Do you ignore or do you sit with your LO and talk to them?
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Ignore.
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Ignore
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Ignore. Time outs are for reflection. When the time out is over, I do a quick little, "have you thought about it? how do you feel? Let's not do it again. I love you" *hug*
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@.twist.: Do you ever extend time outs? Like my toddler was being really naughty at dinner time and was throwing her cup and spoon on the floor, rinse and repeat and she was ignoring me. I put her in time out but she was still hysterical after 2 minutes....would you extend?
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@autumnlove: I probably would not extend the time out, but direct her to activities to help her calm down and ignore the drama.
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I ignore, but sit and watch her, otherwise she gets up from her chair. If she's really upset, I will try to calm her down by saying "it is almost over, but this is what happens when you don't listen." When she's allowed to get up she always runs to me and gives me a hug and kiss and I'm sorry.
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@autumnlove: I don't extend the first timeout, but I'm not opposed to putting her back in it if she does the same thing again. She gest her warning and if she repeats, she gets another timeout. My view is if she's repeating the bad behavior, I repeat the punishment until she catches on.
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@LuLu Mom: I agree.
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I ignore (for the 1 minute my 19m old is in timeout). Then I talk to him, we hug and move on.
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@autumnlove: Hm. Since she's so young, ( I deal with 7 & 10 year olds, which don't do time outs any more, but did when they were 4+), I might TRY this: With the boys, I would go over and say "if you don't stop this right now you will have to sit here for another x minutes." Usually they would stop and could go about their business. IF it didn't work, they would sit for another x minutes.
If that fails, I would do as others suggested and just try to redirect to something that will calm her down.
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I am VERY consistent with time outs. Time starts when they stop crying. (he's old enough to understand "stop crying, calm down".) 1 minute for every year they are (so he gets 4, sometimes shorter if I feel like he's done). I stay within eye distance so if he moves or starts goofing off I can yell at him to sit straight with his hands in his lap. After the 4 minutes are up, I go to him and talk him calmly through why he's in time out, what he did, what he should have done, what he's going to do from now on... then have him apologize to me, hug and kiss, then go and apologize to anyone else who was affected. We try to stay consistent that whoever put him in time out is the one who takes him out.
The big problem these days is that LMW always runs over to sit in time out with him and it's too cute! She cheers him up and they start laughing, which is too cute to get angry about or yell at him about. Or if he won't stop crying, she cries too. I can't stop her from going to him...!!
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@mrs. wagon: What about for LMW? Any time outs yet? LO 1 has been really naughty during dinner time!
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@mrs. wagon: lol did you get your time out method from super nanny? that's exactly what we do too. hah!
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@autumnlove: none yet. I am terrified of her!!! I know she won't stop crying. It will be bad....
@.twist.: haha YES!!!!!!!!!!
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@mrs. wagon: Yeah, I have a crier!
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@mrs. wagon: works like a charm!
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@.twist.: You are gonna be a pro for L!
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@autumnlove: haha, we shall see. I'm hoping he's easier because I don't have to deal with brainwashed attitudes of a crazy psycho B*TCH! haha... unless maybe I am one too. lolz.
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DD is 1.5 she gets time outs when she doesn't listen. When we were at the ILs she hit her grandmother. she refused to say sorry so I told her to go and face the door. She went faced the door and I counted to 10, after 5 she turned around and laughed and I told her in a stern voice she will now have an extra 10 seconds and face the door. She cried and faced the door and after her 20 seconds were up she ran to my MIL and gave her a hug.
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@.twist.: My friend's husband has two kids by previous relationships....she says it is soooo hard to deal with discipline with their moms.
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I stand in the kitchen and count every second because every second sucks. She sits in a high chair in the dining room.
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Ignore.
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