First off I want to say I really don’t want to invite my BIL to Thanksgiving. Though I think I have to since he lives nearby and his only other choice is going to his parents that are 6 hours away.

The reason I don’t want to invite him is because I really don’t like him. I have tried time and time again to like him and we invite him to things but he always shows up late and is on his phone all the time even when we ask him not to be on his phone. He’s not a teenager mind you, he’s an adult in his 30s. He basically acts like a teenager though.

I’m thinking with the invite I’m going to attach some rules. Example : Come on time. Dress fairly nicely. Bring a side dish. Can’t be on your phone the whole time. Interact with the kids. Say nice things. Don’t be sarcastic.

When thinking about this… I’m pausing. Is it bad to give rules for coming to Thanksgiving? What would you do?