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My girls are 19 months apart. We were trying but got pregnant sooner than I thought we would be able to.
Pros: they will be 3.5 and 2 years old in April...and they are best friends. They make each other laugh, they hold hands, they play games. Seriously it's the best relationship ever. No matter what other behavior struggles we are having with DD1 I am almost always able to complement her on what a great big sister she is. It is seriously my favorite part. Also, just getting the raising little little kids done and over with seems like a pro to me right now.

Cons: changing poop diapers with morning sickness sucks. Nursing and/or being pregnant for basically years on end is ridiculous. I often felt I was ripping DD1's babyhood away from her. Juggling two kids who may not STTN yet it also hard (and obviously exhausting).

Ugh I was hoping for a surprise like you describe but it was not meant to be!@gingerbebe:

Mine are 26 months apart, so not a super small age gap, but not giant. Pros: they love each other like crazy. I'm excited to watch them grow up together. They can share a lot of toys (this is also a con). We still had all the baby stuff.

Cons: I haven't slept through the night in 3 years. Two in diapers, and in a few weeks two in daycare (and eventually two in university). Trying to do things like take them both to the grocery store is a hassle - getting two out of carseats, carrying them both in, etc.

Mine are 27 months apart. So, not a big age gap and not a small one either. Now at 3 and 8 months they are finally getting to the point where they can kind of play together and it is really nice. I think I really like this age gap because it doesn't feel really close or really far apart.

Pro's:
-DS1 was out of diapers almost completely (a few night diapers but not for long), in a big boy bed, and understanding directions/talking pretty well. I could leave him unsupervised for 10 minutes at a time while I dealt with his brother and he wouldn't burn the house down. It did take a while for him to adjust to his new found freedom.
-DS1 can play with DS2 pretty well at this point
-They both nap and have one overlapping nap every day
-DS1 hasn't really started school or anything yet so I don't feel like I am keeping him behind by taking several months to adjust to a new brother

Cons:
-DS1 is still on the young side so he's only recently been able to play with his brother without hurting him.
-DS1's talking was a little behind so we have had some massive tantrums from lack of communication. He's getting better now
-This is probably just about having two kids in general, but DS1 never really got into things until we had DS2 and all the sudden he was left alone for more than a few minutes at a time.
-DS1 was not very good at playing by himself so I had a really hard time with two kids demanding my attention all the time. Luckily DS2 has turned into a really easy baby and DS1 has learned that if he plays by himself in his room his brother can't get his toys!

Pro that I'm now seeing the other side of - having them in similar school situations for many years. We are trying to balance Kindergarten with a 1 year old in daycare for the fall and it's so complicated and will stay that way for four years!

Mine are 20 months apart.

Pro -
little to no transition period. She was so young when he was born. She doesnt remember what life was like before him!

The phases are close together like the baby phase and potty training. We're done with daytime diapers after 4 years!

We can get rid of stuff earlier like the baby swing. I love decluttering.

Done with childcare costs earlier!! 2.5 more years!

Both still nap so a couple hours of rest for us on the weekend

Cons-
Childcare cost $$$$ we spent $35k last year at a good but def not the best preschool.

Not much me time. Someone always needs something and not super independent but it might be more a personality thing.