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I can't offer advice specific to your question but I just wanted to say I totally understand your feelings. We are actually preventing bc we have our twins and I'm STILL sad when AF shows up, still find myself obsessing over O symptoms, still find myself upset when others get pregnant on their first try, etc. It's amazing how consuming IF is. I'm sorry you're going through it all again.
But, I think there's no reason why if IUI plus injections worked the first time, it wouldn't work again! Try not to go down the 'worst case' scenario road bc it doesn't do anything except create stress. You could try and IUI or two, then take a break if it doesn't work and try naturally for a few months. It doesn't have to be an 'all or nothing' decision, if that makes sense. Hoping you get your BFP easily and quickly!

Our son is 21 months old and we are doing IVF again starting next week. We are completely out of pocket (first IVF and this one) so it is super pricey and scares the crap out of me because if this one doesn't work, we will be one and done, but not by choice.

Many women don't need treatments the 2nd time around, so hopefully you won't! Perhaps, try on your own a few months, then see your RE if need be? What is your diagnosis/reason for IUI in the first place? Since you are over 35, I wouldn't wait more than a few months before seeing the RE if you have diminished reserve. I will be 37 next month so I'm getting old and have less chances of success with IVF so that's why we are going ahead now. If I were younger, we'd be waiting a few more years to go for #2. I hate infertility, too. It's just awful!! Sorry you are feeling stressed/anxious about it. Lots of great support on here!!

@sweetooth: I did IVF for R (12.5 months old). I got pregnant accidentally when she was only 7 months old. That pregnancy ended in miscarriage in March. We were back at the RE in April. I did a FET cycle in May and I'm 10 weeks pregnant with LO #2. I decided I didn't want to wait because I didn't know how many FET cycles I would need for a sticky baby.

@sweetooth: That sounds like a good idea-to have an appt. in place just so you do have a plan if you don't get pregnant on your own. I have a friend with unexplained infertility that used IVF three times (has two sons) and never got pregnant on her own. Until now. She's due next month with her 3rd child w/o using IVF. She and her RE were both stunned that it happened, so as they say, anything is possible!! Thanks for the well wishes! I'm excited, but super nervous!!

I'm excited for you and hope TTC #2 is smooth sailing. How is your husband feeling about it all? Is he anxious as well?

I can imagine the mixed feelings the situation. No joke--at ultrasound #1, my husband was going to ask when we can start trying for #2 and if we need all the IF treatments again. And pregnancy announcements have still been hard for me to hear, something I thought would go away once I was pregnant. The feelings and experiences from infertility have lasting impacts.

I think having an appointment in place could help relieve some anxiety because then you know you have a plan in place. Also, I don't know if this will be the same for you, but when I made my first appointment with the RE to TTC #2 I was so incredibly sad about it, to know I would have to go through it all again, and it took me a little while to get over that, so I was glad to have a buffer of a few months. When I finally did have my appointment, I was pleasantly surprised at how different my frame of mind was this time around now I already have a child. My biggest fear of never being a mum wasn't there any more so it was all a lot easier to cope with. Whatever you decide, I hope it's an easy and stress free journey.

@sweetooth: with the first we just did Clomid with TI. the 4th cycle worked. (I had two chemicals before success each time.) this time Clomid just destroyed my lining and all our IUIs failed one way or another. then I went off Clomid because we were moving and would be changing REs, and after a couple months of just metformin we got lucky. I'm a pretty big case of "who the heck knows". we were talking about IVF as a next step when we lived in MA and it would have been covered (since I responded well to clomid they were not into doing injectibles).

the impression I got on testing was that over a year required new tests. they redid all the basic stuff - ultrasounds, CD3 bloodwork, repeat loss panel for my specific case. I had karyotyping done for me and DH the first time and that obviously doesn't change over time. I did not have another HSG - maybe because my first was normal - but they wanted a hysteroscopy instead. the endometrial biopsy they did there ended up showing potential for endometritis - chronic inflammation of the lining - which is treated with heavy antibiotics, so that took extra time because I couldn't start treatment until that was over. all in it took about 2 months I'd say. but, more complicated in my case due to repeat loss issues (by the time we started I'd had 3 chemicals). it may have also been different switching doctors, who not only wanted to use their own labs but had different ideas about treatment. I hope in your case it goes more smoothly!

We conceived my first DS on our 3rd IUI after being diagnosed with unexplained fertility. My period came back after I stopped bf'ing when he was 9 months old. We planned to go back to the RE after the new year, however we surprisingly got pregnant right around his 1st birthday while NTNP! Good luck

I'm pretty sure we'll have to go back to the RE too. I didn't ovulate on my own for months before conceiving, and I still haven't gotten my period back, even though we've fully weaned. I'm so amazed you guys are ready for another baby! D has gotten to a really enjoyable age and is STTN and I feel like I just want to enjoy having it a little easier for a while :). I also kinda hated pregnancy, lol.

But I'm the same age you are and I want to have our next baby at 37 so we can't wait forever.

@GreenThumb: I feel the same way as you! Started trying at 32 right after marriage, but didn't have my son until 35 and now I'm a month away from 37 so time isn't on my side. Feels very rushed. If I were younger, we'd be waiting. So I hate that both my age and infertility are pushing me to have the 2nd child we want sooner. But such is life I guess!

@sweetooth: Congratulations!!!! Wishing you a happy and healthy nine months!!