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Ugh I usually am sooo tired too by the end of the day. But once I actually get out I have fun and am so glad I went. I just make sure to get home in good time. My son likes to surprise me and get up at 530 on days when I really would enjoy a sleep in!

They meet every week? That's a lot! I am part of a book club but we meet once a month, which is more doable- and sometimes I still don't feel like going! And yes, I'm a sahm and I usually do wake up way later than 4:50. (When I don't have a newborn who is up at whatever hour she wants). Plus as a sahm book club is sometimes the only adult interaction I have that isn't interrupted 30 times by my kid.

I don't think you should feel guilty, especially since you are pregnant and it's less fun going to wine club when you can't drink! Maybe you could make an effort to go once a month so it isn't such a big commitment?

Yes, I hear you, I get up early, go to work, deal with people all day long, get home and deal with my family, I can't even begin to think about having a conversation again past 7:30.

What about a running group? I am seriously considering joining one so I can be around people and not have to talk, lol!

@JoJoGirl: Your schedule is almost identical to mine, and most nights, I'm on my own for dinner/bath/bed. I'm so wiped out most days that I almost cringe when I turn on to our street after pickup and I see our lovely neighbors outside with their adorable children, all of whom play remarkably well together and with my LO, because I know my LO will want to go and play for a few minutes too. It's not that I don't want to talk to them (because I do! I wish I knew them better!), it's just that my talk/social tank is so empty, and I'm usually still preoccupied with work (some days it just takes me longer to wind down mentally) and I feel like a lousy small talker . . . *augh* Totally makes me feel like a social leper. Eta: I usually go anyway because it's maybe 10-20 minutes, and LO gets extra time to play outside. But I always feel awkward about it.

@looch: I would totally join your *Less Talk More Run* running club.

@JoJoGirl: The only reason I make it across the street is because I am not already inside! After I get LO down, I am pretty much worthless (especially now that I'm knocked up!). I *might* do a load of laundry and pick up a few toys, but that's about it. Pretty much, I just want to zone out in front of the boob tube and then take my tired butt to bed. Just know you're not alone!

@JoJoGirl: I'd be down with a watch TV group. Or a listen to a podcast group, lol.

@pwnstar: I just can't talk at some points, you know? Especially if it's small talk!

As a working mom I only socialize on the weekends. I just can't get through my week otherwise. Most of my social group also works, so we have similar socializing habits. I did befriend a few sahm over the summer, but we only socialize then (since I have summers off). One women I like so much, but she keeps asking to get together for weekday dinners and I just can't handle it!

Um I don't have a social life. but honestly, I was the type of person before kids who was happy to have 3-5 social events (ranging from coffee to nights out or running together) with friends per month.

So now that I have kid(s), after I spend time with LO, DH, work, exercise, and attempt to keep the laundry and dishes done, I don't really want to spend time with other people more than once a month.

I SAH and my kid wakes up at 5:30 every day!

I would try it once. I get that it seems like too much work, but I think that kind of thing I usually dread and then feel better once I go. Going is always harder than being there! But first trimester fatigue is soooo hard. Maybe try in a couple months?

@JoJoGirl: Don't feel bad!
I'm exhausted by the end of the day too and I don't work full time like you. See what I do is get together with my friends in the morning. There's no way I could go out late and then being pregnant adds a whole different level of tired. Congrats by the way! Maybe try to invite them for coffee and breakfast over the weekend ?