Hello, I have a very lovely friend who is struggling with IF. I was thinking of reaching out to her today, because I think today (Mother's Day) might be really hard for her and I've been thinking about her all day. But I don't know if that would make it harder or if that seems strange or insensitive. What do you guys think?
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I think reaching out would be great. I struggled with infertility and miscarriages for several years. During that time, it was always on my mind and I definitely appreciated any time others showed they cared or were thinking of me. I would just send a simple text letting her know you are thinking of her today. Then it is up to her whether she wants to open a longer conversation or not.
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I did. I have a friend who has spent a few years going through IVF and just separated from her husband, which I know makes her feel even further from being a mom. I just sent her a text saying I hoped she was doing ok and I was thinking of her. She seemed to appreciate it.
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Same here. I didn't know what to say so I just said I had been thinking about her a lot today and hoped it wasn't too bad of a day for her.
She seemed thankful that I thought of her. -
I think reaching out would be fantastic. She would certainly appreciate it. The previous replies are true.
I know I would appreciate it. This is a tough thing to go through. If you're close, she will be grateful. All the best of luck to your friend. We're cheering for her. xx
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My oldest and closest friend struggled with infertility too. And I had the same question on the first mother's day after she had been diagnosed with infertility. I couldn't agree more with what Mrs. Champagne said. I really didn't know what words I was going to say. But I felt strongly about not letting her feel alone or left out on this day. I too, called her saying I was thinking of her and asked if she was doing ok. She sounded happy when she received my call and invited me over to spend some time with her, saying she would feel better if I was with her. I believe, sometimes, your heart speaks what you can't put in words and when it is a friend you love, words seem less necessary and both of you just know what you're feeling. I am so grateful to god and science for blessing my friend with two lovely kids through IVF. Today, both of us spend mother's day with our children and our children are growing closer than we ever were. I wish you good luck and hope your feelings are well communicated to your friend.
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Reach out to her and let her know that you are there for her. If you ask me, I don't think she will find it insensitive, as reaching out to her is a gesture that says you care for her and are and will be there by her side. She will feel what you are trying to convey. Hope things worked out fine. Let me know.
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@Miss Flamingo: definitely go for it she requires her friends more than anything right now, by talking to her you will let her know that you care and you are definitely concerned, go ahead with it
I know I would appreciate it. This is a tough thing to go through. If you're close, she will be grateful. All the best of luck to your friend. We're cheering for her. xx
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