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Nope. But we're in kind of a unique situation where we've lived together literally since the night we met.
And anyway, he was way more eager to get married than I was!
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Nah
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Nope, never an issue. We moved in together less than a month after meeting, and have been going strong in the 9 years since then
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Nope! I don't believe most men think this way; and I would NEVER marry someone without both living with them and sleeping with them (you gotta be compatible!) first.
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Nope! I am definitely the kind of person who has to live with someone before I marry them. Luckily DH is a great roommate
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Nope!
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I hate that phrase. It's creepy. Lol
I don't have an answer for this question though because we didn't live together before marriage (well, technically we lived in the same house for awhile but not "together" - he lived in my grandparents basement while we were engaged.).
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@yoursilverlining: well said.
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Nope!
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@coopsmama: same same.
I wasn't worried, but we didn't live together or play naked until we were married.
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Is "milk" living together? lol. I had no fear of that having sex would slow our relationship down, but I did refuse to live with him until we were engaged. Not because I was trying to pressure him into marrying me, but just because I had lived with an ex before and it is so messy when you break up. I didn't want to live with anyone again until I was positive that we were getting married. And I wasn't going to be positive we were getting married unless there was a ring on my finger.
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@Arden: agree! It's like women are compared to a heifer at the county fair! Men never get asked these questions
That said DH and I lived together after we were engaged.
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@coopsmama: ditto, girl! glad we did it the way we did! our honeymoon was the most special night ever!
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Never! I hate that phrase. If someone wants to get married or make a commitment, they will. I feel like it just suggests that to get someone to commit you need to hold sex or moving in together over, or whatever, over their head and that's not a positive message, nor do I think it's accurate. Not saying you have to move in together before getting married or have sex. That's a personal preference. But do it whatever way you choose because you want to, not because you're worried about "giving the milk away for free."
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Nope. But I didn't live with DH until a month before our wedding, and then only because we'd relocated several states away. We each had our own places throughout our dating relationship,
But I don't actually think the "milk" in these situations is really living together or sex, anyway. I feel like the "milk" is a woman doing tons of stuff for her boyfriend to prove they are wife material or something. And I do have friends who live with their SOs, do their laundry, pack their lunches, cook them dinner....and freak out constantly about not having a proposal month after month after month. In that case, I do want to tell them that maybe they've made things a little TOO comfortable for their SOs to remain inert on the proposal front.
But what do I know...I wasn't into marriage at all until I met Dh.
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Nope, I might have gotten a little impatient, but never thought he wouldn't marry me....
On the topic of this silly saying, I dislike it, too. I agree with @Anagram - it's someone doing all the housework, etc. to prove their wife-worthiness. I moved in with my SO before we were engaged, but never tried to prove I was good wife material. Ha! What a scam that would have been!
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No because I told him I wouldn't have kids before marriage and he really wants kids!
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Nope, we discussed marriage before moving in together. I basically said flat out I wouldn't live with anyone that wasn't going to marry me and I knew I wanted to marry him so he needed to think long and hard before we did.
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Nope. I feel the same about this as I feel about sex before marriage. You got to try it before you buy it. Life has a shitty return policy.
I will say, if he hadn't have joint the military... we probably never would have gotten married. We probably would have just lived together and had kids and called it good. My choice too, he was the one who wanted to get married.
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Nope, I never worried about this. DH and I were friends first, and we lived together our entire relationship. We knew there was a lot on the line to make it work and that we both wanted our relationship to be it. And 7 months later he proposed :).
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I never worried about it!
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No because I told him I wouldn't resign our lease without a ring on my finger haha
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Nope! Just think it took longer for him to buy the cow since he got the milk for free lol
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haha nope! no "milk" for DH until we got married!
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Nope! We were engaged before we lived together.
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Never even crossed my mind. I mean, who wouldn't want to marry me?!
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Nope. We lived together first but I knew he was more eager to get married than I was. I wouldn't have considered marrying someone that I hadn't lived with.
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