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We do the Sleep Lady Shuffle, and it was working WONDERS for us til a couple days ago. Little dude is trying to pop 3-4 teeth so we're having some setbacks, but I feel like its a pretty solid plan. I think her website is sleeplady.net ? The book is Good Night, Sleep Tight by Kim West, and the workbook is a condensed, no-filler version of the book.

You want to reinforce her ability to put herself back to sleep in the middle of the night...and you also want to the break the habit of having her sleep in your bed, right?

There are tons of middle options between always rescuing her and CIO. The two already mentioned - sleep lady shuffle and Ferber - are what I would suggest. You could also do pick up / put down but I think that's for younger babies.

@NurseMommy: basically. When she wakes up you just check on her with progressively longer times between checks. You can start with 3 minutes then 5, 10, 15 or whatever you're comfortable with.

Even with no-cry methods there is always some crying!

@hilsy85: did ferber with checks, I bet if you search you can find her posts on it. No matter how you do it, I think it's a good idea to have a plan and be ready ahead of time. Feeling desperate in the MOTN is no time to be making decisions! Also tracking progress and times at first so you can see changes. Good luck!

@NurseMommy: longer between checks. You can choose whatever you're comfortable with to do during checks (bum pat, shushing, rubbing her head or just talking/reassuring) but it's usually not recommended for you to pick them up (or just very briefly).

Each night you can increase the times too. Night one you can do 3, 5, 7, 10, 10, 10. Tomorrow you can do 5, 7, 10, 12, 15...

I'm not sure what to say but we did go through a recession at 8.5-9.5 months too. We ended up deciding it was separation anxiety and she just moved into our room in the pnp in the middle of the night. It lasted about a month and then she went back in her room until recently. We have finally been letting her consistenly cio for naps the past few days (only after we ruled out the molars, fears, etc as being the cause of the upset which took a week or so) and have tried to at nights but only before midnight. It's only happened if she goes down within twenty minutes. Something happens around then (midnight) and it just seems impossible. All this to say you aren't alone. Good luck with tonight!

@NurseMommy: yup we did ferber (which is modified cio not sure if you're comfortable with that). Here was our experience:
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talk-to-me-about-ferber/page/2

Good luck! I found it to be really effective and fast. I HIGHLY recommend reading Ferber's book--there's a ton of good info on infant sleep in there. IT's a fast read, so even just skim it!