Pregnant after IUI and can't stop worrying!

By AbbyCadabby Feb 17, 2013

I just found out that I'm pregnant after our last round of IUI. The initial beta on Wednesday had a level of 202 and then it went up to 596 on Friday, which the nurse said was great. I want to be excited but for some reason, I just can't get past the worry. I know that at my age (I'll be 40 this year), I have a higher risk of miscarriage and I keep thinking that the pregnancy will just "disappear" and I won't even know it until my first ultrasound in 3 weeks.

My husband is so excited and wants to talk about it all the time but I won't let him because I'm afraid it will 'jinx' it. I know this is completely irrational but I don't know how to relax and be happy. I seriously thought about buying a gigantic pack of pregnancy tests and taking one every day until the ultrasound just so I could be sure it was still happening. It doesn't help that I don't feel any symptoms at all!

Why am I being so crazy?? And how do I stop worrying?!?

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mrs. bird
bananas / 9628 posts

Feb 17, 2013

Congratulations!!!! Your numbers more than doubled, that is a great sign! I'm sorry you are worrying, I hope soon you'll have more confidence in your pregnancy & be able to enjoy it more. Do you meditate? That might be helpful. Congrats again : )
MrsH
honeydew / 7667 posts

Feb 17, 2013

First congratulations! I would say the hormones are doing it and that you won't stop worrying for 18 years.

We had a m/c with our last pregnancy and I've thought of peeing on sticks for awhile after our next bfp, so I don't think peeing on a bunch of stick is a bad thing. If it will ease your mind at all, go for it.
sslm
cantaloupe / 6397 posts

Feb 17, 2013

First, congrats! This is an exciting time!

I know how you feel, I had a hard time being excited for the baby I'm carrying right now (33 weeks!) bc of a prior mc. It was hard on everyone and for me, as I just wouldn't accept that this was actually going to work out.

The thing is, if something does, god forbid, go wrong, it won't be any easier just because you spent the whole time in denial or worrying. So let yourself get excited! Maybe go buy a cute baby outfit, or visit a baby store just to look around. Talk to your husband about it. Know that that the odds are in your favor for this to work out!!!

Also, most people don't feel any symptoms until about 6 weeks, so I wouldn't let that bother you
sorrycharlie
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts

Feb 17, 2013

congratulations! you can get a relatively large pack of wondfo pregnancy tests on amazon for cheap cheap I say if peeing on a stick every day eases your mind, I'd definitely do it. I've also heard from people that the line can fade after a few weeks but not sure how true that is because I POAS at 9w again before I told my family and it was positive still!
AbbyCadabby
coffee bean / 33 posts

Feb 17, 2013

Thanks! The thing is, this is my 2nd pregnancy. I have a beautiful almost 3-year-old daughter so I know perfectly well that it's normal to not feel anything. I guess the difference is that with my first, we didn't have to do fertility treatments; this time, we had been trying for over a year and I had convinced myself we would have to do IVF eventually so in a way, this seems too "easy". (I'm sure that doesn't make any sense!) I also didn't find out I was pregnant the first time until I was almost 7 weeks so by that time, I was starting to feel some symptoms. I definitely think it can be a bad thing to know you're pregnant too early...too much time to worry!
singingbee
pomelo / 5073 posts

Feb 17, 2013

Everyone has given great advice. We are pregnant again after losing our daughter at 20 weeks. The thing is, worrying or not worrying, telling or not telling, buying or not buying doesn't make a difference in the outcome, so let yourself be happy. Don't automatically think you are going to be in the 3% (or whatever it is) that experience a miscarriage.

This is a hard concept for me to 'get' but I keep telling myself that this pregnancy wasn't that pregnancy and another thig: today I'm pregnant and we love our baby. That last one was from @marionberry. It's helped me as we wait for our first ultrasound.

Congrats and hugs!!!!! Don't worry, be happy!!!
MrsH
honeydew / 7667 posts

Feb 17, 2013

@Jennimac: aww I love the saying/mantra/positive words.
mamimami
grapefruit / 4120 posts

Feb 17, 2013

I didn't have problems but I was paranoid like all mamas with both my pregnancies. Every day I thanked God that my baby was still (seemingly) OK for another day and prayed for him/her. Try taking it a day at a time and relaxing as much as possible. I know it sounds impossible but you just have to do it. (Sounds like many things in parenting, right?) CONGRATS!!!!
Mrs. Jacks
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts

Feb 17, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: I was an older mama and things turned out just fine. They monitored me a little more carefully than otherwise... but my precious girl is now 2 and 1/2 and my baby is almost a year! (and I'm over 40 now).

Congratulations!
Grace
cantaloupe / 6730 posts

Feb 17, 2013

Congratulations!

And saying "today I'm pregnant" really does help.
marionberry
pomelo / 5041 posts

Feb 17, 2013

I got pregnant after my first IUI and not only did I then worry about mc but about ectopics and more. I googled everything under the sun and POAS at least every other day for about 2 weeks. After that I started to calm down a little and once we got to the first ultrasound (6w4d) and we heard the heartbeat I was totally fine. So what I'm saying is, that it's totally normal after dealing with infertility to fear that the bottom will fall out again, but this period where you're really scared will go away pretty soon. Just try your best to be happy that you are currently pregnant and enjoy your pregnancy more than fear you will lose it. Congratulations!!
sarac
pomelo / 5093 posts

Feb 17, 2013

I gave birth in September 2011 after getting pregnant on my fourth round of clomid. This feeling never left me. Even now, I think, was I pregnant? Did I seriously make you? I have trouble believing it. I was so scared the entire time - I wouldn't let myself believe that I was really going to take a baby home. It was too good to be true. I think I must have been unwilling to get my hopes up for fear of having all of my fears of losing her come true.

The reality is that you most likely will. But the fear might not leave, and that's ok.
T.H.O.U.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts

Feb 22, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: hope all is well for you!
Dandelion
watermelon / 14206 posts

Feb 22, 2013

Congrats!!

Relax! I'm carrying a rainbow baby right now, after an early miscarriage. The first trimester was very nerve wracking, but every day helps. Once you get to feel the kicks and get the annoying side effects, you really start to feel more comfortable in your pregnancy.
kjpugs
grapefruit / 4862 posts

Feb 22, 2013

I conceived my first cycle on metformin and I thought the same thing... too easy.... too good to be true! I think EVERYONE is scared/nervous/worrier before they get their first U/S at least. Well, maybe not everyone, but those who tend to worry in general AKA, ME! I started POAS daily but have let my symptoms speak to me now because they're pretty bad. My U/S is Monday and I can't wait!!!!!
kml636
pomegranate / 3225 posts

Feb 22, 2013

I got preg 3 months after a miscarriage at 12 weeks and I could NOT relax the whole time. 9 months seemed like an eternity! What helped me was getting one of those home fetal dopplers, so every time my mind would race I would use that. Some people say they make things worse though. I kept repeating a mantra each time my anxiety would set in: "happy and healthy". It really did help. Good luck and Congratulations!
AbbyCadabby
coffee bean / 33 posts

Mar 6, 2013

Well, unfortunately, it's not good news. I went for the first ultrasound today and there was no heartbeat and was measuring only about 5 weeks (I should be 7 weeks today). So, yeah...a miscarriage, which is what I had been worrying about all along. And I guess you can still get a positive pregnancy test because I was pretty much taking them twice a week and getting positives every time. I'm really bummed and not sure where to go from here.
MrsCastro
persimmon / 1491 posts

Mar 6, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: i am SO sorry for your loss...sneding you virtual hugs!!! take care of yourself...
singingbee
pomelo / 5073 posts

Mar 6, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: I'm so sorry.
Smurfette
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts

Mar 6, 2013

I am so sorry for your loss.
tequiero21
honeydew / 7968 posts

Mar 6, 2013

Congrats!! H&h 9! I say just pick up a hobby or something to keep you preoccupied.... And it's normal to be worried.... I was worried pretty much the whole pregnancy!
prettylizy
GOLD / papaya / 10206 posts

Mar 6, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: hugs to you all. So so sorry for your loss.
marionberry
pomelo / 5041 posts

Mar 6, 2013

I'm so sorry! Hugs.
mamimami
grapefruit / 4120 posts

Mar 6, 2013

So sorry to hear this.
Mrs Green Grass
pomelo / 5628 posts

Mar 7, 2013

Congrats! I think it's impossible to stop worrying after infertility issues. But after the first tri hopefully it will calm down!
dagret
grapefruit / 4235 posts

Mar 7, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss.
sslm
cantaloupe / 6397 posts

Mar 7, 2013

@AbbyCadabby: I'm so sorry I've been where you are, let me know if you'd like to chat!
blackbird
wonderful grape / 20453 posts

Mar 7, 2013

I'm so sorry

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