So, DH and our friend were having a discussion about toddler behaviour. This friend has a 15 month old (who was a preemie and therefore is actually on par with a 12-13 month old) who is pretty chill, and not walking yet. A mutual friend has a very busy 18 month old; she's not "bad", just your typical toddler getting into everything, "talking" (squealing) a lot, etc.

The friend who DH was talking to believes that the reason the 18 month old is so "rambunctious" is a direct result of parenting, so I assume he meant that they are too lax and let her do what she wants. Therefore, he thinks the reason his kid is so chill is because of how his wife and him "parent". DH WHOLE-HEARTEDLY disagreed. He explained that every kid is different, you'll get some super busy, want to get into everything types, or you'll get the lax ones that are content with just sitting in one spot for an extended period of time playing with their toys. At that young of an age, it has nothing to do with "parenting". It is your job to set the boundaries, of course, but it is entirely just "who the kid is" when it comes to how busy they are.

DH went on to say that if you look at siblings, sometimes they will be completely different. Our friend argued that "obviously the parents did something different with each one." ...We hope their second one is a little hellion. Not really, but kind of.

What does the hive think? Does toddler behaviour have anything to do with a result of how you parent (outside of being defiant, of course) or is every kid different?