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I'm on the fence about temping too. I picked it up because I feel like if I have a clue what's going on, I will be less anxious. But I haven't used OPKs because I feel like that's a black hole and once you start, you can't stop.

But I'm also about to begin Creighton charting (mucous focused instead of temp based) and am wondering if I'll be able to give up the temping or not. I'd LOVE to not have to wake up early every morning, but I'm not convinced my body is "normal" enough to rely on mucous signs alone (I have allergies and take daily meds that can affect mucous, and I'm not convinced I have enough of it for Creighton to really work?)

But I haven't temped since last week since I figure they'd be thrown out anyway between fevers and drugs and not sleeping great...

@MaryM: I actually really like using opks. I watch cm, and I don't start opks until it's turning fertile. I do a few days of opks and then it's done. I feel like it's so much less to think about than temping. That being said, if I don't get preggo again soon, I may start temping. Anyway, just wanted to throw my perspective out there in case it's helpful.

@MaryM: I also felt like opk were a rabbit hole. Well of course I finally went down it and I love it. I still tracked when we were ntnp and that helped notch it down on obsessive scale. Like pp I have it down pretty well now and only pee on them twice, sometimes 3x. It gives me confirmation I'm ovulating as that was my problem.

Having said that, it sounds like you have a good plan for ttc. It can all be a bit obsessive. I keep telling myself that a few months doesn't matter in the long run.

@MaryM: I understand. I feel like I'm getting more obsessive with each cycle, which is why I'm hesitant to temp. I get not wanting to start opks.

@Zbug: I forgot to reply to your other post. My SIL is due 10 days after I was (also Jan).

I love her dearly, but I've had to turn her away from visiting me, and can't think of visiting my mom yet (she lives next door). It's the second time we've been pregnant together but wasn't nearly this hard last time.

I feel really secluded because of most of our friends being pregnant or having babies. We knew 14 people who were pregnant with me the first time. One of them is due next month with her second. My best friends don't have children, but none of them are nearby.

So, in direct opposition to "letting go" of my need to imagine some sense of control over this whole thing, I temped this morning. I was still high, so Fertility friend bumped my ovulation date earlier by two days, and has me at 7dpo.
So obviously I have now reviewed a bunch of "post miscarriage + delayed ovulation" charts. I'm still skeptical that I ovulated, but being 7dpo would be pretty nice at this point.
I'm still debating calling my OB next week if I haven't gotten my period by cd 35.

I know I shouldn't test at 10dpo, but I did and now am super bummed that it was bfn. I got a faint line at 10dpo last time. I know every pregnancy is different and 10dpo is super early, but I just have to feeling that I'm out again this month. My cousin had a baby this morning, so that's not sadly not helping my mood.

Just needed to vent. Ugh.

@LibbyLou: thank you.

Hi ladies. Haven't been on baby boards much lately, so I just discovered this thread. Hope you don't mind me jumping in late.

Date of loss: We had our 3rd ultrasound on October 11th and learned that the baby hadn't grown and the heart had stopped beating. I had a D&C the next day. We've had a MC and a CP prior to this.

How long are you waiting to TTC again: Doc will probably tell me I have to wait at least 2 cycles. That's what she told me after my CP. I will know more at my follow up on Wednesday.

Any kids: 15 year old son. (Step, but I hate saying stepson. He's mine too. Lol.) My husband got full custody on September 24th!

How are you feeling? Physically: I'm fine, although I think I've been overdoing it at work. I work in assisted living, very physical, and I'm drained after working 3 long shifts in a row. Emotionally: Depends on the day. I work a lot and I'm in school, so I distract myself easily. But when I have downtime, I just want to cry at the thought of having to try again. And tonight hubby and I were goofing off and he pretended to punch me in the stomach. I yelled "Don't hit the baby!" and then broke down when I realized my mistake.

I'm having trouble getting back in the groove of charting. I've temped three times over the last two weeks and can't ever remember to check CM. The two times I remembered this week, I didn't remember until after hubby and I had been intimate. Kinda pointless to check then. Lol

@noelani: thank you. I feel like I should throw all my tests away to avoid early testing. That may be a bit dramatic

Mind if I join this group? I had an early loss at 5-6 weeks last month. We had been trying for baby #2 for 6 months so it felt pretty sad I finally stopped bleeding a couple of weeks ago and think my cycle might be back to normal already and I just ovulated.

Did anyone not go back to TTC right away? It's not that I'm worried my body needs a break its more that emotionally I don't think I could handle it if I have another miscarriage so soon. So we are kind of NTNP.

@illumina: We haven't "tried" so to speak, but we have the same fear. I had a still birth at 22 weeks. The first time DH and I had sex was followed with some really odd mucous like I've never seen before, so we're both rather worried that my fertility could have returned and we didn't realize it.

Hoping that I wasn't fertile, I'm learning starting NaPro treatment and learning a new charting method and they recommend abstaining for a month so that you know you're charting correctly. So we definitely will be waiting a while longer.

My doctor hasn't given a firm recommendation of time to wait, but I think it's a delicate balance of not waiting too long because of IF and our ages, but waiting long enough that we can fully grieve losing our daughter. If I got pregnant in the next couple of months, I'm pretty sure DH would check me into a hospital and insist I stay there for the next 9 months....

I also had one early loss in 2014.

@illumina: a sad welcome & so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about wanting to wait to ttc. We stated trying straight away once we were cleared, but a little part of me was still terrified. My DH was keen to start again so I sort of agreed. I did/do feel like getting pregnant again will make me feel better...is this normal I wonder?! Hugs to you, make sure you e got lots of support around you as the weeks go on...the sadness just keeps coming back at random times and it isn't fun

@KrzyRiver: so sorry about your loss - I agree with you & @Zbug: SO MANY people around me are pregnant and it's killing me!i just heard that my doctor who I dealt with for my MC is also pregnant and due in April. She told one of my friends (who also sees her & is also due in April!!) but clearly didn't mention to me because she was trying to be sensitive...but still, I can't help but feel like the entire universe is knocked up! And I'm not!

Sorry for the venting - I'm having a sad day & I think it just might be early PMS?! Yay!

@catlady: hope you're going ok!

@KrzyRiver: I can't even tell you how many people I've unfollowed on FB... Thank god for that feature!

@Nutella: ugh. My office used to have just one sonographer. She was pregnant the first time I miscarried. It was tough to go back for followups on my cysts and watch her get more pregnant while we stared at my empty uterus. She is so sweet though, I was able to get through it, she nearly cried last week when I had my first follow up with her.

Alright I'm back. Ugh. I feel like I have spent half the last year pregnant with nothing to show for it. Long story short: loss at 22 weeks back in December and then a loss 2 weeks ago at 10 weeks. We will start TTC when I get my cycle back.

I'm still having scans and bloodwork following the misoprostol. It's been two weeks and it's still not all gone. My goal was to avoid a D&C and I'm not so sure that was a wise choice.

@Nutella: ugh I hear you that everyone is KU. My best friend is due three weeks after I would have been. My last pregnancy, my brother and SIL were due the same day as us. After we lost our Ava, I couldn't even talk to them. They ended up having a little girl which broke my heart and it took me 3 months to go visit my niece. I feel sad every day that people around me are having no problems having babies.

@KrzyRiver: I hope your appointment goes well tomorrow. I'm so eager to TTC again too but am so petrified of losing another. My next appointment is Friday. I'm so sick of ultrasounds. I just want this to all be over.

After our last loss, we were referred to the fertility clinic. We have an appointment for December 21st. I don't even know if we should bother trying before then. Maybe there is something wrong with us. We have one perfect little DD but maybe our other three losses are trying to tell us something.

Man it feels good to get some of this off my chest. It's so hard to talk about this stuff IRL. Everyone always says "Oh you must be so thankful for your daughter". Well obviously! I can still be upset about my losses though.

@illumina: We took time off after our loss in May. I couldn't handle the thought of trying straight away so we booked a holiday for November and tabled it till then. We started trying this month but I was ready two cycles ago.

@illumina: I'm so sorry for your loss. We've followed my doctor's instructions to wait 6 months following our 23 week loss, but I've discussed that with others on this board and my doctor is a complete outlier with recommending such a long waiting period. I'm sure we could have tried sooner but to be honest I was emotionally wrecked for months and this upcoming cycle, at exactly 6 months, is the first time I've felt emotionally "ready." I've been reading the book "Pregnancy after a loss" by Carol Lanham and just finished the section on making the decision to TTC again - at one point she sort of recommended waiting 6+ months but then immediately disclaimed that and shared that she didn't wait nearly that long following her full-term loss. I think it all comes down to what/when feels right for *you*

@delight: I'm so sorry to see you back here, and I'm so sorry for the misoprostol complications. It's just so unfair. I also think about our baby multiple times a day, and am stunned that so many people IRL are surprised that I'm still grieving. It's so hard to talk to people, about this or about anything, really.

@Nutella: @KrzyRiver: I'm so sorry for your hard days, I've totally been there and it's so hard to push through. I also have times when I wonder if getting pregnant will make me feel better/less sad, I think that's totally normal. And I also feel like my poor DH bears the brunt of my venting. *hugs* I hope tomorrow is a better day.

Well I got a faint bfp this morning. I'm super excited but more nervous than anything. I wanted this so badly, but now I just want time to speed up.

@Zbug: Congrats!!!