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That is good news. It means that you genetically can try again, without worrying that you are purposely endangering another baby. If you know it was genetic or chromosomal, you would be questioning more whether it's ethical to try for another. Sounds like your miscarriage just was a random occurrence.

This is something I wanted to know about S. DH and I were worried, since we had an early miscarriage prior to her, that maybe we weren't genetically compatible or something. We definitely wanted to make sure that it wasn't some genetic combination of us that make her and the early miscarriage fail. Turns out it wasn't that at all, so we have a good chance of delivering this LO without a problem. It was mostly just a "freak accident".

@Kate6214: I can completely understand having mixed feelings and some sadness at finding out that there wasn't anything "wrong" with baby. The bright side is that hopefully you will never have to have the heartbreak of miscarriage again, but I can only imagine that it might make you second-guess what could have gone differently so that she would be with you now. I hope that you find peace with the results. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and I believe you can take your doctor's words as encouragement. Big hug!

@Kate6214: Hi, I'm very sorry for your loss. Its an awful experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone.
So I'm bringing the POV of someone who did the chromosome testing and got the opposite response. Ours did come back with an abnormality and it was a strange abnormality that made them think it was us. Well, it was - its coming from me. I've posted about it a ton, so if you want to read more about it you can here:
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crap-i-have-a-balanced-translocation
*And my odds are way worse than I originally thought when I started this board. I should probably update it in case anyone searches for balanced translocations later.

Anyway, I want to say that its definitely, 100% better that the baby had no chromosomal abnormalities. If it did, you'd be heading down a totally different path than "have fun trying" from your doctor. There'd be more tests and more worrying over whether you are passing this horrible illness to your own children. And to be clear, more likely than not it would have been random anyway, even if it was chromosomal...my situation isn't very common - that I'm the one passing it on. Most chromosomal abnormalities are random or "de novo".

As far as Dr. Google saying it was possibly your chromosomes, I'm not an expert but I don't see how that would be possible. If you had a chromosmal abnormality (as I do) and that was the reason for the miscarriage, then the tissue testing would not have come back as normal.

So what I'm getting at is that you definitely would NOT have felt any better knowing it was chromosomal. I'm not trying to trivialize your loss at ALL, we thought our first one was random and that hurt just as much. I'm just saying that if it was chromosomal and then you had to start worrying about why the chromosome abnormality came to be, its even scarier. Because I can't change my chromosomes. There's no medicine I can take to make me pass on only the good half of my chromosomes. Every single time we have sex I now have to be afraid of getting pregnant. AFRAID of getting pregnant. Who on HB is now afraid to have sex with their husband because they might get pregnant. Isn't that the only reason most of us have sex with our husbands? I'm kidding...sort of ;-). Our only option is IVF w/PGD and our odds with that are even scary.

So, take a deep breath and instead of being worried, be grateful. Take your docs advice and have fun trying. I wish we could!

Separate question: is this your first miscarriage? If it is, I wouldn't worry too much. But if you are, don't be afraid to tell your doctor that you want to be more 'vigilant' with your next pregnancy. Maybe test for progesterone early on, have betas to check for doubling HCG, etc. They are simple blood tests that they shouldn't deny you. I'm sure its all fine, but it could just bring you some peace to know its fine. That really helped after my first miscarriage because they were all normal. We didn't know about the chromosomes at the time, but since you do know it wasn't chromosomal, the betas should bring you even more peace.

Good luck to you!!! Big hugs!

@Kate6214: That's GREAT that your doc is proactive. I agree, i think that anytime a D&C is performed, the tissue should be tested, even if its the first. Ours wasn't (I had a D&C the first time too) and it would have saved us a lot of time and heartbreak had we seen the abnormality that I am passing on earlier.
I just reread my original reply to you and I hope you know I wasn't trying to make you feel bad. I just wanted to help you feel better about the results being 'normal'.
Good luck and keep us posted! Rooting for you!

Good luck and keep us posted.