One of DH's best friends is getting married in NYC in early November (they only just confirmed the date yesterday). All of our family and most of our friends are in NYC because we moved out west 2 years ago. I am trying to decide whether we should take the kids and stay for a week or just let DH go alone for 3 nights. We plan to go to NYC and Toronto for two weeks in April.

PROS:
1. My dad and little sister havent met DS2 (will be 6 months)
2. I want to dress up and go to a wedding after being a SAHM in sweats for two years
3. My toddler (will be 31 months) will have fun and see relatives
4. If I don't go, I will be home alone with both while DH is gone 3 nights for the wedding and a weekend for the bachelor party in October
4. We have few close friends left in NYC who are unmarried, so there will be few events in the future that will draw us home

CONS:
1. Cross country flights with a 6 month old and 31 month old (will buy plane seats for both)
2. Toddler will have been in preschool for 2 months, so a vacation can be a disruption after finally getting used to it
3. Toddler will be newly potty trained (slowly working on it now) so trip can be a set back or disaster
4. Jet lag for all, especially after we return home
5. I have not pumped but will need to for someone to watch the baby during the wedding, and hope baby will take a bottle
6. Navigating airport and rental car pickup/drop off with toddler, baby, 2 carseats, snap n go, 2 heavy suitcases to check, plus carryon bags
7. Cost of 4 tickets and renting an apartment for a week, and then doing it again in April (DH says not to worry about the money but i do anyway)