Sending lots of love your way