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This was my biggest pet peeve after having a baby! Most people were super accommodating and seemed to understand that there would be times of the day that were better for me and the baby and times that wouldn't, and worked around my schedule. But then there was this ONE person that wanted it on THEIR schedule and when I wouldn't give it, tried to guilt me into it!

This is the time to start sticking up for what's right for YOU and your family! Don't let others walk over you because they'll never stop doing it!

I’m an introvert so I personally wanted no visitors while baby was sleeping. That was time for me. To sleep, to watch Netflix, to shower, etc. If someone wanted to visit I insisted it was when the baby was awake.

My bro and his gf overstayed their welcome their first visit. I didn’t give them a set time to come, but in my mind I figured 2 hours would be there max visit time. Based off that max time I told them the latest they could come over. In those early weeks DH and I split evening duties so each person could get a 4-5 hour stretch of sleep. When the visit started impacting our routine I kicked them out. I could have let them stay a little bit longer, but that meant I would have to nurse the baby in my bed again and the sofa was more comfortable. Make the visits work for you!

@MsBAM: I know I said this to you before but this one person who is keeping the baby up - and I say this to be helpful not to be mean - that’s on you. If baby is due for a nap you take the baby from the other person, say it’s nap time, say “night night Grandma!” and leave the room. There’s no such thing as a visitor keeping the baby up.

Period. I’m assuming the person is MIL
No one dictates your baby’s schedule but you. If she can’t respect that or throws a fit, she no longer visits. End of story.
You have to set these boundaries now so that they don’t come back and bite you later. YOU ARE THE PARENT.

@MsBAM: yep I feel you - it’s a royal pain when people don’t leave! I’m almost scarred from the time I had a sleeping baby, my older child at daycare and a whole afternoon to sleep (2 weeks old)... and a friend wouldn’t leave! I quickly learnt after that to meet that person out of the house!
I agree with sweetiepie though, you probably just need to push back if it’s nap time. People will understand if they are onto it. And if they don’t, they will get over it once they go home and sleep for many continuous hours at night!