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I wouldn't be offended. If you two aren't super close they probably thought you might not want to help out. I would just show up with a gift and happy face. I don't think it's worth stressing yourself out over. I'm sure they didn't mean to make you feel left out.

I don't think you should be offended-- and SIL doesn't get to determine where the shower is held (even though she prefers a "house shower", a shower is still a gift in itself and the hosts can have it wherever they want to).

I would be offended if I didn't receive an invitation, but I would just enjoy the party-- it's the Moms' grandkid and Sister's niece/nephew-- they're much bigger roles in SIL's life and seem like the natural hosts for the shower.

My feelings would probably be hurt if I wasn't included in planning my SIL's baby shower. Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do though. Is it the only shower she will have involving both sides of the family, friends, extended family, coworkers, etc.? Or is there a way you can throw her a separate shower involving a different group of people?

Is it possible her sister/mother took charge of it and wanted to keep it to fewer people being involved in the planning? You could always get in touch with them and ask if there's anything you could help out with, but I wouldn't worry about it if they say no, just go and enjoy yourself!

i think i'd be sad, but not offended. my bro and SIL told me they'd throw me a shower. i didn't ask them and told them i didn't need a shower.

what i don't get is why you didn't receive your invite yet?

I can see how you would feel hurt but I think it depends on how close you are with them? I did not clear my shower dates with my sisters-in-law. We're not very close but I would still like them to come. They live out of town, so it also isn't just assumed that they will come. I would just try not to let it bother you and hope your SIL has a great time even though it may not be her preferred shower.

Just think, since you aren't part of the planning, she can't get upset at you that it's at a restaurant instead of at a house, like she asked for.

@Chillybear: I'm sure it wasn't intentional! Most likely her sister and mother started planning and included your mom and just didn't think to include you. I would try not to be offended if I were you. It's unlikely that your SIL planned her shower herself and/or requested you not be included in the planning. She probably had little-to-nothing to do with it.