I legit just told my baby to stop crying and now I feel bad. 
I would just like to make one phone call, or return one email or get a sip of water.
What do you do when you are about to "lose it?"
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@simplyfelicity: walk away. Put the baby somewhere safe and get what you need. He won't suffer from crying for a minute or two. I admit to yelling at my daughter in the middle of the night one time when she was about 2 months old.
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With my first, I would just put him down in the crib and go somewhere else. I'd tell myself 5 minutes, but usually it was more like 1 or 2 before I had calmed down enough to go get him. He was a hard baby. Sometimes I'd call someone and ask them to take him on a walk or hold him so I could go on a walk or anything. Sometimes I just held him and cried, and felt better after I had done so.
Some days are hard. Thinking of you, Mama.
P.S. I may or may not have sworn...loudly...at my first son in the middle of the night. Probably more than once. He still loves me.
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I agree with others-- put baby in a place where you know they'll be safe (crib usually) and walk away. For me I would either breathe deeply, cry, or scream into a pillow. Then start over.
Hugs to you. It's so hard.
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Don't beat yourself up. If my DH is there I hand her off to take a breather. If he isn't, I'll strap DD into her bouncer with a pacifier and toy and just let her cry for five minutes while I decompress. It's not going to traumatize your child to cry for a little while so you can tend to your mental health. You'll be a better parent if you recognize when you need to come first.
I also have snapped and told my DD to stop crying, but I try to deal with it better now and she's still a happy baby. We're all going to make mistakes and lose our temper. We just have to keep working on our patience and understanding.
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Hugs. When E was a few months old I yelled at him, and slammed his door when I stormed out (he was in his crib). I walked outside and took about 2 minutes to just breathe until I got myself under control. I felt so guilty, but I needed to rein my temper in or I'd do something I'd really have regretted.
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@Jess1483: me 100%!
it's rough. even the most prepared mamas get frustrated and/or feel lost. it's a thankless job, but you do it best. xoxoxo
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I used to put her somewhere safe, go into my bedroom and punch the bed repeatedly until I either cried or felt better. Usually cried.
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Thanks, all. Apparently, I just needed to start this thread because he is now happily asleep in his swing. I know I have it pretty easy with him, so when he is inconsolable, I don't know what to do.
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@Jess1483: Yep! Even just crying while you hold them can make you feel better. And I definitely swore at Xander more than a few times as a baby. He still loves me!
@simplyfelicity: Hugs, Mama!
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Been there, you are not alone!
I am usually around people when I feel this way so I hand the baby off to DH or my mom or other grandparents if they are around.
Then I take a deep breath and do something on my own for a little bit.
I'm not sure what I would do if I were alone though. Probably just like what others have said put him/her in a safe place and take a breather.
You are doing great mom, don't let these things make you feel guilty. Everyone goes through it!
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I think I've told DD2 to stop crying 5 times this morning. And it's made worse because DD1 is watching me and I don't want her to repeat what I say. We had a REALLY hard morning over here, too but now she's asleep and hopefully big sister will be following suit soon. Hugs!!
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I have always just put her in her crib and walked away for a few minutes. Often I have to go in the other room and sob hard to get the frustration out. I have absolutely yelled at her over things that are just age appropriate for her.
It's unfortunately been happening a lot more lately- she's 2 and we have power struggles and I'm 7+ months pregnant and really hormonal. I still put her in the crib and walk away to calm myself down. Then she will start hugging me and saying "are you ok now, mommy?" And I feel even worse.
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big hugs. parenting is HARD. the last couple months have been so stressful here and I have not been the Mom I want to be, a lot of the time. if I need to regroup, I put the little one somewhere contained (crib, playpen) and a show on for my older one and just catch my breath.
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The best advice I was given as a new mommy is that it is ok to put the baby in the crib and step outside for a minute. They are safe, crying wont kill them, and sometimes just stepping into the garage or the deck for a minute can help you clear your head!
Big hugs!
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Hugs! I've definitely lost my cool many times MOTN... But usually took it out on DH, lol.
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I have lost it a lot since I had 2 under 2. It's hard because the only time I really lose it is when my toddler is smacking or biting the baby, and I can't actually walk away in the moment because it's not safe. I am working on just even taking 10 seconds to calm down before I react. It's tough.
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I really appreciate this thread today. I feel like I'm on the verge of losing it a lot lately as a new mom of two. This morning I was getting very frustrated so I told LO1 that I was feeling very frustrated and he said, 'don't worry mama, it's okay' and gave me a hug. That snapped me out of it. Of course two minutes later he was acting up again lol. Anyway, I agree with all pp. step away for a couple minutes if you can. Deep breathing
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all of the above, or go outside for a minute, sometimes I find taking LO out kind of "shocks" him out of screaming constantly
hugs
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Agree with all the responses! Early on as a parent I would take a couple of nights a week to take a hot bath all alone. DH was under strict instructions to take care of the baby if she awoke and not to interrupt me! It helped SO much at preventing me from getting to that breaking point. That said, crying never hurt anyone, so sometimes I just have to walk away for 5 minutes to get it together!
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Get fresh air and eat a cookie. Sometimes it's so hard. Hang in there mama.
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First of all, hugs to you. We've all been there.
The other day, she dumped THREE cups of water on the floor (even one with a lid that she managed to get off), and I was like, "Jesus Christ!" as a saw the 3rd one hit the floor.
I just apologize to her, and then tell myself to be a better person, and treat her nicely. It's so easy to get frustrated.
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Thank you, all. Great to know I am not alone.
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Hugs!!
I've totally been there...I find walking away helps as well as talking to the babies in a very very quiet voice. It's hard to yell when you are whispering! This works with my toddler a lot.
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If my partner is home I tell him I'm starting to feel on edge and he knows to take over for me and vice versa. If I'm alone with the kids, I put DD in the play-yard and turn the TV on for DS and I walk out of the room for a breather. Oddly enough, sometimes while taking a break I look at pictures of my LOs being cute and it makes me feel better.
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