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I am very sorry you are going through this. It is really tough. At that age, my son would go through phases of sleeping well (getting up only once a night) and getting up multiple times. I would just stay consistent with what you do. Sorry, I don't have any real advise except, and I am sure you probably have already heard this, but this stage will pass and you will be blissfully sleeping though the night again. I remember in the thick of it, I never thought that would happen...

Sorry you're dealing with this. Here are my personal thoughts:

Drop the Merlin suit or swaddle. Both my boys were belly sleepers as soon they could roll and were much happier sleeping that way. I used the Halo sleep sacks if I felt like they needed an extra layer, but both had dropped arm swaddles by 3 months.

I think you have a morning waketime issue. 630-7am is a perfectly fine waketime for a baby (at my house we shoot for 7-730am). If he was waking up at 530-6am, I would try a small snack feeding or paci, then let him take a quick snooze until 730am, but if he's getting up at 630-7am for breakfast, I'd just feed him and start the day.

Babies at that age really quite sleepy and ready for their first morning nap so you can probably just get him, change his diaper, feed him, give him a little bit of tummy time, and get him back to bed around 8am. My boys generally slept the longest and best for that first nap, so hopefully that will get you to 10-1030am.

If you're on a roughly 3 hour feeding schedule, that would then mean you have feedings at 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm, and then 10pm for dreamfeed.

If your baby is waking up after 45 minutes, I'd work on extending naps for at least 1 more sleep cycle (babies have 40-45 minute sleep cycles). So I'd be shooting for a minimum 90 minute nap, or even better, a 2+ hour nap.

I'd start the nap in the crib and then if/when he wakes, do whatever you needed to get one more sleep cycle in there - whether its holding, shushing, or taking him to the swing. I'd try not to nurse mid-nap so you don't create an association and maybe offer a paci instead, unless he's going through a growth spurt and needs it. He just needs to get into the habit of sleeping longer during that morning nap first, and then you can work on where or how that happens later.

The goal then would be to get longish naps from:

8-10am
11am-1pm
2-4pm

Then you'd want a catnap during the 5-6pm hour, probably around 30-40 minutes.

Bedtime after 7pm feeding.
Dreamfeed at 10pm or before you go to bed (which is probably around 10-1030pm).

For the dreamfeed, both my kids had to be woken up. Like, this stealth feeding while asleep thing didn't really happen because they would conk out immediately and barely take anything. So we would keep the room dim and quiet, but I would wake them up, undress them, change their diaper, then do the feeding, then wrap them back up again and put them down. We would also tickle their feet and do whatever to keep them awake enough to take a decent feeding. Even so, they usually still passed out cold at some point, no matter what we did, and that's when we accepted the feeding was over. If we didn't go to those lengths, they would wake up shortly thereafter because they were hungry.

If your baby still needs 2 feedings overnight, I would try to still schedule that dreamfeed in such a way that the first wakeup would happen at around 130am so you can get some sleep. Then the next feeding would hopefully occur in the 4am hour and you can feed and get to your morning waketime.

I did the same thing with overnight feeds that I did for the dreamfeed and worked to make sure my boys got a good full feeding and didn't just use me as a snooze button. During the worst sleep deprived days, I would feed them a pumped bottle in the MOTN because it was faster and we could both stay awake better with bottle feeding. With a good MOTN feeding, chances are better your kid will make it til morning.

Another note about dreamfeeds. I generally gave that to DH to handle. You can do pumped milk, but for me, that was usually my one designated formula feeding. Basically, after the baby was in bed at 730pm, I'd take a hot shower, do some chores, and then pump around 930-10pm and go to bed. I'd either leave that milk for DH's dreamfeed or freeze it. This way I'd get a block of sleep right away that I could count on every night.

Probably not what you want to hear, but I think that his night-time sleep is perfectly normal for a breastfed 14 week old. You're getting a 4-5 hour stretch followed by 2-3 hour stretches. Most breastfed babies won't sleep through the night until much much later. As for naps, I think you should aim to lay him down a bit sooner. 2 hours of awake time might still be a bit much for him at this age. I'd aim closer to 90 minutes.

Pick a sleep routine, and do it every time you lay him down for naps or night time sleep. Something really simple like sleepsack on, rock and sing two songs, kiss and lay down. That worked really well for my kids, as soon as I zipped up the sleepsack they would start yawning since it was such a strong sleep association.