http://www.stuffmomssay.com/2016/03/the-five-moms-you-meet-on-facebook.html?m=1
Which one are you?
I think I'm guilty of sometimes being the "one upper mom's I'm consciously trying to change that!
http://www.stuffmomssay.com/2016/03/the-five-moms-you-meet-on-facebook.html?m=1
Which one are you?
I think I'm guilty of sometimes being the "one upper mom's I'm consciously trying to change that!
102 votes
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
I think I'm pretty relaxed, but I think I might veer into one-upper...almost always out of commiseration, though! Like "My toddler has a fever!" "Oh poor baby, I know it's hard! E once spiked a fever so high (105.9!) that we had to take him to the ER!"
nectarine / 2641 posts
In real life I'm a one-upper, but on FB (where my filter is better), I am pretty relaxed.
cantaloupe / 6692 posts
I started out as the "perfect mom" but now I'm definitely the relaxed mom. Haha.
pear / 1521 posts
I voted the Perfect Mom, not because I make comments like the one in the article but because pretty much only post the happy stuff on FB so I might be presenting the allusion of perfection when obviously I am not a perfect mom by any stretch!
In reality, I don't really comment on parenting related posts on facebooks besides to be like cute baby! And stuff like that. I'm too afraid of people taking things really poorly (like when I've seen pictures of kids in puffy coats in car seats and things like that, despite totally cringing I would never say anything).
clementine / 955 posts
I don't have a Facebook and this is bad, but... The shaming mom sounds like me . When I worked in retail and people would let thier kids run around the store and other things I would catch myself wanting to say something about thier parenting. With that being said that was before I had kids lol.
nectarine / 2148 posts
I'm definitely more relaxed. Even on Facebook. I don't really have time nor care about other people. Although I do occasion judge some of the severe oversharing. My parenting often has me saying 'fuck it' or 'ain't nobody got time for that'
honeydew / 7504 posts
Relaxed, definitely. I'll usually empathize with someone, maybe offer some personal experience, but that's about it. My sister is a one-upper and it makes me so mad.
nectarine / 2115 posts
I'm gonna have to admit I'm probably the Unsolicited Advice Mom (not listed). I'm totally aware of it, and it comes from a place of caring, but I'm definitely trying to do more listening and less "helping".
grapefruit / 4355 posts
Definitely relaxed. I'm pretty "go with the flow" with my parenting mentalities.
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@Jess1483: @mrsrain: @Jackiedavis87: @petitenoisette: @artsyfartsy: lol! Hey! We realize it so now we can change.
grapefruit / 4712 posts
I am normally a laid back/relaxed momma. Sometimes I am that mom shaming mom. That part of me makes me sad.
pear / 1503 posts
I don't post on FB, but I think in real life I may come across as the perfect mom (in this context), even though I really feel I'm the relaxed mom. We are the only one of all of my friends to breastfeed to 1 year (although still 2 weeks shy of this goal, with no plan to stop anytime soon). LO has not caught any of mine or DH's colds or the really bad strep throat I had. I've mentioned to a few friends that I'm amazed, and then say it's probably because of the antibodies. We also cloth diaper (again the only one), and he never gets rashes, except with weird new foods like kiwis. Again, I think it's because of the CD. They both work for us, and I'm happy with the results, if that's what they are. But I don't judge anyone else for their choices. I honestly feel, "meh, to each their own," and these are both my own way of "slapping some Tylenol on it," which I also do! But I can admit that others looking in may see this all as trying to be perfect, even though I'm just doing what works for us.
pomelo / 5866 posts
I'm the "Isn't our World Beautiful and Funny?Mom." After being on a 6 month break from FB, I'm back on. Last year, I did a 3 month break and the year before I think I did 1 month...maybe. Can't remember. Anyway, I like to post, like and comment on beautiful, awesome or funny things.
cantaloupe / 6131 posts
I feel like I'm relaxed about most things, except my son's schedule. Never mess with the schedule or I cut you. Don't most parents have like a pet issue that they are anal about? I feel like perfect moms just have many, many pet issues. I'm also sorta guilty of one upping but I swear it's virtually always to commiserate with another mom about something awful happening to them, not to be like "winning" or whatever.
pear / 1739 posts
I think I would consider myself a hot mess of a mom. I always have forgotten something. Even when I try to look great and have the kids nice and tidy something happens and we look like the hot mess family. Lol
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
If I had to pick one, I think it would have to be the relaxed mom or none of them.
grapefruit / 4455 posts
I really don't believe that 68% of HB users are the relaxed mom!
I'm probably none of the above but I'm sure I have moments of all of them.
@Jackiedavis87: that sounds harmless to me! It was before you had kids anyway!
pear / 1770 posts
@2littlepumpkins: haha, I was thinking the same thing! There are a lot of words to describe the typical HB mom, but "relaxed" isn't one of them!
coconut / 8483 posts
@2littlepumpkins: lol i was thinking the same thing!
I don't really post about parenting on Facebook other then an occasional pic of my kid.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Haha, I'm like a mix of 4 and 5! I realized I'm a little bit crunchy - breastfeednig, babywearing, co-sleeping... And I've been surprising relaxed even tho DD is my first LO (or have I forgotten all my freak outs in the early days?!)
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I'd say i'm the relaxed mom with a hint of one upper. I catch myself doing it in conversation, not meaning too and i try to stop myself! But when it comes to doctor visits/medicine/ect. i'm totally relaxed compared to some friends. I do not take my children to the doc for a cold or a fever unless it carries on or warrants it. I have a friend who's son sneezes and she's in there and it annoys me! I'm like "you are the reason i can't get a decent appointment when my kid is actually sick"
pomegranate / 3272 posts
@2littlepumpkins: I couldn't agree more!
I would say that if everyone was being honest with themselves, they'd recognize that they're a bit of all of them rolled into one. I know I would said that about myself.
pomelo / 5524 posts
@2littlepumpkins: Right?!?
I'm a bit of each one on certain days. Who hasn't judged another mom as much as we try not to? And who hasn't one-upped at least once? I breast fed for 4 months with each kid, but the one I least identify with is the natural mom. I certainly slap a bit of tylenol on it often, but I'm most certainly not relaxed. @ValentineMommy: you said it best! I think I'd describe myself as the anxious mom!
Though...none of this is on FB. I keep the crazy to myself
apricot / 486 posts
I don't really know what kind of mom I am on Facebook. I post a lot of pictures, so maybe an "oversharer." But only for photos. In real life, I am probably the one-upper. I tend to talk about my LO a lot during convos with other moms. I try to catch myself because I know it is really selfish. But, my parenting style is really relaxed. I don't freak out about little things.
grapefruit / 4235 posts
Agree with @mrsrain: i'd be the unsolicited advice mom. But in my mom group, they're always asking me for advice b/c they know i've already researched everything. so...kind of annoying but comes from a good place.
nectarine / 2521 posts
I also think I fall into more of the, "Hot mess of a mom," category. I never have my shit together I am guilty of the one upping when talking to moms at times!
pomegranate / 3392 posts
I'm not on FB, so I didn't vote in the poll. I'd like to think I'm the "funny" mom like on Twitter, HB, etc. but I don't know! I think it's harder to judge ourselves to ourselves. I'd love to ask how fellow Bees perceive me (good or bad), but I don't know if I "stand out" enough on here to have anyone form an opinion of me, ha ha.
honeydew / 7622 posts
A mix of the perfect Mom & relaxed Mom. I like things a certain way but I think I'm super relaxed for a FTM.
grapefruit / 4731 posts
I don't have facebook and I didn't read the article but from the names themselves I don't think I fit any of those.
I'm the logistics mom. I research everything! I know all the things we need to do logically. Executing is hard!!
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
@MoonMoon: I actually think you are one of the few true fairly relaxed moms without venturing into the "annoying" territory.
grapefruit / 4731 posts
@MoonMoon: You seem funny! I mean your user name is a from a meme... right? (I actually don't know just assuming... )
Figuring out your wolf name... and someone ended up with moon moon ... and it went viral.
grapefruit / 4066 posts
On FB with my friends I feel like I'm the "I research everything online and know more than the average mom but I don't want to sound too smart/know it all".
Like when someone on FB posts "Omg my 6 month old won't sleep! He has been awake for 10 hours! Maybe he's just not tired?" And I want to write a novel bc I research anything and everything but don't want to sound like a know it all or expert lol.
pomegranate / 3392 posts
@regberadaisy: aww, thank you! I'll try to continue
@Raindrop: yes! Can't get enough of that Moon Moon, haha!
cherry / 193 posts
Definitely the relaxed mom.
Your kid came down the slide and accidentally kicked my kid into the mud? Don't worry! She's not bleeding. Eating sand at the beach? It's natural or whatever. No nap today? Sure, why not. Early bedtime!
nectarine / 2750 posts
I'm probably a mix of natural and relaxed. I definitely use my oils and give him honey and lemon for a cold, but I also am pretty hands off and let him jump off the couch and climb ladders (that I am holding) and stuff.
persimmon / 1467 posts
I'm a mix between relaxed, one upper, and over achiever I guess. But mostly relaxed. I think I do the one upper by accident in an attempt to commiserate.
I like to research stuff a lot but at the end of the day I'm lazy and. want to give my kid the freedom to just be a kid. Except don't mess with his nap schedule!
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
There was recently a video going around that was similar and the hot mess mom was the one that spoke to me haha!
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