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@sslm: it went very well today! I honestly think it was harder on her than it was on me. I think she has been starved for adult talk, especially with a girl. I left feeling very positive about everything. As much as I want our baby, and we would be about 28 weeks now, I know it is not the right thing right this moment. I have faith that we will have our baby very soon and that will be the right time.

@alison206: It's true! You don't hear too much about miscarriages until it happens to you and then you hear EVERYONE's story and realize that you are not that alone.

There were several families at my school that experienced a loss just like we had. One family lost their baby at 30 weeks.

On happy news, I am on 2nd cycle post MC, which means, we are trying now!

@alison206: It does seem to go by so slowly. this last month was the loooonnnnngggest for me. We were waiting for school to get out (I'm a teacher), waiting to start the 2nd cycle, waiting to announce about my new position, waiting for summer.....just waiting. Clearly, I'm not that patient of a person, so I feel like this is something I am supposed to work on this summer, but man, it's difficult! Luckily, I made it through. Now we will see how patient I am dealing with this TTC business again.

@jholler25: My doctor cleared me once i started my 2nd cycle....today is CD 1. My poor hubby woke up to me saying that I had horrible cramps, but happy news that we can start trying again. Luckily, he is used to me and loves me so he puts up with it.

I don't know if I'm going to use the CBEFM right away. I am trying to be chill about it, but it's already not working. I think I'm going to try and not worry about it for a few months and then see what we need to do. It took us 3 mths the first time, so hopefully it will be right along those same times. I am going to try and watch ovuluation dates and make sure I'm with hubby....his schedule is so crazy right now, but since I'm out of school now it should work out. Thanks for the support and prayers! I'm going to try and keep quiet about it all until we are 'out of the woods' whenever it happens again. I know that I will be on here a ton since I won't be able to talk about it in real life.

@alison206: I'm really glad you got a new doctor, I remember it sounded like your last one was pretty insensitive. After my MC the doctor I saw that day told me we could try again right away. But once I talke to my primary OB after my labs came back, she told me I needed to wait a cycle. I was really upset at first and wanted to just ignore her warnings. But I ended up listening and skipping the cycle. I'm really glad I did. It gave both my body and my mind some time to recover. If we had gotten pregnant right away and something bad happened I would have always blamed myself for rushing things. We ended up getting pregnant the very next cycle and I'm 16 weeks today. Fingers crossed everything looks good so far. I know the feeling of just wanting to move on and get pregnant again so badly. And you should do what you feel is best for you, just wanted to give you that perspective.

Yesterday was the family get together that I was dreading and it turned out to be great. I avoided that cousins' and their baby for the first bit of the get together, but after an hour I was holding the baby adn feeding her a bottle. She ended up taking a nap while I was holding her and I had her for several hours while she slept. Hubby stood next me and kept smiling at her. He later told me that I was very natural and it looked good seeing me with a baby. (cue heart melt) Now, he is anxiously awaiting ours.

@alison206: I have the CBEFM and I decided pretty much the same thing you did. I'm not going to use it right away. I'm going to relax and just enjoy trying.

You do what's right for you and your hubby! Don't listen to us if you guys have it decided. But, know that we are all cheering you on with crossed fingers for good luck!

We will have our 'optimal' timing right before July 4th and I'll be here the entire week. Perfect or what?!?

@SSLM: I haven't had any blood work done since before the d&c. I am going in tomorrow but I don't think they're planning on doing any. I think they assume the d&c would take care of that.

I'm beyond frustrated right now with the lack of period. Today is a great yet difficult day. My best friend just found out she is pregnant. I am SO happy for her and I think she is the only person I could be happy for right now. I'm sad because I so badly want to do this together, I know we can if I would just get my period so we can get back to TTC. @Jennimac: the teacher in me says I need to wait to July to try so I have an april/may baby however I so badly want to be pregnant again so I can move on.

@jennimac: I agree - I just want the baby. I don't care how it effects work. We've been getting medical bills and our latest one calls my procedure a missed abortion. really? ugh.

@jennimac - that would have been wonderful. We are looking at $1,000.00 in bills. Such is life!
I go tomorrow to meet with a new midwife and Tuesday is my post op apt. I am anxious to ask about my period (or lack of it) and where we go from here. Sadly, I am wondering if maybe we got pregnant without a period but I don't "feel" pregnant so I am not going to test here. I'm going to be honest and let them know that we continued our married, no bc life and see if they want to test. My hopes are low, but they are still there. :-\

@sslm: hugs! It is very difficult. My friend that just had her baby early has complained about her difficulties, etc and it's taken a lot for me to bite my tongue and not say, "at least your. Baby is here. " I know she is going through a lot and I'm not into a 'let's see who has it worst' contest. It is just what we are dealt. Ours is hard enough and people know. I cant imagine if people didn't know. (I hope you don't think I'm awful for thinking that about my friend)

@alison206: fingers crossed for 'good ' news!!!!!

@alison206: what a good friend! It's hard to hear/see the results. When I knew I was starting my first cycle post-MC, I cried. I stayed home and just cried. I was excited because that meant we were cleared to start trying again, even though we waited an additional month, but it was still hard.

@alison206: Thanks! There are days when I feel like I'm not that strong, but it's all good.

Your husband's response is adorable. Mine said, "Well, this is what we want and need to move forward, right?" and I had to agree with his positive thinking. You do have to move forward and unfortunately, you have to have a little sadness to do that, but the end result is worth it.

I was already freaking out that starting 4 days early this month would mess us up. Honestly, it's not even a good time for us, but I was so worried that we weren't going to even have a try. My husband was like, "Why all the worry if we don't even know anything yet?" he is right. I told I'm not going to worry. i don't know what my body will do and who knows, it may end up being perfect timing. Oh, but it's so hard to remember that I'm not going to worry about it and stress. So hard.