just curious - those of you who have given birth vaginally - just how often do tears happen? and why does it happen? (is there any way to prevent)... i just told my husband this morning that i think i'll try to give birth to our twins naturally, unless one of the babies is not facing the correct way. tears definitely scare me. someone i knew ripped it so bad it almost went down to her butthole. i'm SCARED! but like my husband has said, trillions of women have done this over time. i know i know, but i'm still scared.