Mmmmmkay. Need help on how to handle letting my nanny go.

We love her, but we are definitely moving sometime in June, and I will probably stop working the last week of May.

We don't have a contract, so I have no contractual time frame of when I would give notice, but to be fair to her, I wanted to give 1 month's notice, or as close to it as possible.

Here's the deal: She has another job, she is a massage therapist at Massage Envy on the days she does not work here. She has to plan her schedule pretty far out, and I had already given her dates/times that I need her for the whole month of May.

We have a pretty solid renter bringing his wife to see our house this weekend, and if they sign a lease, I think they'd need to move by mid June, so WE would have to move mid-June and just sublet a furnished apt or worst case, stay in an extended stay hotel, until our house is done end of July (that will be madness, but if we have a good renter, we have to go with it!).

I am supposed to go to Dallas on May 13-16. My DH will be home, so that's fine for childcare, but the whole pumping nonstop and affecting my supply is a bit worrisome to me. I need to still be employed on May 24th, because that is when my bonus for Q1 will be paid out, and you have to still be employed on the date the bonus is paid out to receive it.

I was kind of hoping that if everything goes well this weekend and we get a signed lease, I could give notice sometime the week of May 6th that my last day would be May 24th. And hopefully they would just tell me to wrap up my stuff that week, don't worry about wasting their time and going to the Dallas trip, and just pay me through the 24th, in which case I would also get my bonus. That is very perfect world!

The problem is that the last week of May (27th-30th), I have told the nanny the May schedule and the last week of May, when I don't plan on (hopefully!) being employed anymore, I have her scheduled for M-Th, 9-5. Which means she has blocked her schedule of to work for me those days. I know she can change her schedule fairly easily (she has done so when Ineeded her to work an extra day here and there).

I'm fine with paying the nanny while I'm being paid (even if they tell me not to work, I would just still have her work since I would be paid, and I would pack or get ready to move). But is it bad etiquette of me to give her notice next week that May 24th will be her last day? And just leave her to work out that last week?

Or do I tell work that I will work the rest of May and then be done? That would mean I would have to go on the Dallas trip- ugh!

Sorry for all of my drama lately! I really appreciate any advice from you all:) You've been so helpful with this crossroads of my life that I've got going on!