Just curious if anyone else is thinking of taking a TTC break coming up soon?
If we got a BFP on this cycle we would have a Halloween baby which I would be ok with, but I would like to avoid having a November or December baby.
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i am currently 11DPO (with a BFN this morning) so if i am not KU'ed this cycle i think we might take the next few months off...i love the holidays, and it is a really hard choice to make but we will see...
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I thought I was going to, but then I had another m/c and freaked out that we'd never have a take-home baby. Lo and behold, I had a Christmas baby!
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I thought about this when I was TTC, especially because there's already a lot of birthdays that I have to deal with during the holidays (nephew's birthday in late November, BOTH parents' birthdays in December, friend's birthday in December, MY birthday in early January), but I ultimately decided not to take a break, because you just never know when it's going to happen.
I would say I didn't stress out about it as much in March/April though - if we didn't time things right, I didn't get bent out of shape about it, because I figured that just means less stress around the holidays.
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This was important to me when I first started TTC. I started in May and thought I'd given myself enough time to avoid a December baby. Now that we've been TTC so long I don't care anymore. If our next round of treatments are successful I'll be having a winter baby. We definitely aren't taking any time off.
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If we hadnt gotten BFP last month, I wanted to take march off bc it would have been a Dec baby for me. DH was against the idea though bc even though we didn't prefer a Dec baby, if we went months after without a BFP, then we would have regretted skipping a month and losing the opportunity.
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This is why we we started TTC in April, cause I figured there was no way that we would get pregnant the first month. Then the rest of the year we were good. I am not sure though if we were trying that we would take the month off. Guess it would have depended on how long we were trying.
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If I was just starting TTC, I would probably skip out to avoid a Christmas baby... but it took us 15 months the first time, so I was just ready for a baby and didn't care when they decided to show up :o)
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We worried about it last year, and took a month off to avoid a Christmas baby. This year I no longer care. I just want a baby finally, I don't care if I'm due Christmas day, New Years Eve, or whenever.
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I'd love a baby any time of the year so I'll continue trying. I think the holidays would be extra special with a new baby!
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As a holiday baby myself, we avoided March while TTC and we will with subsequent children also! Having a Christmas birthday sucks.
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Thanks Ladies, we are actually just NTNP right now, but I still think we may avoid March for now. Ideal BFP month would be May, but that seems SOOO far away.
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I actually really, really wanted a Christmas baby and felt so grateful, so happy, that my wish came true. DS was born 12/17.
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I'm a December baby and I've always loved it! Just my 2 cents
Also, for me, after trying for a good long while for a LO, I don't think I would put off TTC for a reason like that, but again that's just me, and I guess if I had more than one already maybe that would change my opinion.
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It's a personal preference, but I feel sooo bad for my nephew whose birthday is 12/26. Even my Mom who was born 12/29 hates her birthday, because everyone is so sick of celebrating at that point!That probably wouldn't make me take a month off, but definitely something to consider.
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It was vaguely in the back of my mind before we started TTC, but after starting and the disappointment that it didn't happen right away, there was no way I could have stopped and taken a month off. Luckily it happened sooner rather than later and we are having a Sept baby!
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LOs bday is on Thanksgiving next year (this year it is the day before) It didnt even cross our minds to avoid the holidays
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I would not have. I had waited so impatiently just to start trying, and I was worried about how long it would take to get a BFP, so I wouldn't have stopped for almost anything. The only thing I would have stopped trying for would be my sister's wedding- I knew I had to be there, so if she had gotten engaged and set a date, i would have avoided that month only.
Of course, now we have a July due date and I have a mild concern about LO being the youngest in his class! -
I actually was thinking this last night but didn't want to sound crazy lol I def. don't want a baby in December. I'm okay with November but late December- January is not an ideal time for us!
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We weren't planning that specifically just not preventing but in glad we had a late nov baby so everything was on our high deductible
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@Thehistoryofus: We've talked about taking March off ... Besides the holidays (which is the main reason), we're in Portland, Oregon, which is really rainy in Nov, Dec, and January. I don't really want to have a baby during the super rainy season ... I just think post-partum would be better when I can get out in the sunshine.
Now that the 'break' is coming up next month (still crossing our fingers for a BFP this month), I feel like we shouldn't try NOT to ... but I really don't want an x-mas baby. Yikes ... these are hard choices!
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I never even though about this. I did originally think a summer baby would be nice so that I could have maternity leave while the weather is nice. But at this point, I'll take a baby whenever!
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When we first started trying I felt the same way-did not want a Christmas baby. When the time rolled around we just wanted a BFP at that point after trying for so long. We had actually agreed that it would be our last month trying since our DDs were getting older.
LO was due Christmas Eve and was born 12/21. It seemed like such a special gift. We have always agreed though that she will always have her birthday seperate from Christmas. Everyone deserves to have their own day:)
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We talked about start to ttc for our next in April BUT after seeing that would make a late DEC/early Jan baby AND me having to go through the summer in South Texas pregnant, which I've already done and will avoid like the plague if at all possible, I think we'll wait until after May.
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I was prob going to kind of do this if I hadn't gotten the BFP this month. But I was going to skip TTC in April and May. My son was born at the beginning of January so the month of April would skip over the end of the holidays/his birthday time. Then my doc actually recommends not to try in May b.c of all the pesticides and whatnot the farmers spread during that time period. He said if you trace back birth defects and preterm labor there is a noticeable spike with babies conceived in May. I don't know if I believe that but we conceived my son Memorial Day weekend a few weeks ago and he was born 6 weeks early.... so.... I don't know!
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Aw, I want a holiday baby! It's such a special time of the year, and the arrival a new baby would make it extra special!
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My birthday and my brothers birthday is right around Xmas, and my sisters birthday was around Thanksgiving. My parents birthdays were in between Thanksgiving and Xmas too. I think it was a blast having cake after cake after cake and all the celebrations! My other brother was the odd ball with a birthday in April =)
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We took breaks to avoid August, November, and December babies.
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Yes! I know we talked about this in another thread
We are trying into next month (I'd love a Thanksgiving baby), but taking a break for a month or so after that. We have our holiday baby already and want to spread the costs out a bit where birthdays and holidays are concerned. We have Christmas, the next week is my birthday, the week after is Cam's, and after that is my mom's. Financially it is a big hit, so ideally we want to spread it out a bit.
Last time we were ttc, I would have thought my answer was nuts since I just wanted a baby. Now I'm not in as big of a hurry. Knowing my luck, the mood will strike in April and...
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I never thought about this when we were trying for LO...she was born 11/11/11 and I love her birthday :). I loved having a winter baby and having an excuse to stay cozy at home when she was just born...also it was dark all the time and she slept great...and I was able to wear super comfy sweaters post partum...no pressure to wear cute summer outfits
I want to avoid TTC in February and March for our next baby though...so I can still have a nice birthday and Christmas for LO and I don't think I will be able to do that with a newborn (my husband thinks I am crazy bc it would just be one year that would be affected)
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I would rather have the baby just before the holidays or a few months after.
My birthday is in November and I wouldn't mind having her birthday close to mine, but it's a busy month already. I got pregnant with DD in April '11 and had her towards the end of January. The only problem I have with it is that it's a month after Christmas, so everyone is kind of burned out and she just got a ton of gifts.
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@sandy: ditto to that I looked pregnant still for at least a month I can't imagine trying to hide that in hot weather!! Layers scarves and open cardigans made me feel more normal
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I don't get this at all. If I wanted a baby, I want a baby. I don't see the point in trying to plan the optimal time of year for them to arrive.
They are a blessing whenever they arrive.
Who knows that might have been your month, and you gave up the chance.
My baby is due on my birthday and I am thrilled. I would equally thrilled if it were a Christmas baby. People seem to make such a big deal over the holidays, making a rod for their own back (I blame pinterst!).
Holidays mean family time for me, so if there is a birthday then even better!
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@mrsmenow: my son was also born on 12/21 (due Jan 2). The first year the holidays were a blur but since then we've had so much fun celebrating his birthday before Christmas! This past year we were with so many family members so that made it very special.
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@sea_bass: There are a lot of factors that people take into consideration when they are having a child. Things like how old do you want to be as a parent, how much money do you want in the bank, do you want to own a home, and how far apart do you want siblings. These are all timing decisions that people take into consideration when TTC every day. Of course we want a baby and of course it would be a blessing whenever they arrive but, if I had a choice, there are some timing factors I would like to consider and for me the holidays are one.
I agree with a lot of people on this thread, if you have been TTC for a while, its silly to take time off just to avoid a holiday baby. But for us, we aren't in a huge hurry for a BFP, so skipping a month or two might make sense for us.
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@sandy: That is a really cool birthday!!
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@blackbird: Did you avoid August for any specific reason? Was it because of school issues?
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@Thehistoryofus:
I completely understand delaying TTC for reasons like, how old do you want to be as a parent, how much money do you want in the bank, do you want to own a home, and how far apart do you want siblings (reasons which really wouldn't be resolved in a month).
I just see stopping for a month (or two) because you don't want to have a child around the holiday season as something pretty different (And vastly less significant, if I am honest).
I feel the same way about avoiding certain times of the year because you don't want your child to be the youngest in the class. If my parents had followed that train of thought, then I wouldn't be here.. But they didn't, and I am, and I have always been top of my class. Overplanning and trying to engineer an optimally timed child kind of freaks me out, if I am honest.
But that's just me, if its important to you, that's all that matters
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At this point I'd take a baby in any month! That said, DH has a birthday that often falls right around Thanksgiving and I feel sorry for him that his family usually throws in a card at the end of Thanksgiving dinner instead of doing a real birthday.
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I would agree with lots of the girls on here - I'd take a baby any month I can get it
I would say, you never know how long it will take so take advantage of EVERY month you can! My birthday is Jan 2nd and my nephew's is Dec 27th. My mom's is Nov 27th. It's never really bothered any of us! Plus, it's nice when you're older bc your family is all around those times anyway so you can celebrate!
We are trying into next month (I'd love a Thanksgiving baby), but taking a break for a month or so after that. Subscribe to our newsletter
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