My daughter's 3rd birthday is coming up and I'm struggling to figure out how large of a party to have. We live in an amazing neighborhood with 14 kids she plays with on a regular basis. She also has about 6 kids at preschool that she loves and a few friends kids. I don't want to hurt anyone's feeling but am wondering how many kids is too many? She's incredibly extroverted and is used to playing with a ton of kids at once..I'm thinking of having a bouncy house and pizza to keep it simple.
kiwi / 543 posts
I haven't hosted yet, but my daughter just went to a preschool classmate's 4th birthday party. There were about 10 kids there. Between the kids and their parents, it felt like a good max number. I definitely wouldn't do more.
That being said, I read somewhere that a good rule of thumb is the child's age +1.
clementine / 912 posts
My son turned 4 a few months ago and we invited the 11 kids in his preschool class plus a few siblings. It was a perfect number of kids and we were able to interact with all the parents.
I personally find it harder to manage hosting duties when we have multiple groups of friends and prefer a group of kids and parents that are already familiar.
cherry / 182 posts
I'd say... send cupcakes to the preschool for those 6 kids. (I used to also make a pinata. The only sad part, was I wasn't there when they broke it)
Do the bounce house with the kids neighborhood .. and your friends' kids... I would think that's a happy medium without going overboard... my 2 cents
pomegranate / 3595 posts
@azbaby: we invited probably around the number you would end up with if you invited everyone for our preschool parties. The thing to remember is that not everyone is going to come, so think about what will be fun and manageable for you and your family. If lots of people running around and a bounce house and pizza sounds like your scene, then just do it! If it gives you panicky feelings then cut the size. I find those parties fun so they have worked for us.
I do think offering an in school alternate for the preschool class might be a good way to cut, and at some point when we were in the “have to invite the whole class” stage we cut back on other friends coming.
But it will be fun whatever you decide!