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I'm so sorry for your loss. We waited a cycle after our first two losses like my midwife suggested (losses at 10 and 12 weeks), but I remember asking what would happen if we happened to get pregnant during that month, and my midwife said that realistically, it would be fine. I also had a chemical (4 weeks) and we went back to TTC right away after that. I think if you are feeling ready, it is probably fine, it would just be harder for you to have a good sense of when you are ovulating. I never had to test down to zero though, so not sure how that would be affected.

I had a loss at 6 weeks and my doctor told me there was no need to wait after I tested down to zero which I want to say was around a week or so. I used opks and they were accurate for me. I ended up getting pregnant that cycle and didn't have any issues. Sorry for your loss. I can relate to just wanting to be pregnant again.

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a blighted ovum and subsequent natural miscarriage around 8 weeks this summer. At my follow-up appointment, my OB recommended waiting after I got my period to start TTC. He said it was purely for mental health/dating reasons, but at that same appointment, he also confirmed that my uterine lining was already at a normal level, so I can't comment on whether there might be physical reasons that simply didn't apply to me. I ended up getting my period exactly 28 days after my first day of bleeding (which was a few days before the actual miscarriage), so it wasn't a long wait.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had two losses (a natural loss in June 2015 and a D&C in December 2015) and I tried immediately after both. With the natural loss, I was not given any restrictions. With the D&C, I was told that I'd ideally wait until after I got my first period (which was advice I didn't heed). I was told that the rationale was that with a D&C, there can be some bruising in the uterus that could theoretically cause a subsequent miscarriage. I did end up pregnant again that first cycle after the D&C and am currently 37 weeks. Things were a little dramatic at the beginning of this pregnancy because I did have a subchorionic hematoma (a bruise in my uterus) that they had to monitor during the first trimester but it was small and healed on its own fairly quickly. This wouldn't have been a concern it sounds like if I'd had a natural loss rather than a D&C. Dating was a little trickier as well because my last period was the first after my D&C (though less confusing than if I hadn't had any period after the D&C, which happens to some) but they just ended up assigning a due date based on the first ultrasound so it wasn't really that much of a challenge.

I did ovulate before my HCG levels zeroed out but they were fairly low. I did post this same question on the TTC after a Loss thread and many other ladies suggested that your body will tell you when you are ready and if it's too soon, then likely nothing will happen that month. I also know that it can be easier to conceive after a loss because of the elevated progesterone levels that are lingering from the prior pregnancy. However, some losses can take more time for hormones to regulate than others. After my first loss, I had a big progesterone deficiency but after my second I bounced back quickly it seemed from a hormonal perspective. Obviously, I'm in the final stretch of pregnancy and things have been fairly uneventful other than that initial hematoma so I have no regrets for trying. Best of luck! Hope it happens quickly for you!

I'm very sorry for your loss. I've had 4 miscarriages, and I've always waited a month until we started trying again. Part of it was emotional healing, but I also wanted to give my body a chance to recover as well.

We immediately resumed ttc after we lost our first pregnancy at 6 weeks. I got pregnant with our daughter that cycle. I have pretty clear ovulation signs and a very regular cycle. That cycle was no different.

After my daughter was born, my period returned at 10 months. I got pregnant again the following cycle, miscarried again at 6 weeks, got pregnant again immeadiately, miscarried at 5 weeks...and am now not sure if I want to ttc immeadiately or wait until I'm done breastfeeding my 13 month old, in case that's the issue.

I'm honestly not sure whether waiting or ttc immeadiately is better.

@LindsayLou: I had no trouble getting pregnant while BF. Staying pregnant was a different story though, unfortunately.

@peachykeen: Checking for low progesterone isn't standard protocol for a loss. I have a diminished ovarian reserve, which is the reason behind my recurrent losses, so all of the various testing I have done after these losses was at an RE's office to start down the path of considering fertility treatments. This pregnancy occurred naturally before starting any treatment, which is why I believe that theory that you are more fertile after a loss due to the progesterone.

I am waiting only because I know my body is completely out of whack after losses. My cycles are all over the place, and I know my hormones are low (confirmed by a doctor that focuses on finding the underlying causes of infertility).

I had a loss in August and just finished my second post loss cycle, and would still be scared to get pregnant knowing how low my hormones are. We'll be working on correcting that for a couple months before going back to femara and trying again.

I MCed at 9 weeks, had a D&c and got pregnant the next cycle. I miscarried and got pregnant the very next cycle. LO is healthy and thriving

@peachykeen: I think we're around the same timeline. I had a MC last week as well and want to try again right away. I started bleeding last Saturday the 8th and am still lightly bleeding. The last wondfo pregnancy test i took was medium dark... but that was a couple days ago so maybe it's lighter now.

Do you ovulate regularly? I have PCOS so my ovulation is all over the place and for my past 2 pregnancies I used clomid. So i'm not super optimistic that i will even ovulate at all this month, but i'll be testing with opk's just in case

@Shantuck: I didn't know you could ovulate before your hgc went to zero!

@peachykeen: hmmm that's so weird about the opk being positive... Seems so backward to me! Soooo are you going to try tonight or assume it's a fluke?

@peachykeen: I wouldn't feel bad if you don't feel like you need to go through an extensive grieving process. Every person is different. I felt like trying to be upbeat was the best thing for me after my second loss. My husband and I booked a weekend away. I tried to make plans with friends for nights out and make efforts to exercise and eat well. I tried to watch funny movies and listen to happy music with the thought that if I acted upbeat, I'd start to feel upbeat. Everybody is different and you gotta do you.