So, my FIL & MIL, very graciously (and I want to be clear that I'm very appreciative of their gifting) gave some baby gear at our baby shower last month. Things have been hectic, so I'm only now taking it out to put together/look over, you know, two weeks before my EDD. :S

Anyway, the problem is that they bought these items second hand at a yardsale. That, in and of itself, isn't an issue - the majority of baby's things are second hand or DIY, I don't have hangups about buying used items. But these items (namely a bouncer and an infant swing) aren't in the best of condition. They're dirty and stained and I found dead bugs wedged in the swing's seat. Granted, that could be washed, I'm sure, thrown in the laundry. But it gives me pause and I'm not sure how to feel about going forward with using them.

Normally something like that wouldn't bother me, but I think I'm in this "Baby's going to touch it, must be clean, clean, clean" mode and I don't know if I'm just overreacting or not. Not to mention the bouncer didn't come with instructions so I have no.idea. how to even put it together. They also gave an infant carrier, but it doesn't fit, so I'm going to give that away.

The purger in me wants to just sit these items out for trash tonight, but now I'm concerned that FIL and MIL are going to take notice that these items aren't in the house when they come to visit and will ask questions and be super offended. And I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, I just...don't feel comfortable using them. Do these items expire like car seats do so I can use that as an excuse? Or should I suck it up and clean them as best as possible and use them?

This, of course, will leave us without an infant swing, but are those very necessary?

I think I've hit a 38-week-over-analyze-everything block