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Also, if you don't interfere, I wouldn't be surprised if tonight is similar (lots of wake-ups), but then I'd expect a significant improvement the next night.

Good luck! It's very hard.

We did cio at 11 months and didn't go in at all. She could find her pack herself. She sttn the first night and has ever since u til potty training. Sometimes she wakes to pee now

@jedeve: I would not rock him to sleep in the MOTN, kind of defeats the purpose.

@jedeve: so we did it to get down to 1 night waking, from like 4 or 5. I think at most he cried for 45 minutes, but that was at like 5:15am...in the MOTN I think longest was 23 minutes? We did checks though And he was younger, 6.5 months.

@jedeve: it's kind of a blur at this point, but what worked best for us was focusing on one thing at a time. So for us, we started with CIO at bedtime for falling asleep. We set a time in our heads that she didn't need to nurse before (like 1 am) and after we put her down, I would not go back in before that. We let her cry until she fell asleep, no checks (would just make her madder). If she woke up after that but before 1, DH might go in and rock her, only if she was really upset, but I think we let her cry? After that 1 am or whatever wake up, I just went in and nursed her back to sleep every time she woke up. Otherwise she would cry for like 2 hours.

We tried doing naps at the same time and it was just a total fail. So I nursed to sleep for naps while we sorted it bedtime.

But our bigger problem was falling asleep at night. She usually only woke up once or twice, and would fall back asleep pretty easily if I nursed her, but was taking an hour of nursing and rocking to fall asleep at bedtime.

You can only do your best, and no matter what you do, you will feel sure you are doing it all wrong at some point. Good luck!

Eta: being able to fall asleep on her own did eventually help with night wake ups. It just took a week or so.

@jedeve: how did last night go? I hope there was some improvement.

@jedeve: Oh no! There is a super awful stomach bug hanging around my town right now (we just got over it), so I'm not sure if that might be making its way your direction. I'm sorry it was so awful. I can't even imagine dealing with sleep issues for baby with a toddler (but I guess I'll have some experience in a few months...) Hope you all get some sleep soon.

@jedeve: We eventually did CIO just to get rid of the final MOTN wakeup he had. I mean TRUE CIO where we didn't even go in to replace a paci. Prior to that, for about 2-3 weeks, I would let him fuss and just keep replacing paci over and over in order to night wean. (Rather than feeding him).
In terms of true CIO, we started it after his 4 month appt when the pediatrician encouraged it. He was waking between 4am and 5am (but this was pretty good since he went down at 7pm) and I knew he didn't need to eat. So we let him CIO in 15 min increments. BUT it was only 15 minute increments of continuous crying. So if he wasn't crying hard or would stop for even 30 seconds, the clock reset. Since he rarely cried for 15 mins nonstop, I would let him cry from 4:30-6am at the longest stretch. It only took 3 nights for him to stop waking and just wake up for the day at 6am.
I just turned off the sound of his monitor and kept his bedroom door shut so that I could faintly hear it, but it was quiet enough that I could kinda ignore it if I was tired enough Which I usually was!

Even in the rare case that he did cry continuously and I did a check, I NEver picked him up. It is so hard to do because you just want them to stop and go to sleep. But picking up defeats the purpose of CIO. It's one of those things that is hard to do but the payoff is SO worth it. It is worth it to get some supremely shitty sleep for a few nights of the trade off is that they go to sleep and stay asleep on their own.
I always put him down awake and never rocked him to sleep. Even when he was a newborn. This is something my sleep-obsessed pediatrician pounded into my head. I really think that being able to fall asleep on their own helps with wakings because they can wake and know how to get themselves back to sleep without rocking.

I still sometimes have to let him fuss a little at the beginning of a nap but now it lasts for no more than 1 min so I don't even consider that CIO. That's just seeing if he gets settled into the nap and he usually does (unless there are extenuating circumstances like teething).
I never really did CIO for a nap. I just put him down drowsy but awake and replaced pacis over and over if he woke up before the 1 hour mark (sometimes probably 10 times in a half hour period. It was annoying! But he learned that just because he woke up after 45 mins and cried didn't mean his nap was over) and he eventually learned what nap time was and how to extend his naps on his own. He now takes a 1.5-2 hour nap 2x a day and that wasn't always the case.

In total, CIO for night waking took like 3-ish days (it seems so long ago but it wasn't more than a week that's for sure). I'm not including the whole process of weaning, just the part where we actually took away the bottle and let him cry instead.

I would actually suggest taking a quick read of "12 hours by 12 weeks". It's super short and you can skim and skip chapters on formula for example. Some people find it controversial for a young 12 weeker, but for an 11mo old I think it would be perfectly fine. It just gives steps on how to extend their night wakings, night weaning (if you're interested in that), etc.
I did it almost to a T (very small modifications) and it worked beautifully for us.

Also wonder what time you are putting him to bed and when does he wake up from his last nap before bed? Maybe overtired is causing inability to fall asleep and stay asleep? Same with naps, maybe putting down too late for naps? (I have no clue, just offering things I've read over the past 8 months as I am obsessed with my sons sleep!)