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I think it depends on the reasoning behind it. There's a difference between sleeping in different beds because of actual sleeping issues vs. sleeping in separate rooms after a fight, for example.

DH and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for the last couple weeks because my pregnancy-induced snoring wakes him up and because I worry about waking him up when I get up to pee a thousand times a night. I think it's fine in cases like that, but I do really miss having him in the same room.

The only time we've slept in separate beds is when we had a hotel room with two doubles. We're not sleeping together in less than a queen if we can help it. We slept SO well during that trip! But, we prefer sleeping together no matter what.

Sometimes I just can't sleep and I'll get out of bed to go lie in the other room so I don't bother my DH, but my DH seems to hate when I do this lol!

One thing I could suggest is getting a mattress that doesn't transfer movement as much. My DH and I have a bed like this and whenever we stay in a hotel we seem to keep each other up with our movements! Makes a big difference. Also, if you can, get a king!

Overall though I don't think sleeping in separate beds will ruin your marriage.

I have been sleeping on the couch recently (thanks to the last month of this pregnancy) and we definitely so miss sleeping with each other. To help that separation, we still make sure to snuggle and talk in bed before I get up and move to the couch. I'm not sure how well we could handle the sleeping arrangement long term though.

My husband and I joke that separate bedrooms would be ideal for us, because he snores and I move around at night A LOT.

We often sleep in separate beds and have done for years. Usually only if DH is going through a spell of snoring!!

I think if you're both on the same page with things, there's no problem with it at all. DH is an awwwwful sleeper, like, I'm talkin' full on snoring, mouth breathing, talking, making noises, tossing/turning, flailing...it's ridiculous. The majority of our "fights" or being crabby at each other stems directly from how crappy of a night's sleep we got the night before (me from him, and him from me waking him up to yell at him every 10 minutes)... We've never had a guest room up until a month ago, so we actually have never slept in separate rooms, but now that we have the option, I think it juusssst might happen from time to time!

I don't think there's a set "good vs. bad" in this case, it's just what works for you and your SO!

Dh will fall sleep on the couch at least once a week or move out there when I start to snore and I don't think it hurts our relationship at all. We are both well rested in the morning and happier with sleep.

I slept in our spare room last night!

We will at times sleep separately for varying reasons, the next am one of us will usually crawl in with the other and DH always asks me why I left to make sure everything is ok! Always is, sometimes I just can't get back to sleep in our bed after waking with LO and for some reason I can get to sleep in that front room!

I typically HATE when DH sleeps in the spare room as I sleep much better when he is in bed. When one of us is sick, we sleeps apart and when DD was a brand newborn he slept in the spare room. We were up for multiple hours all night long and he had to go to work so instead of stressing out about keeping him up, he just slept across the hall soundly and I actually got more sleep because I was much calmer with DD. That lasted 3ish weeks

We do this sometimes. DH snores very loudly if he's not feeling well. I'm a light sleeper, and he'll keep me awake all night with that noise! So, if he's particularly congested, he sleeps in a guest room. Works for us! Though I do prefer him sleeping (quietly) next to me.

I have a friend whose parents have slept in separate rooms for decades due to her dad's snoring. They said that's a large reason why they've been married for over 30 years! Haha.

It really depends on the circumstances. Right now we've been dealing with this a ton because DH wants to sleep out on the couch every single night so he can get undisturbed rest without me/baby/dog bothering him.

On my end, it hurts my feelings and makes me feel like he doesn't want to be close to me.

So, I'm trying to get over that, because it isn't that he doesn't love me, he just wants to get better sleep. And he's trying to sleep in the bed more frequently so that we can connect physically a little more frequently (not sex necessarily).

I'm often afraid to admit it, because we get an awkward response, but we sleep in different rooms. When we were first married I was really upset that we didn't because it isn't what married people are supposed to do. I've gotten over it because I'm much more comfortable sleeping alone, and so is he. It doesn't effect our intimacy at all, and really makes us happier with each other because we don't fight about the bed/sleep.

Helps for sure! Bad sleep creates resentment. We slept in separate beds all the time during my pregnancy since I snored so much ad I felt terrible when I kept dh up.

I say do whatever works for you. If it starts to be a problem then address it. If not, don't worry about it! Sounds like your relationship is better this way..

I also think it depends on if it's every single night or some nights. Every night seems like it would create distance, but then again, maybe that's just in MY relationship.

@Mrs. Polish: I have a friend who has a separate bedroom from her boyfriend. People are sometimes taken aback when they hear this, but it really does make them more physically comfortable to have different sleeping temperatures and arrangements. And it doesn't mean they're any less affectionate!

If both parties are on board or even prefer it that way, then it probably helps. I think it would hurt, though, if the routine because just to go their separate ways and not really interact. If the physical interaction is still there, I could see how that would help couples that have difficulty sleeping in the same bed. Luckily DH and I both enjoy sleeping in the same bed (and sleep well together), so this hasn't been an issue. He did sleep in the guest room for a few nights last month, but it was because he was sick and I'm pregnant--didn't want to risk it! He sent me texts from the guest room saying he missed me every night