Just being nosy. 
My DH and I were set up by a mutual coworker, so we weren't friends first.
What about you?
Including a poll, but feel free to elaborate.
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we were friends with benefits first
We met at work, I made fun of his old man suits and combover he was not rocking on his campaign trail. Then we ended up doing it in the back of his Subaru
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@Sams Mom:
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@crazydoglady: since then we've lost the comb over, ugly suits, and the Subaru (he might have caught a lot of flack from my family of hot rod people
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@Sams Mom: haha love this!
We didn’t live in the same city when we met (at a mutual friend’s Christmas party) so it was kind of all or nothing and I went for it!
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I would say yes, we met through a mutual friend and hung out in a group a few times though we lived states apart. Then we began dating long distance after lots of AIM convos and texts
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Yup, we met in college. We were friends for 6 months before we got together (although he had a crush on me for most of that time
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We were friends for a month before we started dating.
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Yep! We met in college and I had another boyfriend at the time. We were friends for a few months and got together shortly after my previous relationship ended.
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@Sams Mom: I seriously want the full story (you can leave out the particulars in the Subaru
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We met the summer after I graduated high school, but I was into another guy at the time who I started officially dating a month later. We were friends for 6 years. One week after I dumped previous BF, DH and I started dating. We were married almost exactly 10 years after we first met!
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@crazydoglady: not super exciting
I worked at one end of the building, he worked at the other. I had heard that one of the guys over there was running for Congress. So of course I had to go check out the barely old enough to run for political office dweeb we had on our hands.
I found him at the time clock one day, all decked out in his double breasted circa 1990 suit that was at least 2 sizes too big with a bouffant comb over. I had some smart assed remark, and he popped one right back at me. I decided to creep him, he seemed like my kind of people. So I added him on Facebook, messaged him a couple times, asked what he was doing this weekend. He said nothing, so I told him we're going camping... Case of beer and the middle of BFE later and we're friends/acquaintances with benefits 🤷♀️.
I was 23 and in my longest dry spell since jumping on the ole sloot wagon, and figured why the hell not
Later his parents and campaign management tried to get him to ditch me because they were convinced I was a plant from the competition trying to distract him from his campaign and all that bullshit. But that's another story, another day, and one of 422,456 reasons we are no contact with the ole in laws.
Funny thing is a friend's girlfriend tried to set me up with him just by pointing him out and I laughed and said "nope, that's not my type" and walked away. Come to think of it, she was probably trying to set us up because she knew I would have done her boyfriend in a heartbeat if she wasn't a factor 🤷♀️
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@Sams Mom: Whoa! That's incredible!
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@Sams Mom: more details... he was rocking a comb over? What’s the age gap between you two? You all have been together since the last century!
How did the campaign/ political aspirations turn out? As for me and my husband we met online almost 10 years ago. We were both looking for a serious relationship. Looking back I see the bendfit of being friends first, but honestly I have never dated a friend. So maybe just taking things slower to make sure there is true friendship besides deep like is a good idea, but how do you take things slow when you feel you are all in?
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: he's 2 years older, it's not a real combover so much as a drastic part with way too much hair. So it looked like a giant mushroom shaped combover. He only took 23% of the votes in the primary, which I'm a little glad because this girl doesn't have the filter for political life, and no longer has the figure for trophy wife
At the time he wanted to be like?/his dad was so overbearing in his life; that he bought suits based on his dad's opinions... And it took a LOT of time for him to unlearn that just because it was expensive doesn't mean it was the best choice and definitely shouldn't be held onto... Just because it was expensive.
I have said from probably day 7 ish, he's an old man at heart. "70 year old trapped in a 25 y/o body" or "he was born with a 40 year old soul"
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Yes - we met in university. He lived with friends from my program, and had a girlfriend. We were friends for about a year before we got together.
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Nope, we met via online dating!
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I guess I'd say yes... for a brief period. We met via friends and played on a co ed softball team. So we saw/met each other prior to getting together. We weren't like texting/phone call friends or anything prior to dating.
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Yes, also met in university. We lived in separate dorms for first year and met through mutual friends. We moved with 5 other friends to an off campus house for our 2-4th year. We had quite a few drunken hookups and snuck around sleeping in each other’s rooms to hide (not very well!) from our roommates. And then spent a torturous summer apart when we both went back to our respective hometowns
When we came back to school, we had ‘the talk’ and started officially dating and stayed through the summer from then on out. So we have never not lived together after we became a couple!
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No, met on a camping trip through singles groups. It didn't help that we lived 5 hours apart.
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We were friends first mostly because I was “that girl” who was always dating someone else. We have a long history - technically we met in middle school! But even though he swears he remembers me I don’t remember him (too shy).
We were introduced at a friends grad party in high school (with my boyfriend in tow). Then again a few years into college at another party (at same friends house). I was yet again dating someone else but I hung out with him and his friends for the whole night. I found/stalked him on FB after that and we became friends. He was home for an internship that summer and we hung out several times. Movie nights, concerts, watching dumb shows with friends till late at night. Again, I was dating yet another person who was not him, but when we broke up that winter he invited me up to his city to come to a house show with a band he thought I’d like. I fully intended to find one of his friends and let off some steam but ended up hanging out with him all night. The next morning we met up again for breakfast and before I left for home we kissed. The next weekend he came to see me, and that’s that.
13 years later (10 years married) and here we are! The friend who introduced us over and over was my maid of honor -
We were work colleagues first and although mutual interest was palpable, we managed to not to start dating until 3 months after we met.
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@Sams Mom: we also were friends with benefits. Our friends set us up because we were both sad from breakups
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My husband and I met online. Not friends first, went on 2 dates then were pretty much inseparable.
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He's my childhood best friend's older brother...so I've known him since forever ... I guess you could say we were friends first...sort of?
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Yup! Dating other people when we met. Friends for about 5 months. Ditched the others and bam
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Nope. Just met super randomly. Basically on the street.
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Not really. We attend the same schools since elementary school, but we did not hang out together at school. We both had other serious relationships, and our respective other relationships were not happy with us being friendly. We went on a couple dates in HS then when he went to college now it’s been permanent since 2003.
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@Sams Mom: Wow this is so interesting and oddly romantic ! Hollywood should make a movie of you guys! Now you make me extremely interested which politician is your DH
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I voted yes; but we weren't close friends; close to acquaintance
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Not friends first, strictly romantic.
How did the campaign/ political aspirations turn out? Reply
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