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I agree give it 3 weeks then see

Definitely give her time to adjust. I’m sure once she figures out the potty routine and is comfortable enough to tell her teacher when she has to go, it will be fine! Also, they make you pack a change of clothes for a reason - it happens to everyone!

Same here. DS has 3 weeks off from daycare and that’s when we potty trained and he was accident free by the end of that time. The first day back at daycare, he had several accidents. The next day I made sure to actually SHOWs him where the potty was at school (even though he already knew) and talked about what he can say to the teacher when he needs to go. No accidents since! Stick with it!

I think the teacher should be initiating some potty use within a 3hr window. With my oldest even in her public TK she had to adjust to not being afraid to go or ask to go, rather. I think this is something where a little encouragement especially from the teacher can go a long way.

Aww hugs to you. This is so hard.
My daughter just started 5 day a week full day pre-K 3 last week. She’s 3.5. She had an accident during nap on Friday. I was trying to ask her about it and she said “there was something yellow on the potty so I was scared”. So I’m guessing she didn’t go before nap. I’m also having them try to skip a pull up during nap. I felt so awful for her

But I’m trying to focus on what I can do to make this a positive experience: talking about telling the teachers when she needs to pee, decreasing the size of her water bottle (she will drink gallons of water), treats for dry pull-ups on weekend naps etc
Only you know your daughter but I’d give it some more time.

I would personally focus on potty training her fully (not doing pull-ups when you are out and about) and ask the teachers to prompt her to go potty before transitions. At this point I would think pull-ups are giving her a false sense of security and she simply forgot she didn't have that safety net when she was swinging. She needs to learn to listen to her body and the only way to really do that is to cut the pull-ups out.

Are you able to bump up her days, but cut back her time? We've found that consistency really helps with school anxiety. It's hard to get into a groove when you are just going 2 days. I'm assuming this is her first school experience -- I would focus on telling her that this is an important part of life and it is an opportunity to learn and grow. Our school usually says to give it until October to flush out. I would also talk with her teachers to find out if she's distressed during school. I know she said she cried during snack - but as a heads up, my son says crazy stuff all the time ("I played with no one today") that I often have photographic proof from school that is inaccurate. Kids are weird.

I understand it's upsetting (I've been there), but you need to stay strong for her. In 2 years she will be going to school 5 days a week and this is good prep for that. I would leverage your relationship with the teachers and try to get their help. I know when my son was having trouble we put a picture of us in his backpack that he could look at when he missed us... maybe they have ideas like that? I think the worst thing you can do is to pull her out -- you need to focus on finding solutions, not on just giving up. It's a great opportunity to teach your daughter that when things are hard you power through and conquer them!

ETA: I really think that the pull-ups are sort of analogous to this overall situation. You need to push your daughter to FULLY conquer this and have success as opposed to give her the option to not. It's what parenting is all about. I know you want to be her safety net (and you can explain that you will always be there to pick her up at the end of the day), but she's a big girl and this is what big girls do. Just think of it as empowering a future feminist. She can do this!

@CatchAFallingStar: is she having accidents or she just doesn’t want to go to school? Our preschool just sent a reminder that separation anxiety can actually peak for kids after the first few weeks of school bc the novelty has worn off and they realize that there are going to have to keep going. My about to be 3 yo goes 2 days from 9-12 and it’s bumpy as hell for those kids for a while. Even my 5 yo’s class which is 5 days/week has kids that still cry every day.

@CatchAFallingStar: yeah, it’s tough but I would try and power through. And also talk with her teacher about your concerns. They deal with this all the time! Also. I know at our school, some of the parents in the 2 day classes have a standing play date at a local park on a non-school day (it helps the kids get more comfortable with each other and it’s always nice to have grown up company). Maybe you could start something like that?