I want my daughters to have great self esteem but at the same time realize that while theyre #1 in their parents eyes they're going to have to rightfully prove themselves a little more out in the world.

Emphasizing both aspects probably is going to grow in importance as they grow older - but anyone have any good reading or personal philosophies on balancing self esteem with - I'm not sure if it's humility or compassion or realism (some combo of all that)?