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On average, we spend about $150-200 per wedding for the cost of the gift. We want to at least cover our meal per person. We've rarely had to travel for weddings. When we've been in bridal parties though... it has gotten really expensive. I'd say over $1000 if you consider the cost of throwing the bridal shower, doing the 2-3 day bachelorette party thing, in addition to a wedding gift.

I was in my friend's wedding two summers ago, and it cost me $2000. I had told my own bridesmaids I didn't want the costs getting out of control, and to let me know if they went over $500 I would split the difference with them. We were all in grad school still. I told the bride up front I didn't have thousands of dollars to commit since I had just taken the bar, and was still waiting on job/results. She said, "oh no problem!" Ugh, yeah right lol. As a guest not in the wedding party, but still invited to the festivities I can easily spend $300+, and that's if I were still living in my hometown. Now, we have to add $300-$500 plane tickets to that

Sometimes we bow out of weddings because we don't want to incur a babysitters cost, lol. Nearly all our close friends are married

I thought that was a low estimate! Usually when we have a wedding to attend, it's an international flight costing a few grand, plus cost of outfits, plus drinks at the wedding (weddings in England rarely include an open bar), taxis or cost of hotel room for the night.....

Oh wow... No, all the weddings I've attended just consisted of the wedding, no extra parties on top. I don't think anyone complained

I think travel makes up the vast majority of the cost for a typical guest. It's hard to pin that on the bride and groom unless it's a destination wedding.

I haven't felt pressured to attend any long distance showers or engagement parties. My friends are just scaling up the bachelorette parties to bachelor destination weekend level. I've been pregnant and having babies the last three years so I've had any easy out. I'd like to go in theory but not pregnant or BFing.

We are going to Mexico in Nov for my good friends wedding. $2K ( 5 days 4 nights) the hotel, all inclusive, plus flights. Luckily we have miles to cover those. I am a bridesmaid so between throwing a shower, bachelorette weekend, dress, and gift for shower, $1K easily. They told everyone they don't want wedding gifts, since we are traveling and spending so much to get there.

My sister is 28 and very popular. I don't even want to know how much she spends on weddings and wedding related stuff. Her friends are fancy too, these Bachelorette parties are taking place across the country or on an island somewhere. I couldn't do it! We do have two weddings coming up that we have to travel to so it'll be expensive but we're close to the people getting married.

The majority of the weddings I have been invited to, I did not go to showers, bachelorettes, rehearsal dinner, etc. Plus, you don't give a gift at the rehearsal dinner, even if you are invited! But when you add in travel, babysitting, car rental, hotel, etc, plus $150-$200 for a gift, weddings are expensive. I don't mind tho, I love attending them!

I'm so happy wedding season (no more engaged friends) is over because they are costly!! The last wedding we attended required an overnight stay (lodging + food + gas) and a wedding gift.

Getting dressed for a wedding is an extra expense sometimes- appropriate outfit, hair and nails.

I think much of it depends on the style of wedding the couple is having. The only super formal wedding I've been to is my SIL, but she's also a wedding planner. Ours was extremely casual, and while many people traveled, we tried to make it fun and relaxed.

Unless it's family or someone really close, we usually limit it to 1-2 a year because of the costs and arrangements to make. Fortunately we were one of the last of our friends/family to be married.

We are going to a wedding across the country later this summer for a close co-worker, but we are also making a vacation out of it. So while there are travel costs, they aren't entirely dedicated to the wedding. Besides clothes, we are gifting toward their honeymoon, so those are the main costs. These days we only do kid-friendly weddings, so no costs for sitters either.

Holy crap. We spend MAYBE $100 per wedding which includes absolutely everything. The average people give for a wedding gift around here is $50 though. We've never had to travel for a wedding and unfortunately haven't been able to attend some showers/bachelor(ette) parties so I guess we save there.

I think it depends on if you're in the bridal party or not, and if they wedding is out of town or in town. I just went to a wedding this weekend, and in addition a gift, we had to drive 2 hours to get there, spent $200 on a hotel room, and had to eat out for lunch and breakfast the next day. That wedding probably cost us about $400 to attend.

My husband is a groomsman in an upcoming wedding, and we have to spend way more for that one. Just the bachelor party alone will be over $1,000, since it's in Vegas. My husband is using our credit card points to purchase plane tickets, but he said they would have been $800 if he had to purchase them out of pocket! That's crazy!!

I'm in a wedding in a couple of weeks and I've already spent over $600 not counting a wedding gift. It's not a destination wedding, but we do have to get a hotel for 1 night. Luckily, it's in my hometown, so we don't have to pay for a babysitter.

Wow! I probably spend $500 if I am actually in the wedding and $100-$150 if I am a guest. I don't think of myself as cheap, but the weddings I go to are usually less formal affairs.