Tonight I caught a horrible stomach bug. I’ve been doubled over in pain/ hovered over the potty for hours. I am a SAH mom to DS (24mo) and DD (6mo). If this keeps up I don’t know how I can parent tomorrow. What do you fellow SAH moms do? Do you ask your DH to take a sick day to help? Our families are across the country so they is really no one I could call. DH has a demanding job so I feel bad asking him to stay home
cantaloupe / 6131 posts
Yup I'd make DH take the day off.
pomegranate / 3595 posts
I have had DH call out in a similar situation. I can’t remember the details. Either it was maternity leave or a weekend when he had to work (I do WOH but I am also the primary parent). I had the flu or mastitis and could barely function. He got someone to cover his shift so he could take care of me and the kids.
If your dh was too sick to go to work, what would you tell him? Suck it up or rest so you can get better faster so you can go back to being committed to your work? I would pick the latter...so the same advice is true even if your work is SAH!
cantaloupe / 6131 posts
All u can do is speed up your healing. Lots of Gatorade and immodium and BRAT foods.
pomegranate / 3980 posts
My dh unfortunately doesn't have the ability often to take days off so unfortunately I just rely heavily on cartoons and do as little as possible. Drink lots of fluids and pray for the best.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
For a stomach bug like that I would ask him to stay home. If he really couldn’t it would just be cartoons all day and hoping for the best.
We don’t have family local but the one time we both caught a stomach bug my in laws were visiting. Sucked as a visit but sure was helpful. Hope you feel better soon.
ETA: my DH also has the ability to work from home pretty often so he would probably do that. So it would still be a lot of tv but he could turn it to the next episode and keep an eye on them from his home office.
coconut / 8483 posts
By husband also has a really demanding job and it's hard to take sick days. But I would tell him he had to and really hope he could get coverage... hope you're better soon!!
coconut / 8472 posts
I’m not a SAHM but there’s been a couple times when I’ve gotten really sick at the same time one of the kids us too sick to go to daycare. In those cases DH takes the day off/works from home when he can. He wouldn’t expect me to do childcare if I’m that sick.
pomelo / 5563 posts
I made my husband stay home once when I was on mat leave but was so sick - I knew there was no way I could take care of the baby. Even people with demanding jobs need to occasionally stay home - if he was the one doubled over the toilet he'd do it in a heartbeat, right? Don't feel bad asking for help.
pomelo / 5220 posts
I would make DH stay home or make him call one of our babysitters. We've done both in the past when I've been sick.
persimmon / 1270 posts
I have called DH to come home when I was really really sick. I have also called a babysitter when I needed a hand for some of the day to take LO1 out to play when I was too sick. It's the worst! Feel better.
grapefruit / 4455 posts
If it's a day where I'm with the kids and I'm REALLY sick he calls out. He's also asked his mom to help out when I had been recently discharged from the hospital. That sounds so miserable, I hope you're feeling better than you were when you wrote this!
apricot / 488 posts
Thanks for all the responses. Still sick but not as bad as before. My 6mo was up all night though (and she only takes me at night) so I wasn’t able to rest at all. DH offered to work from home this morning-bless his heart.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
@justjules: Hope you can get some rest. We also sometimes do a split day. Work from home some, go into the office for a few hours, and take a few hours of sick PTO.
pineapple / 12053 posts
i've had DH stay home before when i was sick and we didn't live near family. now we're closer to family that could probably help out a bit easier. DH works 24 shifts so him taking off is a bit more involved.
pear / 1580 posts
It's different now, but back when LO was an infant, DH's job was very difficult to take sick days from, and I had a few pretty bad sicknesses. I sucked it up through mastitis and HFM, but there was one day I had a stomach virus or food poisoning, and I absolutely needed him to stay home. I took 5 naps that day and I was back on my feet the next day. It's very compassionate that you feel bad asking DH to stay home, but put yourself in his shoes. What would you want for him if he was sick the way you are?
pear / 1809 posts
I would definitely call DH. My DH also has a demanding job, but if he's sick, he comes home. It's not really fair for you to not get rest and a chance to recover.
persimmon / 1436 posts
My DH is a SAHD and I am a ft WOHM. If he’s that sick, I stay home. They are my kids too and it’s my job too to take care of them. I would say my work is demanding but flexible. We do have generous sick time though.
honeydew / 7463 posts
I know this was already resolved but a couple days after you posted I got sick. I woke up with a bad sore throat and barely any voice. And I was just plain tired from pregnancy insomnia. So DH offered to work from home.
I actually said it would be great if he could just do preschool drop-off before he went to work so I didn’t have to get ready and go out, could rest and then just do Pickup at noon. He ended up having an urgent work call pop up so I took our son to school after all, but DH still stayed home so that I could have some help with lunch and after nap. It was nice.