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I ignored my Facebook for a good 2 months after my m/c because it was so hard. A close friend who also happened to be married to DH's cousin (so she was family as well) had her baby 2 days after my m/c. I just couldn't handle it at that point.

It's totally okay to have those feelings!!

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I'm sorry you're struggling, but it hasn't been that long - don't be too hard on yoursrlf. I'm still thinking of you. I hope you get your BFP and sticky baby soon.

And the wine, soft cheese and even sushi sound perfect tonight!

Oh darling-big hugs. I have been there, and it is awful. I pretended to have it together, but it was such a lie, even to myself. Just know that however you react is fine. It is ok to be sad, it is ok to be happy, it is ok to go between the two. And know that you are not alone

Oh no, I'm so sorry. I've totally been there. A friend announced her surprise pregnancy (with a guy she had not long started seeing) a few weeks after my early m/c. There is no rhyme or reason to it and it just so unfair. Hugs.

Been there as well. My cousin is pregnant with her fourth, and her due date is about 2 weeks after mine would have been. It's really hard some days, even though I feel so much better about the m/c than I did at first. I didn't hide her on fb because she almost never posts about her pregnancies, but she did post something the other day about how many weeks she was. That hit me way harder than expected because I'd managed to avoid thinking about how far along I would be by now. Since her edd is so close to mine, I couldn't help but know.

I agree with the others that you have *every right* to hide her for as long as you need. Take care of yourself first. Hope you enjoy your wine and cheese and all, and lots of hugs. You're not alone and we all care!

I'm so sorry. Your feelings are perfectly normal. Thinking of you.

@NorCalWayfarer: Sounds like you have a wonderful attitude about it. I think I'm going to remind myself of that quote as well.

@NorCalWayfarer: good girl but when you need a shoulder to cry on, know we are here. Or a pity party...we throw good ones of those, too

I'm so sorry @NorCalWayfarer! Thinking of you and hope you enjoy that wine tonight!

I'm so so sorry. I've been on the other end of this- my cousin and I are like sisters and were due with our first pregnancies within 3 days of each other. She had a loss when she was almost at 12 weeks and had to watch me progress exactly where she should have been. I watched her devastation, and it broke my heart. I know how personal it feels, especially when it's such a tender issue as having a baby, but I hope you know that those who love you want it for you too, and are rooting/ praying/ crossing fingers for you. I hope you get your sticky baby very soon, and in the meantime enjoy that glass of wine!

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Sorry again for your loss . I think that any feeling you have is legitimate - I'm a firm believer that when you suffer a loss like so many of us have, there's no feeling or thought process that's "wrong". Sadness, frustration, anger...happiness because you get to drink wine again All of that is "normal" because its how you feel.

With both of my losses, I've had a friend that ended up being due 2 weeks before me. My most recent one (found out about loss two weeks ago, D&C one week ago) I was due Feb 19th and one of my close friends is due Feb 4th. We were so excited to be due so close together, so its hard now to know that as she progresses I would have been 2 weeks behind her.
My first one I would have been due in two weeks (Aug 30th)! And our friend was due 8/10 (she ended up giving birth 4 weeks early and I'm meeting her baby girl tomorrow). So after my MC in January, to get a text from her that she was due 2 weeks before I would have been was hard.
Absolutely NO ill will or resentment towards either of them - I am so happy for them both and, coincidentally, they have both suffered miscarriages - so that makes it so much sweeter that they have arrived or are on their way to a healthy baby. But it will definitely be hard to meet the baby that would have been so close to the age of mine tomorrow - and to watch my other friend progress as I would have if the 2nd had stuck...a constant reminder from both.

The point of my rant is that you're not alone and we all have stories about the pregnancy announcements that stung the most - feel no guilt or shame Lots of love to you!