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@Astro Bee: oh yeah don't get me started on quality of life issues. We are currently paying for their two iPhones because "EVERYONE has an iPhone. We look like complete hillbillies at church because we have flip phones!" We endured that whining for months before my brother and I got them the stupid phones.
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@avivoca: Not cool! It's such a terrible feeling, to feel stuck.
@IRunForFun: Boo! I have been looking for courses to take to perk up my resume, but what I'm looking into can't be done by correspondence. There's always one course I would need to attend in class. Which sucks because I feel like my work would be annoyed that I was taking time off to do something (education wise) other than what they pay me for.
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Oh yeah I said my biggest stressor is my parents but I'm also 16 weeks pregnant and I got a no result TWICE on my Harmony test so now the genetics counselor is pushing me for an amnio which we've refused at the moment but we have to wait through the holidays before my anatomy scan to see if things with the baby are okay. AND my mother who I had been paying to watch my son 3 days a week while I work (to you know, pay her mortgage) quit the week of Thanksgiving so we had an absolute scramble to find childcare when all the centers have wait lists well into 2017 and I can't hire a nanny on that kind of notice during the holidays. Never mind that my 15 month old has never been cared for by anyone but me and my mother and now he needs to go full time to an in home with a bunch of kids and adults he doesn't know. So yeah, thanks to my parents for being so annoying that I can't even worry about my kids.
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@gingerbebe: Ugh....that annoys me for you! I'm sorry.
@.twist.: It is horrible. I just turned down a job offer because I couldn't justify the sacrifices to my quality of life for basically the same pay (long commute, no health insurance offered). I feel like I made a mistake but I'm also glad.
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@avivoca: I feel bad for even hating my job since 10's of thousands of people have been let go in our industry, just in the past 6 months. I justify it, by thinking if I leave, I'll open up a job for someone else. lol I just wish I could even get a call back.
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Money and family.
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I've been really stressed out about my high risk pregnancy and then figuring out how we'll handle child care with a preemie.
Our parents also cause a constant amount of stress for both DH and I.
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Usually money. I recently paid off a HUGE debt and I thought it would feel so good, but NOPE...just worried about the next big thing to pay/save for.
Also house hunting. earlier this year we decided that we could either take a big trip to visit DH's family over the holidays (they live on another continent) or purchase a home. Well....we've had absolutely no luck (but not for lack of trying) on the second front, and now it is obviously WAY too late to purchase tickets/travel. So I am just really bummed about that whole thing. I wanted to celebrate Christmas this year in OUR house, not the dumb rental.
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@gingerbebe: did you have NT scan?
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$$ and how in the hell we are going to pay a second tuition next fall with Baby #2.
And my husband's job. He HATES it. He is so miserable, and it has no PTO, so any time he misses is without pay (see above) but he is so nervous to get a different job because he already left it once and then the new company was bought up 3 weeks in and he got laid off. He wouldn't be able to go back again.
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@sunny: I didn't know you're pregnant! Congrats!! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well and baby is healthy!
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@sunny: I didn't know you were pregnant! Congrats! I hope everything is ok.
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@Autumnmama79: Yes! A little bean measuring perfectly! Thank you for checking on me
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@AprilFool: Yay!!! Best feeling ever, enjoy the rest of your day
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@sunny: congrats on your pregnancy!
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@BandDmommy: no they offered the Harmony in lieu of the NT and I took it twice with no result which I guess studies have shown two no results in a row is an increased risk for there being an abnormality?? So they want an anatomy scan with an MFM at Genetics if I won't do an amnio. I am trying to get a quad screen blood draw which will give me some probabilities before Christmas.
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Work. My boss is a raging psycho and we all constantly walk on eggshells. It's extremely stressful sitting there 8 hours a day not knowing when the next shitstorm is going to hit.
That and that Im the breadwinner.... which is way more stressful than I ever imagined.
Have a job interview in a couple weeks, though, so fingers crossed!
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@gingerbebe: Ugh, how frustrating! Hope they can get you in for testing soon!
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I have general anxiety ... It's my biggest stressor. Especially since it's not something I can seem to manage, and it consumes a lot of my thought.
My job, marriage, life is pretty much great, so not having a "real" reason to always feel anxious is pretty hard.
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I have a job interview tomorrow for a promotion. I am flying to meet with my boss's boss. I am so wound up about it that I can't even think straight.
I'm practically paralyzed by what is ahead of me tomorrow. A one day round trip whirlwind.
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@littlejoy: Oh my gosh, I am right there with you...I do have a couple of stressful things (too long in a HCOL area with only one salary + me in school is the biggest one) but the things I'm anxious about are typically not things I can control. I have talked to my health care provider about it before with not much success, but I've recently been assigned a new PCP so it's probably time to revisit that conversation. Just know I really get it!
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@mediagirl: I'm sorry. I went through a very, very long unemployment stretch in 2008. Very few things are as difficult to get through. Hugs to you
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Money and our apartment. I am still not really comfortable with being a stay at home mom but we can't afford day care for two little guys.
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@loveisstrange: interesting about you being the breadwinner & it being more stressful than you imagined. I wonder if my DH feels this way? He has always earned more than me but now is some breadwinner so I imagine it could be pretty hard on him!
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My biggest worry is probably future money! I'm SAH at the moment due to extended job hunt turning into pregnancy etc...and I love it but I stress about what my new calling will be once LO and future LO are done being little. DH tells me not to stress but it's one of those things that plays on my mind. Especially since I'm in a society that doesn't seem to understand/value SAH parenting
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@Nutella: I think its the pressure of knowing that our financial state rests solely on me. If I do something dumb and get fired, then we're screwed and its 100% my fault. My husband is a full-time student, so he doesn't work at all. He just gets a small monthly stipend from the GI Bill.
When my daughter was born, I was a SAHM and I remember him being fairly candid about him being resentful of his role as the sole provider and his struggle to let go of the money and not think of it as "his" money. I was mad at him at the time for saying that and he was mad that I was home and not contributing as much financially. Now that the roles are reversed, I think both of us understand the other far better. We have each learned that both sides are a hard place to be.
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Infertility. Also, money, mainly related being able to afford infertility treatments.
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@BandDmommy: @oliviaoblivia: @HLK208: thanks ladies
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Weirdly, it's not THAT big of a worry, right now (it's been a bigger concern in the past). I'm feeling pretty good right now, as I usually have a ton of anxiety!
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Not being able to get pregnant, all the money I'm spending trying to get there that should be going to other things, and, most of all, when the time comes that I make the decision to stop trying.
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@Crystal:
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@agold: I can completely relate... Big hugs.
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@Nutella: I know when I was a SAHM it really stressed DH being the primary breadwinner, his bonus alone is more than I make in a year, but it still stressed him out. He makes a very comfortable salary, 6 figures but was always worried about the what if. I started WAHM to ease the stress plus I missed making money.
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@agold: @Crystal: *hugs*
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@BandDmommy: thanks for this. I'm going to ask him about it tonight - it seems like the kind of thing he would stay quiet over, especially as he is the super laid back type in general! I'm glad we are able to do this now but I also look forward to earning my own money again someday
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Every morning. Every. Single. Morning. No matter how early we start the daily routine, we always seem to leave the door rushing. At almost 3.5 yrs old, LO is constantly disagreeing with something - every piece of clothing, then she always manages to try to bring a toy to class (no matter how well we hide things away) and it's always a different random toy/article. But most of the time, she's super playful and it's a game to just put on clothes. It's exhausting! She's also not completely potty trained, which adds a whole other dimension. To really keep me on my toes, there are days when we manage to get ready early - but then she whines about leaving and it's too early! That usually results in her playing with her toys and then it's even harder to leave. The stress is much less now that she eats breakfast at school and I'm taking a later bus, but it's still so, so stressful. Being a full-time student doesn't help any
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Marriage can be stressful at times.
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