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It's not quite as tricky as a spouse traveling, but my DH works "restaurant hours" (he'll get home as late as 3-5 a.m. some nights).

When we first started trying I was ovulating over the weekend and didn't realize how convenient that was until my cycle shifted to mid-week.

I think once a fellow bee flew to meet her DH for BD during her fertile week Not feasible for all, so I'm glad to hear he will be home for a while! I hope this will be it for you!

We dealt with this some. I would get so mad when he was traveling during the ideal time. Hope things will work out for you this month!

My DH takes occasional trips for work that can last several weeks. I am always on edge that he is going to get sent away during my FW, and we'll have to miss a month. I go a little crazy over it, but I think TTC drives us all a little crazy. This month he is away until the day or two before I O. I am hoping that this month is it, because we may only get one shot.

@Mrs.KMM: I am the queen of TTC with a traveling spouse, although I am currently pregnant with #2. My husband works offshore, and is gone/home on a 3 weeks on/off schedule. When we were ttc my daughter, I almost went mad. It literally drove me insane to always be worried about his schedule and my eggs:) Even with his erratic schedule, we conceived my daughter in about 9 months, before I had to be committed to an insane asylum from the stress of feeling like it was never going to happen.

With #2, I knew the deal - it would be a timing game - and I just rolled with it. Not to mention that I work full time and have a 21 month old that I'm solo parenting for 3 weeks at a time, so I didn't have the energy to devote to obsessing about it. Our insurance actually covers multiple interventions, and we were getting to the point of looking at our options because we were recently diagnosed with "Geographical Infertility" (lol- it's a real diagnosis!) by the RE that I saw just to get established with. We started NTNP in December of last year. But I only had a couple of cycles where we were able to give it a legit shot because he was home. Most of the time, my husband left 4 or 5 days before I ovulated, and was gone for 3 weeks, so that was always a no-go. When I mapped out his schedule for the rest of the year, August was the last month he would be home when I ovulated. So I used the CBE smileys for the first time since we were ttc #1, and we were so blessed to get pregnant! If we wouldn't have, we were very seriously going to look at options with the RE, simply because he would never be here at the right time, and I am 34 so I'm no spring chicken and we'd like to get the show on the road:)

So I guess all that is to say that even with geographic infertility, we still have one sweet girl and one on the way, and it didn't end up taking forever with either:)

Good luck!

@NorCalWayfarer: Awww, thank you! Congratulations on your new baby!!!!

@PrincessBaby: congrats! We have missed ya!

@Mrs.KMM: my DH has the same exact schedule. We just got lucky and I got my positives on Sunday so we got up early Monday morning before his flight and made a baby. It was our third cycle. I don't know how long it would have taken if we didn't lucky with my O day. Hugs. I know it is hard.

@Mrs.KMM: hubby is a consultant too, with the exact same schedule. It took us a while, and was frustrating, but it eventually worked. We found that our chances seemed to alternate each month -- one month we'd have good odds, and the next would pretty much be no chance of it working due to timing. Noticing this pattern helped a bit with our expectations in the off months, though it was still an emotional roller coaster.

Good luck!

We both travel. I travel every Mon-Tues of every single week. DH travels one week on, one week off. We've had 2 months where we completely missed fertile week due to one of us being gone. You just hope for positives when you're both in town! We're still ttc #1 though, so it hasn't been rainbows and sunshine just yet! ((hugs))