My 9 month old suddenly only wants mom or dad (mostly mom). This is new to us (but apparently very typical) so I'm wondering... if her grandparents see her fairly often, will she do ok with them? Or only mom & dad will do? How often would she need to see them for her to not cry with them? Wondering what others have experienced with their LO. Thanks!
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My 1 year old went through this recently. It was weird. He flat refused to go to my parents, but had zero issues with my in-laws (and he sees them equal amounts just about). He also was totally cool with my uncle and his wife who he had never met before - he just got a good vibe off them.
I'd say just let everyone know stranger danger is happening and its a phase and it will pass.
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It depends - my son is 3 and has always had some anxiety with new people - the more often he sees somebody the more quickly he warms up but even with my parents, who are the most familiar people to him other than, like, us and his daycare teachers, he still sometimes needs a few minutes to warm up if he's feeling a bit grumpy.
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It really depends. My kiddo has gone through several stranger danger and separation anxiety phases. She will always go to my mom no problem. We joke that she is my daughter's favorite person. Sometimes it can take her a while to warm up to my dad. she always has reservations about my in laws, even though she sees them pretty often. She adores one of my husband's aunts, even though she rarely sees her. There doesn't seem to be much predictability to it.
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My DD had really strong separation anxiety for a long time. She hated my dad and my MIL until she was about 15 months old, but has loved my mom since birth. She doesn't see any of them that often, but we do FaceTime with my parents several times a week.
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My LO burst into tears when my mom approached him or spoke directly to him. It happened when he was 3 months old and at 9/ 10 months. She left early on the 10 month visit because I didn't force him to interact with her. Idk it didn't bother me that LO expressed his dislike for her in that way. I found her to be antagonistic and if he understood what she was saying he would have realized she was trying to shame him.
I had to help him warm up to my dad and others, but mostly people give him space and time. Just because someone is a blood relation doesn't mean they automatically get the perk of familiarity.
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My kids have both done this. I don't push it- they don't have to go to grandparents if they don't want to (unless they were on caregiver duty). It will probably pass.
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We have this problem. The way we fixed it was regularly facetiming with my parents. Like once or twice a week. He knows who they are and would get excited to see them. My in-laws didn't want to talk to him and he has no interest in them (we are working on this)
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My daughter sees my parents minimum once a week for dinner and my mum usually twice at least a week right now. If I'm around she often wants me only, but when I'm gone she's totally happy with my mum. She is still not excellent with my dad, but he didn't really put in the effort when she was little to get her all loved up. My in-laws face time with her pretty much every week, but we see them twice a year ish and she takes a few days to warm up to them and they don't push it which I'm glad because I would be upset if they forced it.
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