I wasn't and never knew anyone that was growing up.
What's your feelings on it? Do you plan on homeschooling your children?
But now I know quite a few and "they" are just like you and me!
(totally teasing/joking btw)
I wasn't and never knew anyone that was growing up.
What's your feelings on it? Do you plan on homeschooling your children?
But now I know quite a few and "they" are just like you and me!
(totally teasing/joking btw)
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coconut / 8483 posts
I only know my cousins who were. They are the stereotype of homeschooled kids x 10. They are 22 and 19 now. Don't drive. Don't work. Still live with My their mom, who still lives with my Grandma!!! Don't talk. Incredibly shy. I asked my Gran what they do all day and they "play" in their room and sing.
Not sure what is going to happen to them all when my Gran passes away, as even their mom that never moved out doesn't know how to drive.
It's a horrible situation.
HOWEVER my aunt is crazy. Had they been homeschooled by a mom that had some brains/knew what she was doing, I'm sure they'd be totally different!!
ETA: my aunt decided to homeschool my two cousins because her oldest son went to public school and it "ruined him". He is a bit of a weirdo, but he's moved out, married, has kids..
pear / 1998 posts
I went to public school my entire life. I did know quite a few home-school families and coached several home-schooled kids on my swim team. I've also read a lot of home-school blogs, but I don't know if that counts.
I have complicated feelings about homeschooling. In a perfect world (to me), every child would go to and have easy access to wonderful public schools with outstanding teachers where all their needs are met.
But I understand that there are many many many factors that cause people to homeschool (rural areas, children with disabilities or special needs, low socio-economic status public schools, religion - which to me is another issue.) So I do think parents should have the choice. I don't think I would home-school, but you never know.
coconut / 8234 posts
I don't know anyone IRL who was homeschooled. I don't think there's anything wrong with homeschooling but we won't do it since we're both big believers and products of public education. If there was some type of issue where our daughter needed to be pulled out of school then we would think about it.
grapefruit / 4817 posts
I wasn't, but I know quite a few, and sadly, they are all "stereotypical" homeschoolers. But, it seems like they all had parents who homeschooled strictly to keep them closed off from the world, so that has A LOT to do with it.
Some of them seem to be coming around and are less awkward in social situations, but they're all pushing 30 and that's a long time to not know how to go on a date or make friends outside of your family. I think homeschooling can be fine if your parents are doing it to better your education in an area with bad public schools, and who make sure you're involved in outside activities, but it's just cruel to shut your kids up in your house together for days on end because you don't want them hearing cuss words or learning about sex. But that's just my opinion.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I went to public school, private school, and I was home schooled. My brother and sister were home schooled from the beginning. Home school stereotypes annoy me so much. My siblings and I are all well rounded individuals.
I am not sure if I will home school my children yet. I live in a neighborhood with a great public elementary school. It is definitely something that my DH and I will consider before we have school aged children.
coconut / 8305 posts
I was not, but I also quit school my sophomore year. G IS homeschooled and we will homeschool all our kids. Aside from personally being outraged with the school system (public & private) & not believing in it at all (we rank horribly in comparison to other industrialized nations), we homeschool for character, environment, & one on one education.
G would probably fit the "stereotype" but he's always been a tad awkward in social situations & dealt with alot of bullying when in school because of it. He really social & is nice to everyone... doesn't fit the bill for the normal school yard cliques. He attended a very respected private school here & dealt not just with bullying but falling behind. After a horrible year we decided that homeschooling would be the best option.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
I went to a private school for about a year or two, but never homeschooled. I don't plan on homeschooling my kids either.
nectarine / 2765 posts
I was until high school. My mom was previously a teacher & my dad was a pastor so I grew up in a very conservative home. I did grow up surrounded by "stereotypical" homeschoolers (you know, long skirts, bad hair, awkward & obsessed w/Bill Gothard) and I must say some have remained a bit "off" while others have done well. While I was sheltered growing up, I think I made up for it later on (heh) and am rather grateful for having had a fairly innocent childhood. Going to a public high school was a bit of a rude awakening since I'd never been in a school except to vote with my parents. My school was very snobbish & cliquey so making friends was difficult. Having spent four years being an outsider made me much more aware of making others feel welcome & included, since I know how it feels.
I personally won't be homeschooling my kids. I don't have the drive or the commitment to do it & not screw them up. Instead, I'll make sure they go to a good public or private school. Homeschooling can work but its extremely important to make sure they're involved outside the home & not sheltered to the point of social awkwardness, scarring them for life.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
I was homeschooled!!! I think it's a great avenue of education for some families. I don't believe ALL famlies should or could homeschool but it worked really great in my family. We were also a part of a large "group" of homeschoolers that met weekly and all of our moms were very proactive in regards to our education. Some of the homeschoolers I know who are now grown and graduated are some of the smartest and most "socialized" people I know! I would say there are definite differences - generally the homeschool population tends to simply not care as much what others think of them (not a bad thing!) so they may dress differently, be more open, etc but that is definitely something we could all use more of!
We didn't live in a great school district. My mom had my older bro and sis in public school when we lived somewhere else and she loved the schools and teachers. When my dad couldn't find work anymore, we moved closer to the metro area and my siblings education actually REGRESSED. They started doing very poorly when months prior they had been thriving. My mom took them out and never looked back. My siblings and I are well adjusted, socialized, educated, polite, and good people.
My parents of course "sheltered" us in that they wanted us to be children and live in a world of innocence while we were still children but when time came, they weren't afraid to let us "fly on our own". In fact when I announced at 19 years old I was moving from the midwest to Long Island NY on a whim to work for and live with a family I had never met, they said they trusted me and my judgment and were really excited for my endeavor!
Just something to think about: I think the reason so many homeschoolers get a bad rep is because you can't help but notice when a homeschooler is "stereotypical". But how many times did people think I was homeschooled? ZERO. They were astonished to discover I was because of how "normal" I am. I am SURE that the majority of you have met MANY homeschooled families/individuals and just assumed that because there is nothing weird about them, they attended public schools... I believe that the majority of homeschooling families ARE normal... but what homeschooling normal family would make news or be the point of gossip? exactly.
There are just as many ill-adjusted children attending public schools as there are ill-adjusted children being homeschooled.
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honeydew / 7235 posts
I wasn't homeschooled - my mom worked and we lived in a town with an excellent public school system.
But our neighbors now are homeschooled - and the mom is who watches our son during the day. It works out because the kids are older and they have school in the morning and the afternoon is mostly activities -- but the 3 kids (ages 12, 10 and 8) are GREAT KIDS.... they more outgoing and polite and talk more than some of my cousins/nephews do that are in public school... not sure if it's their personality or the way she homeschools but she does an excellent job with it. Their whole day is about learning as opposed to just classroom stuff - it's pretty cool to see.
Our town that we're living in has a great school system but she chooses to home school for them to get more of a christian upbringing... they're one of 15 families in the area and they get together weekly to learn together, I've met some of the other moms and kids and they're all so bright and outgoing...
They've really changed my opinion on homeschooling in general!
honeydew / 7589 posts
I was homeschooled all the way through, and I assure you I am very normal.
And yes, we intend to homeschool our children. Our international lifestyle means it would be tough to do otherwise, but we would anyway.
honeydew / 7091 posts
I wasn't, and I won't.
I wish I could though. It's not in our family plan for me to be an at-home mom, unfortunately. I think I would be a great homeschool mom/teacher (whatever the correct word is...). I would get my kids in groups with other homeschooled kids to get them the socialization the need, and would be able to focus on their education to meet whatever needs they individually had. I remember being SO bored in school, and my sister was WAY too overwhelmed with school lessons. We both could have benefited - me getting faster curriculum, my sister getting slower.
pear / 1693 posts
I was homeschooled from 4th-8th grade because my family lived on a boat and was traveling the world. Before and after I was in public schools. I would consider homeschooling my children depending on the public school system where I lived and my work schedule. I think there are ways to do it that are wonderful and produce great results. I would be very conscious of providing a wide variety of social situations for my children if I went this route, because I think learning social skills is just as important as the traditional education.
pomegranate / 3212 posts
I was not, but my best friend's cousin was until college. She went to Harvard! Growing up we hung out with her after school, and I have to say her parents style of homeschooling seemed smart. They would have get togethers of 5-10 home schooled kids in the community for different classes. English, music etc., Socialization was a huge part of it, which would be important to me. That being said, they were all a bit "Weird" compared to the kids we knew from school, but are doing just fine in the real world now that we're all adults.
ETA - The price for not being weird (in my elementary school) seemed to mean, 8th grade pregnancies, shoplifting and bullying. I was "weird" and I would rather my kids be weird.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
@hellobeeboston: I LOVE hearing stories like that!! way to go - she sounds like an awesome mom and teacher!
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
I went to public school all my life.
When I was in school, I always thought the homeschoolers were a little weird and sheltered.
Now that I'm older, I see no difference. They are just like anyone. I have a good friend that was homeschooled.
I personally couldn't homeschool my children because I don't think I would have the patience. But I'm all for it, if that's what you want to do.
eggplant / 11287 posts
Yes, I was. I know lots and lots and lots of people who were homeschooled.
I can't write a bunch on my phone but we will probably homeschool for only a couple years. We have a great private school close by that we will hopefully be able to afford to send our kids to for most of their education.
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