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@SSLM: I didn't know you had a miscarriage! I'm so sorry.

I'm in. I'm in my first month trying after a miscarriage at the end of Jan. Having a miscarriage makes TTC a lot more scary and stressful than it was the first time around. Ill be testing tomorrow
(two days before my period is due). By boobs are REALLY sore and tender and I've been having waves of nausea but I've also been crampy so I don't know what to think. I'm just praying that when we do get pregnant again that it sticks. I don't think I could handle another loss.

@MamaMoose: So exciting, wishing you the best! I got pregnant on my first try after a miscarriage, it was amazing! But I was also sooooo terrified the entire time. You never stop worrying, LO is 8 months and I still feel her tummy every night before I go to bed to make sure she's breathing!

@sslm: I don't remember if I've already told you this, but for me it really helped to do something to get some closure. I feel like with miscarriage it's hard to grieve when there's no funeral or anything like that. Jews use rocks on gravestones instead of flowers, so I found a rock that I love and wrote a message on the bottom of it for my LO. I have it out front so I can always see it and remember him (never found out the sex but I swear it was a boy!). I've also heard of people planting trees, or you can make a little memory box or something. Good luck!

@MamaMoose: Wow, congrats! Wishing you a sticky baby! It is very hard not to freak out. I actually had a lot of bleeding with LO so I ended up in the ER and I told my husband that we weren't going to be able to have a baby and I said that I didn't even want to try anymore after that because it's just too hard. But luckily everything was ok, it was just a bubble in my placenta, and LO is here and healthy! You'll get your LO too, so excited for you!

We waited through one normal cycle and then started trying again on the next cycle. My cycles were normal right away (i.e. my period came 29 days after my miscarriage started). If you don't get to normal right away you should probably check with your doctor before trying again.

Thanks for the encouragement ladies. I just need to try to relax and think happy thoughts. Chances are this should work out, but every time I have a feeling similar to how I felt last time I get frightened.

@sslm: The doctor said we could start TTC again after I got my period once. I had a very long miscarriage process, first I tried pills and then I had to have 2 D&C's. It took months! It sucked, but it gave me a lot of time to grieve, and the physical pain matched the emotional, which in an odd way helped. By the time I was allowed to start TTC again, I felt very ready.

So sorry for your losses everyone!

I was SO terrified to TTC again after my miscarriage. Then, when I got pregnant again, I was convinced it would not end well...until we had our anatomy scan! Well, now I'm 30 weeks pregnant : ) My only advice is it gets easier with time (and the same goes for when you get pregnant again - every day the fear gets a little easier).

@msmug: Thank you!

I know how hard it can be to feel jealous when other people get pregnant. Honestly, I think that's normal and OK. As long as you are still outwardly supportive and I think it's fine to feel a little jealous on the inside.

Hopefully all of us will have sticky babies soon. I think that's the best cure to the difficult feelings.

@sslm: I'm sorry you are still hurting. I know how hard that is. I hope everything goes well Friday.

I just started cramping with some very mild spotting so unfortunately I think I'm miscarrying again. I'm terrified I will never be able to maintain a pregnancy... I'll find out tomorrow what's going on exactly.

@sslm: So sorry for your loss!
After my miscarriage, I got pregnant right away (BFP about 8 weeks after miscarriage). And still, I sometimes miss the first baby.
Good luck with your blood tests. It took me 3 weeks to get back to "normal" but for me (as for artbee) the physical pain helped me have a "good" (tangible) reason to cry.

@artbee: That is a beautiful idea. And you're right. Mourning is so important in healing.

@winniebee: I was terrified until my car accident at 28 weeks--seriously the majority of this pregnancy I've worried about this little guy, but now I'm finally enjoying him (9 weeks to go!) TTC and pregnancy after a miscarriage are both a little different than TTC and pregnancy "as usual." BUT actually miscarriages are so common, I think you will get a lot of support on this thread.

Good luck ladies!

@MamaMoose: Good luck. I hope you and baby are ok. And if not, talk to Running Elley--she's been there, too. Hugs.

Hi all! It's a bummer that we are all part of this group- but I'm happy to have it:) @MamaMoose- congrats!:) I'm sending good sticky baby vibes your way.

I miscarried at 6 weeks on Feb 15th and am STILL waiting for hCG numbers to go down to zero. Levels had dropped to almost nothing, then started doubling again like a normal pregnancy. 2 weeks later, there was no indication that I'd have a normal pregnancy (or viable) so I was given methrotrexate to stop the dividing of cells. I'm going in Friday for what will hopefully be my last beta- praying for a big fat ZERO!

@SSLM, I feel you on wanting to just get on with the TTC! We were told to wait until I had one period. It's been about 6 weeks and my Dr said that if it hadn't happened naturally he'd give me Provera to jump start my cyc,le. I'm going to ask about it after my hCG levels hit zero.

mY two best friends are pregnant and I'm struggling with keeping my jealousy at bay:( I am SO SO SO happy for both of them- they both will be amazing moms and I can't wait to celebrate with them, but I really, REALLY wanted to be pregnant. Hoping that things happen quickly once we start TTC again.

Miscarriages are so hard and some days your emotions seem to be all over the place. The hardest for me is seeing all these pregnant women out and about, it was like a bunch wherever we went. Miscarriages make your next pregnancy so hard, because even if you try to stay positive in the back of your mind you are just so nervous and looking for any sign. I think this forum is great support and most of all, it is ok to feel all your feelings negative or positive. Also, it is ok to let yourself have a bad day. Best wishes for everyone on here.

@sslm: I have days like that too. When all I can think about is that I would have a two year old right now, or a one year old. It sucks, doesn't it?

@sslm: I'm sorry you are having a rough time. It's ok to be mad. I know I was. I know it doesn't help much but it's likely that your body knew something just wasn't right. Hopefully we will all get sticky babies and come out ok on the other side of this.

My blood work came back good today (more than doubled from Mon). I got back Friday to make sure things continue to go well. I'm hoping to be an example that things can go well even after experiencing a loss. I'm still scared because of the experience. My doc tried to convince me today that I need to go on antidepressants because I'm not handling the anxiety well. I'm trying to hold off if I can though for the safety of the baby.

@sslm: You created the group! Thanks for mentioning that you were considering it on my wall

Hubs and I miscarried in August, were told to wait 2 cycles, and have been trying since. I'm in the middle of a TWW and want this to be it for so many reasons...not the least is that my insurance runs out at the end of the year and this cycle would give us a Dec 4 due date. I hate that we're all in this group, but glad to be with friends!