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Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. I think a lot of fights can be avoided that way.

Spend the time to connect with your spouse even if it's just for a few minutes at a time throughout the day. See how they're doing, let them know you're thinking about them - especially because you're both so busy with day to day responsibilities.

There are so many things I could say (faith-based and non-faith-based) but a good one that helps me is to think of my priorities in this way.

My roles in life, in order of importance, are:

1) wife (spouse)
2) mother (parent)
3) employee (and/or boss)
4) daughter, sister, friend (son, brother, friend)
4) everything else

It's difficult to think about putting my kids below my husband (or ANYthing or one!) but, when your husband's priority is also his kids, it's a good fight. Since you're both naturally prioritizing the kids, fighting to keep each other the top priority naturally gets you to prioritize your marriage.

Stop keeping score and be considerate of each other.

If my DH sees me running around like a nut trying to get things ready for LO either the night before or in the morning, he will help me or ask me what I need help with. I do the same with him if I come down after putting LO down and he's trying to get stuff ready for me for the next morning.

It never hurts to ask if you can help, and if you're burned out, it's easier to be understanding if you just need to sit down for 5 minutes while the other person is doing things.