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My parents aren't older but I have cousins with older parents. They're very active, always traveling and doing things. I do wonder about when they get to college age though (middle and high school now ) because I have memories of my parents moving me a million times and that's hard work!

Although my mom was only 24 when my sister and I were born, my dad was significantly older (we're talking decades here) and it did affect us. He was of an earlier generation and was very old-fashioned and quite strict. I was okay with that, but my sister rebelled early on. They also ran their own business and that meant our weekends were dedicated to that, not hanging out and going on vacations. We only went on 3-4 vacations growing up, and they were always to visit distant family. Also, he was unable to go to as many places or be as active. The biggest challenge was losing my dad when I was 20, 7 months before college graduation. He was 86 when he passed away due to complications of an exposure from his time serving in World War II.

Ok so this pertains to my parents but not...me. I was the oldest so my mom was just 21 when I was born. With my brothers she was 24-ish and 27-ish. However, my mom and step-dad adopted my sister 3 years ago. She is 7 and my mom is 42 (43 in 24 days) and step-dad is about to be 49...so technically they were 36 and 42 when she was born, though they weren't in her life until they were 40 and 46.

My mom and I have discussed the fact that we were raised differently because she has both learned so much and learned what she'll put up with. In ways she is much more lenient with sister (as far as technology younger, more things in general) but in other ways she is much less lenient (bedtime is always at X time, less leeway) and much less available just due to more time-constraints. She has tried her hardest to do the same amount of activities with my sister as she did with us - she is the Girl Scout troop leader for my sister just like she was for me (and team mom for my brothers), my sister is involved in Dance and in Choir. She does a very similar level of activities - but there are for sure less "play dates." I remember we ALWAYS had some other kids over or were at other houses while our mom's chatted, did mystical "mom things." Lol. My mom now doesn't do that as much because she says she feels so OLD compared to the other moms in her groups. And she is.

Her involvement in work is WAYYY more now. My mom is a PhD that teaches on the college level, works as a HS Counselor full-time and does adoption studies. When I was little...she was a SAHM. When my middle brother was born she was a SAHM in a Masters program and when my second brother was born she was transitioning from SAHM to Doctoral candidate and worked part-time. VERY different.

She admits she had way more energy with us (she was in her 20s versus her 40s) and both my mom and step-dad do have more health issues now than when younger. My mom had a breast cancer concern a year ago, for example. My step-dad will be 61 when my sister graduates high school. That is insane to us. Heck, I will be in my 30s. *Note: Sister will be 19 when she graduates HS because we held her back a year to catch up. She is not a native English speaker.

I thought it was an interesting point of view because it's basically the same PARENTS but at different times completely. And even the sibling relationship is VERY different. I feel like her aunt more than her sister half the time.

My parents were a little on the older side (33 and 36 when I was born, 36 and 39 for my brother), and there were never any issues with activity levels or anything growing up. Both my brother and I were involved in lots of activities that required time and energy from our parents, which they always gave.

My husband will be 46 when we have our first, and he has some mild concerns. He’s a professor, so most of his/our friends had children later in life. Many of his female friends had babies after 40, having kids before 30 is very rare in our social circle – so its something we’ve seen others his age do, and no one seems to have any trouble keeping up with their toddlers in their mid 40’s. My husband has no real health issues, and neither do any of the older parents we know (nothing that has to do with age, at least).

My parents were 36 and 37 when they had me and I definitely realized that I had older parents. all my other friends had younger brothers and sisters but since I was the youngest in my family I never got to experience that. My friends' parents just seemed more active and more aware of new trends than my parents.

My mum wasn't old, she was 32 when she had me. However my daddy was 60. I don't think it really affected me in a negative way. He was sick though, so I did spend quite a bit of time visiting him in the hospital. When my brother and I were little he played with us outdoors, at the playground, etc. so I never felt deprived. In fact, compared to my friends dad's he was much more involved with us. It was funny to us because whenever we went somewhere, people always assumed he was our grandpa. The only thing that I would have changed was the fact that he passed away when I was 12.

My mum took in foster children after my dad passed away and my sister was placed with us. My mum adopted her in 2008. My mum was 48 the year she was born. Mum is now 54 and my sister is 6. I would say that it is som,ewhat different for her. My mum is not quite as active, she unfortunately has back issues from her youth, but she still does plently of activities with her.

FIL was 40 when he had DH, which isn't so bad now, but back then it was late to have a child. All of DH's cousins on his dad's side are all in their late 40s/50s except one who's still 8 or 9 years older than DH. FIL has always been active and did all the usual stuff with him, though he worked a lot so DH always wishes he had more time with him when he was younger.

My mom was 21 and her mom was 43 when I was born. My gramma has been my second mom my whole life and is closer to the ages of my friends' parents than my own parents are. The only thing I can see that I'd worry about if my mom was older, closer to my gramma's age now, is that I'd feel bad that my LO's grandparents were a bit older and wouldn't be there for her when she's my age. I think it was a blessing to have younger grandparents who have been able to do things with me growing up--I remember my gramma rollerblading with me!

My dad was 15 years older than my mom, but my dad still did stuff with us. We didn't play outside together when we were younger, but he would bring us skating and we'd visit places (astronaut camp, planetarium, etc)

BTW I had my daughter at 38 and I keep up just fine. I don't anticipate any problems in sustaining a necessary energy level for her or her future sibling.

My mom had my oldest sister at 30, and my youngest sister at 40; my dad is a year younger than her. I don't think it negatively affected me or my sisters, to be honest. My parents were super involved with us, coaching our sports teams, chaperoning school field trips, etc... I imagine they were exhausted ALL the time, but it never stopped them from being there and being involved. Even now, my mom and dad chase DD around and play with her as much as DH and I do; you'd never guess that my mom and dad are in their late 60's.